My ex and I met at 15 yrs old. I was from a very religious home, "Jehovah Witness" and my parents would not allow me to date. He spent 4 years going to my church and got baptized so that we could date freely. He acted and appeared to love me immensley. We rarely fought and had a stable relationship for 5 yrs.All the sudden he started treating me poorly. I couldnt understand what was happening. In my church such a serious relationship is looked upon as with the commitment to marriage imminent.He walked away from me with no explanation after five yrs. I was pregnant at the time. I lost the baby at 2 months from the stress from being publicly repremanded in my church, and the anger from my parents.I lost my home, family, friends and everything because I had after all those years given in and had sex with him.Seeking comfort I ended up sleeping with him again and got pregnant a week after my miscarriage.DUMB!He would not wear condoms.no support no visiting. he acts like he hates us
2007-02-10 03:29:10 · 10 answers · asked by Esperenza 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a tough lesson, but know that Jehovah will never leave you. It is only the human who chooses to leave Jehovah.
(Isaiah 48:17-18) I, Jehovah, am your God, the One teaching you to benefit yourself, the One causing you to tread in the way in which you should walk. O if only you would actually pay attention to my commandments! Then your peace would become just like a river, and your righteousness like the waves of the sea.
2007-02-10 03:44:27 · answer #1 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person tells her that adoption is as bad as abortion they are not a Christian. Don't let your experience with some people claim to be Christians ruin your perception of actual Christians. Even if the girl did get an abortion shes no worse than you or me. All are sinners and all deserve hell. But at the same time, all are able to accept Christ and be forgiven. Read the bible and try to understand Christianity from a biblical perspective and you will see taht a true Christian would in fact NOT think this girl was "evil" per say. "You will be judged by God in teh same way you judge otehrs". God Bless.
2016-05-25 01:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, why were you repremanded? by your family too? he is the dork that left you after 5 yrs with no explanation, sounds like you need a really really big hug and a pint of ben and jerrys. you dont need friends or family for that matter if they treat you that way. i think you can find better friends, and definitly a better guy if you give it time and get your self confidence. its a long haul, but you can do it. and hey you get to have a baby! yea!! you can do it.. hard, but possible... the only thing is if the guy comes around again... dont sleep with him~! he doesnt use condoms!!
2007-02-10 03:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry that he did that to you! some men just lack in the maturity and responsibility departments. but the most important thing you can do now is move forward. stop focusing on him and build a better life for you and your baby. if you can't find the support from your family or church, you might consider looking into other spiritual venues because i know (at my church at least) there are support groups for single moms. best of luck!
2007-02-10 03:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start with I will say that as a very young child I and siblings were made to go to the "Kingdom Hall of Jehovas Witness" To sort out your difficulties in life and get a new start, I would suggest finding a church and a congregation that can welcome you with open arms, as we are all Gods creatures and we are going to give in to temptation, we are gonna do things that we feel may be wrong, and we are gonna do things we know that are going against the word of the Bible, But what gives the members of the congregation the right to judge you, to reprimand in public, and pretty much turn their backs to you when you needed family and friends the most, How dare they! If they truly loved you they would have been there for you in any way that you may have needed them or even just someone to talk to when you were having a bad day,
As for him,, well, what can be said, hes a guy and an immature one at that, I have wanted for years to have been blessed with a daughter of my own and I probably never will now, and then there are jerks like that guy who has a baby and he runs out on you and baby, he needs a good beat down like all the other Dead Beat Dads out there that leave it up to the welfare offices to see that these kids are fed, It sounds to me like your better off without this guy in your life,, ? Just think how it would be if you would have married him, sorta like the Garth Brooks song "Unanswered prayers", Raise your baby, name him as father on Birth Cert and make sure you or the state go after him for Child Support, Dont let him run from his responsibilities, and again as for the Church, That sure doesnt sound very Christian the way they treated you, I would tell them to all "Get Bent", and then go out and find yourself a nice girlfriend just because you can do what you want to now,
Otherwise, best of luck to you
and remember- you dont need a guy that bad, find out whats important to you, get back in touch with yourself, guys take about 10 yrs longer to mature than women, give it awhile, and in the meantime visit your local Adult store if you need to take care of things,
2007-02-10 04:06:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry you are in this mess. Unfortunately you opened the door and trouble walked in.
There are agencies where you can go for help. Check your local yellow pages, your local newspapers, and your local library.
Men aren't evil (I can't believe I typed that) but they are known for taking what they want and moving on.
You need to put him behind you, find a place to live, find a job, and get on with your life.
It would be a wise idea to go for some counseling.
Last comment...I could not belong to a church that turned its back on members who sinned. Like none of them have behaved wrongly in their lives.
My faith believes you hate the sin, but love the sinner.
2007-02-10 03:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...he has lost respect for you, and you let it happen. Listen, men will get their way if they are allowed to, and the majority of young men are looking for one thing only, you gave it to him, now he leaves. I am not telling you to go out and hate all men or think that all of them are mean (or evil), but you should love and respect yourself a little more. There's no use in trying to figure out why he acted that way. Now you'd better start thinking as an adult, and figure out what's going to happen once that baby arrives. And let go of that moron, you know it very well, he is not worth the time you spend thinking about him.
2007-02-10 03:49:08 · answer #7 · answered by AMBER D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to be rude, but you should have learned your lesson the first time! It's obvious that he just wanted to have fun, but not any responsibility for his actions. Learn your lesson well this time. I'd take him to court and make him pay child support. There are many single mothers in this country, and it sounds like you're going to be one of them. Good luck!
2007-02-10 03:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry for you --- he is a jerk and im disappointed with your family as well --- a religion that places itself above children??? not a very forgiving bunch of people ---- yes do all you can to make him pay to support you ---- you have my best wishes hugssss
2007-02-10 03:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your own fault! You are resposible for your own actions. You should have never slept with him again didn't you learn fro your first mistake?
2007-02-10 03:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by Fido 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋