ive been with him just over 3 years.
basically he keeps letting me down with empty promises about moving in with me.
anyways he has helped me alot coz im currently unemployed (hopefully not for long tho) and he gives me lifts to do my food shopping and back from college. he comes round every evening after he has been to work.
i wont miss him as a boyfriend but what he does for me.
how do i get used to him not being there?
2007-02-10 03:03:34 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im out with the girls on friday and saturday night next week.
most of my friends work in the evenings in restaurants and pubs or they have very young children.
2007-02-10 03:04:59 · update #1
Living without the empty promises and let-downs will be a refreshing change. Take the bus, and start relying on yourself, not him.
2007-02-10 03:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight ...
You don't really love him but you want his help and/or financial support?
Or you will miss his company?
Do you sleep with him and in return he provides transport?
Do you ever do things together as a couple?
It sounds to me like you've both got some arrangment going here. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
If he is not Mr. RIght, then honestly tell him so and kindly let him go, letting the chips fall. And then find a way to stand on your own two feet.
2007-02-10 11:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by americansneedtowakeup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You fix your life to take care of yourself. You either move closer to a shopping area or you take the bus or if you're lucky and they're available get a cab. Go along with someone near you and share the expense.
You become independent and along with a college degree it'll be the best thing you've ever done for yourself.
2007-02-10 11:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't miss him at all, you basically used the guy. I would think that if he was there for you in your time of need you would seriously talk with him. If he did not want to live with you it could be out of respect. You could be making a big mistake and don't even realize it. If you insist on not being with this guy fill your time with other things until your girl become available.
2007-02-10 11:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by soldierlady226 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time!! The longer you do it the better. I was with someone for 2.5 years and we separated in a blaze of her insanity. It's hard to get used to someone not being there. I utilized that opprotunity to reconstruct my life. Make new friends, find new things to do, go out and just drive. You don't need a purpose, just don't sit at home going "this house is empty"...
2007-02-10 11:07:55 · answer #5 · answered by Vincent C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get used to not having someone there for you as the weeks go on you staart doing it for yourself.Just move on as you obviously weren`t happy and everyone deserves to be.
My ex walked out for the 2nd time 6 weeks ago and i realise it`s not him i miss it`s the company of another person instead of a child and having adult conversations that dont revolve around thomas the tank engine but i`m now use to being on my own and standing on my own two feet again,it gets easier.
2007-02-10 11:15:55 · answer #6 · answered by onlyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've already decided to leave him why wait until Friday? Bit unfair on him really, the sooner you both can get on with your lives, the better it will be for all. It will give him a few more days to find someone who likes him as he is
2007-02-10 13:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by Happy Hobbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you were using him like a chauffeur rather than a boyfriend. He sounds like a nice guy and I feel bad for him that he's been treated this way.
As for you, go out and get drunk for a couple nights. Have a girlfriend stay the night and watch your favorite movies.
2007-02-10 11:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by is it time to go home yet? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, start by getting a job and supporting yourself. Obviously you have turned him off by not working and making an effort to be self supportive. Then I would suggest you get some counselling because you have issues with using people.
2007-02-10 11:09:25 · answer #9 · answered by Nina C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time to grow up. You don't want him as a "boyfriend," just what "he does for" you. Great. You need a new maid and a sugar daddy. Glad I'm not the poor guy who just got dumped after 3 years of helping because he thought his girlfriend loved him.
2007-02-10 11:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by angrysandwichguy2000 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋