we have been dating for 4yrs and i have become good friends with his family.i hear stories about how great he was with his old gfs(sending flowers at work,boxes for cards,love letters,little romantic gifts ect)in the 4 yrs we have been dating i got flowers once(with me hinting alot) and one card for my b-day with just his name signed.why is this?i don't expect expensive gifts just something to let me know hes thinking about me when i'm not with him.i do it to him all the time.i know some guys just don't do stuff like that but he allways did for his other gfs so whay not me?
2007-02-10 04:37:55 · 6 answers · asked by karenbshy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Look at it this way. He did these nice things for his ex...women he is no longer with. He doesn't do these things with you, and he's managed to hold on to you for four years. Sounds like YOU have the better end of the stick, here.
I have to wonder why they're telling you all this. It's extremely rude and mean of them. Also, they might not know the whole story. Perhaps, at that time, that's what he thought love was. But with you, he knows what it really means.
2007-02-10 07:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't be bribed, I gave you a megastar for merely sharing your concern with our little nook of the international. It shows some bravery to be susceptible and show very own problems. confident, being taken with none attention is probable the case, or a minimum of portion of it. became he with different ladies as long as with you and have been they as close to to his family members as you're? If no longer, perhaps the present-giving became because of the fact he felt he mandatory to maintain attempting to maintain them (could they have been drawn to different adult adult males?). Or, became he that lots youthful of a individual, such that his lack of self assurance or inexperience led to him to maintain making entreating gestures, like present-giving? There could be some diverse motives, once you learn greater relating to the background stuff like this. So, what are you able to do approximately it? Taking you with none attention could be an oversight, in accordance with is feeling of secure practices because of the fact he trusts your love for him. additionally, relationships frequently have classes the place the couple are out of synch with one yet another and issues are accomplished or no longer accomplished because of the fact we merely are not paying interest. As you're delicate expressing your love by using present-giving, i'm making a hazard you're able (with some forethought and a huge, deep breath) to have a candy little communicate with him (choose for a walk on my own) and tactfully element out your commentary, and show the way it makes you experience. that isn't approximately anger, comparing to others or finger-pointing - it incredibly is approximately high quality-tuninig the communique that boosts know-how. Love will final longer while we use communique to airborne dirt and dust the cobwebs. maximum suitable needs for the interchange that pulls you the two nearer.
2016-10-01 22:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by rouse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's taking his hurt & anger out on you. He feels he 'did it right' the last time & where did it get him? So he isn't going to put forth the effort now.
You need to have a serious talk with him and explain to him what you told us. Maybe he'll change & maybe he won't. You will have to decide what to do; you've accepted his treatment of you so far.
I wouldn't hitch my horse to this wagon quite yet. He might need some counselling. There are good, free agencies in your area.
2007-02-10 05:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe he feels very comfortable with you. True love doesn't have to present gifts all the time. It just happens naturally. Maybe he was always trying to impress the other girls
2007-02-10 06:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. that is horrible. you already know that he can be great with the others. why are you still with him? dump him and find someone who actually gives a crap about you! there is no excuse after 4 years of dating!
2007-02-10 04:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just ask him for some gifts. Maybe he doesn't know you want any...
2007-02-10 04:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by joel k 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋