So I just started dating this guy, hes great so dont get me wrong, but i was inlove with this other guy for three years (he's gay now) and ive been with a few guys since then and my friends keep telling me that im comparing every guy to the one i was inlove with, and this is the first guy ive dated that made me forget the other guy and i really like him and all and i think im starting to fall inlove, and he keeps talking about our "future" together which is fine except im not sure if he hes everything i want, he has nothing about him that i dont like just not everything that i want, for ex. i like to be funny and goof of having a good time but then i also like to go to a nice restaurant and have discussions about more serious things being sophisticated at times (thats wat i loved about the other guy he was very mature) but i just dont think the new guy is like that at all! should i not waste time and brake up with him? or should i stick it out and see were it goes?
2007-02-10 03:09:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he is not the one either break up with him and find another or step back and have a look at yourself....perhaps you have set your standards to high...you cannot compare guys...
2007-02-10 03:15:24 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smoothie, aka Mr. SmartAss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should give this new guy some more time. Explain to him what you are looking for in a relationship. Honesty is the best policy. I also think that you should not compare him or any other guy to another guy. No two guys are going to be the same. You will in all honesty ruin any relationship if you keep comparing the new guys you are dating. I have been married for 5 years and let me tell you in the beginning of our dating it was not easy. I to started comparing him to the other guys I had dated. I the realized that like I said earlier no two guys are the same and therefore stopped comparing him to anyone else and moved on into a wonderful relationship that led to us now being married 5 years in April. I hope I helped you out even a bit. Take care and good luck.
2007-02-10 03:15:43 · answer #2 · answered by Christina A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your truly not happy why stick around. I mean I know your other friend that you love is gay but I'm pretty sure there is a straight guy out there that is the same way your friend is. I mean I'm not telling you how to run your life that's just my opinion. You should just go out with your friends (female) and have fun maybe you'll find someone when your not even looking.
2007-02-10 03:19:49 · answer #3 · answered by 3 Angels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say stick it out, BUT also let him know right up front that at the present time you are NOT ready to do anything more than dating. NOTHING serious and you don't want to go any further like talking about the future and stuff like that. IF he agrees then keep seeing where it goes, BUT if he keeps pressuring you then dump him.
2007-02-10 03:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy isn't what you want for a life-time partner, it might be better to look elsewhere. But, if you think he may be willing to do some of the things that matter to you, then hang in there. Truly, only you can answer your question. Sit down, and have a talk with him, and see what happens from there. Best of luck!
2007-02-10 03:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not ready for a one guy relationship. tell the guy you like so much just what you typed to Yahoo Answer. tell him you just are not ready yet to commit to one guy. And date other guys. Let him know he is still top dog in the choosing of a guy for a one on one relationship. Keep him as friend but don't commit just yet until you are sure
2007-02-10 03:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gee that is a hard one for anyone else to answer...but you need to go by your feelings..one thing if you are with someone you are not happy with then you are not free to go on with your life to see if you can find someone of your dreams...or maybe talk to this guy and tell him how you feel...there is a lot to make a relationship work...and trust and being able to talk things out is very important...and you need to quit comparing guys..i have did that to...and it is wrong...try to find true love and happiness and remember no relationship is perfect....
2007-02-10 03:15:55 · answer #7 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friends are being very judgemental
of course your gonna compare bf its only natural every one in one way or another!!
guy's change, for example my boyfrind hated moles befor he got with me now3 evert time i take my clothes off its all he can look at he loves them.
serious, just tell him and he'll do it for you..
2007-02-10 03:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by cheekie cherry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, break up with him. You would be doing him and yourself a favor.
2007-02-10 03:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by leonard_leroy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you take good one
2007-02-10 03:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋