HELP! he just wants to hit it???

Question

If a guy just wants to hit it?
about how long is he willing to go after you before he goes away?
not having sex but we do have hot mke out session so does that make him stay around longer?
idk if thats all he wants. we've known eachother for a yr but have been talkin about 3 weeks. what do u think?

Answer 1

First, calm down. I know first hand how difficult it is to be used and thrown away.

Here's a question for you. Does he try and push for more, when you're making out? If so, when you stop him, does he sigh a lot, or get frustrated, or ask why?

If this sounds like your boyfriend, then he's probably either in it just for the booty, or he's driven by the need for sex. You sound a bit young, so I'm assuming he is, too. If that's the case, you've got luck on your side. Younger guys tend to push a lot, but they also tend to wait a little longer for you to come around. Just don't be surprised if he tells his friends that he already HAS gotten you.

But if you're guy is totally calm when you stop him from going further, then rest easy - he's probably a keeper!

Answer 2

This doesn't necessarily mean that "putting off" will make a guy stay around longer!

Since you say you have known each other for a year, that's plenty long enough to discuss the subject of intimacy! I don't see why YET this hasn't happened???

You both can't read minds you know!

To me, if SEX is all he wanted, he would have long already TRIED to git with you!!!!!!!!!!!!
He wouldn't wait around OR even participate in a "Hot make-out Session" if that's ALL he wanted!

You do NEED communication, though! To me, that's the MOST important term in any relationship!

See, it has lacked in mine, so take it fromm me! Avoid problems and talk this stuff out!

Answer 3

I usually wait 3-6months to give it up, meanwhile hot make out sessions are great tease to keep the guy interested in what IT would be like. Dont be an easy lil sl*t no one really likes that, you want your relationship based on more than just sex. IF thats the case dont give it up till you feel like it, the act of sex is an act of love. Do you LOVE HIM? Nope so dont do it till you think you do or you cant wait any longer.

Answer 4

I can tell you nothing else than care for YOURSELF. Ask him if he just wants a booty call. If he really likes you- just ask him. If you really like him- tell him. Be careful.
Also, remember that some people simply don't want relationships, but they want to have sex. This is okay AS LONG as the person who wants the sex EXPLAINS to the other person this is what they want, and not a relationship. Some people are best friends, and they have sex but no relationship. These are rare- but probably exceedingly rewarding if they work out. Take care, and remember that you're the most important person in your life.

Answer 5

If you don't want to have sex with the guy then why are you getting him all excited by making out with him? Pretty soon he's going to think you are a tease and move on. If you do have sex with him and that's all he's after he might still move on after he gets it. Why don't you try not making out with him the next few times he sees you and see if he still wants to be around?

Answer 6

If he is not willing to wait until you are completely ready, than he is NOT worth it. GET RID OF HIM!! Only been talking 3 weeks and he is putting this kind of pressure on you...he is a LLLLLLLLoser!!

Answer 7

give it up to him and when you go back to just knowing each other but not talking....you can ask a question on here like..."how do i get over someone i let hit it"?
good luck with that!

Answer 8

He is probably hoping he might the chance to hit it.

Answer 9

you are a cock teaser take it up as a profession and forget about ralationships.No woman is worth waiting for that long not after lorena bobbitt.

Answer 10

talk to him ask him dont be shy to ask be strong