we have been dating for 4yrs and i have become good friends with his family.i hear stories about how great he was with his old gfs(sending flowers at work,boxes for cards,love letters,little romantic gifts ect)in the 4 yrs we have been dating i got flowers once(with me hinting alot) and one card for my b-day with just his name signed.why is this?i don't expect expensive gifts just something to let me know hes thinking about me when i'm not with him.i do it to him all the time.i know some guys just don't do stuff like that but he allways did for his other gfs so whay not me?
2007-02-10 04:37:19 · 9 answers · asked by karenbshy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe after doing all that stuff for the others, they took him for granted so he decided not to? That's just a guess but you could try asking him and see what he says his reasons are.
2007-02-10 04:41:43 · answer #1 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be bribed, I gave you a star for simply sharing your concern with our little corner of the world. It shows some bravery to be vulnerable and reveal personal problems. Yes, being taken for granted is probably the case, or at least part of it. Was he with other girls as long as with you and were they as close to his family as you are? If not, maybe the gift-giving was because he felt he needed to keep trying to keep them (could they have been interested in other guys?). Or, was he that much younger of a person, such that his insecurity or inexperience prompted him to keep making entreating gestures, like gift-giving? There could be a few different reasons, when you learn more about the background stuff like this. So, what can you do about it? Taking you for granted may be an oversight, based on is feeling of security because he trusts your love for him. Also, relationships typically have periods where the couple are out of synch with each other and things are done or not done because we just aren't paying attention. As you're comfortable expressing your love through gift-giving, I'm betting you're able (with some forethought and a big, deep breath) to have a sweet little talk with him (go for a walk alone) and tactfully point out your observation, and express how it makes you feel. This isn't about anger, comparing to others or finger-pointing - it's about fine-tuninig the communication that enhances understanding. Love will last longer when we use communication to dust the cobwebs. Best wishes for the interchange that draws you both closer.
2016-05-25 02:03:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is obviously capable of being thoughtful and giving because he was so with his previous girlfriends, so it's not an issue of "does he know better?" So the next question: Is he willing? The answer is NO!!!. Your boyfriend just doesn't like you. He's not into you. And he doesn't care enough to make the effort. Your NOT A PRIORTY in his life !!! The fact that you've been with this guy and invested 4 years with him is not an excuse to stay with him. HE'S HANGING ONTO YOU UNTIL SOMETHING BETTER COMES ALONG!! You will find yourself to be one of those women who is asking herself after you guys breakup why he only dated someone for 6 months and is getting married to that person.
Get rid of him. It's not going o get better. Just realize that there are men out there that will do backflips to make you happy and show you that you are loved. Don't settle for this jack*ss.
2007-02-10 04:55:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe with his toher girlfriends they didnt express how much they liked him and you do so he doesnt feel he needs to express things tword you in gifts and that you two kno you like eachother and gifts arnt everything. also you hurt the people you most love becuz ou know they wont get terribly mad at you to where you break up or not be friends anymore. if you reallu feel its going to be a big proble bring it up and actually talk about it instead of hinting. he may not understand that yur not feeling love considering how he did stuff for his other gfsso just talk to him about like really open and also if you guys have been going out for 4 years he may not feel the need to buy you stuff a lot but then again he only gotg your 2 things but knowing guys if he didnt like you you guys wouldnt have lasted 4 years sry if this didnt help :]
2007-02-10 04:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he see u differently compare to other people not just his girlfriend but just as a Friend.
2007-02-10 04:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe there tryan scare you off =/ honeslty block it out.. you have something great alreayd im sure but oh man dont get all greedy now.. if he duznt get uu liil gifts ever now and then dont freak out on him.. who noes maybe hes plannin sumthing BIGGER for YOU!
best ofluck. my wishes to ya. hope this helps! =]
2007-02-10 04:42:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he problably is and has become comfortable wit you and feels that you dont require as much attention so hes showing his kindness to others
2007-02-10 04:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by ChemE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt feel the same way about you like he felt with his other girls. you can do better than him.
2007-02-10 04:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are annoying...... how do i know? just a wild guess.
2007-02-10 04:42:57 · answer #9 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋