...or do you have a Foul Weather Friend ...!!!????
If yes ...why are you ... or why do you keep them as friends.. ?
As foul weather friends are basically the friends that are always jealous of you ... and hate it when you are doing well, but always there to ''comfort you'' in a disaster or crisis... in their smug manner...
..this is not really aimed at guys.
Why would anyone not be happy ... if their friend was doing well ??
doubt i'll get many answers... ;-)) ....as usual
2007-02-10 02:11:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
here lies one of the resons i have few female friends...females can be self serving, vain, fickle and pretentious all at once and are considerably harder work than men...
women are often like this for a number of reasons...one is that they are so insecure themselves that it makes them feel good to see other peoples problems...and then takes away the feeling of guilt for not wishing them well in general when they can 'help'...
another common one is the females that have a life and problems they either cannot or will not face and deal with...the ones that pretend that everything is wonderful...when really its not...by keeping others down they can make their problems feel insignificant...and by 'helping ' it stops them dealing with their own...as they dont have to think about it when they are so involved in other peoples business...
there are of course some good genuine friends here...but they are hard to find...especially amongst the female of the species...
2007-02-10 07:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes I think I have one of those.
I'm not sure why I keep her around...i guess maybe cuz she tells me the way it is,straight up.
She never misses an opportunity to tell me how she really feels, it makes her feel superior and I get that part of it.
Most people don't tell you how it really is, they usually just try to be so upbeat about things all the time and leave me wondering if that is the truth.
I get sick of her too at times, in fact just yesterday. I feel she takes digs at me though very subtle. I don't let her get to me, cuz deep down inside i know her motives. To keep me down so she looks superior. But on the other hand she does have insight about things that others dont, since my other friends are always just trying to be too nice.
2007-02-10 10:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by gnuck gnuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am defiantly not that person. I had a friend who was single for the longest time and a guy at the store gave me his number and asked me out on a date and she was so upset and she was like my friend just got asked out right in front of me and she couldn't be happy for me, even though I had just waited for my boyfriend for 6 months to get back from boot camp and he cheated on me! She was still mad at me. Well, a few weeks later I hooked her up with a coworker of mine and now all she does it flaunt it and rub it in my face after I was just totally crushed by my last boyfriend! Yeah, I definally have a fowl weather friend.
2007-02-10 10:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by if i only knew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had one of these a few years ago..didnt realise it at the time, but once i did she was history.
i was going through a tough divorce etc and was quite literally suicidal at the time, she was the best friend in the world, very supportive, always on my doorstep etc
when i was better she suddenly became a right cow, accusing me of sleeping with her boyfriend, trying to make me jealous and insecure over my ex, she was a nightmare, she obviously had some big problems, so i just stopped talking to her and moved house without giving her a forwarding address or number, sounds abit childish, but she was a neighbour as well so there was no other way.
my advise to others in this situation is ditch them fast, lifes to short and you deserve to spend it with nice people
2007-02-10 10:26:06 · answer #4 · answered by slsvenus 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes i do..infact i have two... yes i get intimidated when they throw bad remarks at me. but hey take it as an encouragement to do better next time..i have a friend who'll never admit that i have a pretty good figure( not boasting) i have other friends who praise me for that but this particular friend somehow finds the way to pull my self confidence down but...in the end in your heart you do know what is right and wrong..these people just makes me a stronger person. normally friends who do this stuff are very envious of us and just cant or do not want to accept the fact that we're sometimes better than them.. so they intimidate you to make themself feel good bout themselves.
2007-02-10 10:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by choc addict 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have such a friend, yes.
She can never be happy for me. She says something nice, but she doesn't mean it.
And in general, all she always likes to talk about is how bad this or that person is, what problems she has, how her knee/throat/stomach/head... hurts etc.
The most interesting thing about her is that in general she also prefers to hear bad news.
2007-02-10 10:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should confront your friend with this problem. Just simply tell her that her negativity is really causing you to feel uncomfortable. A friend should really be supportive and not downing. Maybe you'll find out how good or bad of a friend she truly is. Good luck!!
2007-02-10 10:19:30 · answer #7 · answered by superstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one, I've known her for awhile. I listen to her tell me the same thing over and over....and hates the good stuff in my life and demeans it. But she does this to everyone and that's why I listen to her, because no one will anymore. She's driven everyone away.
2007-02-10 10:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by M.R.M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i had a friend like that, but i got that fed up with her, i told her to p"%$ off, and we haven't spoken since, and will never again. i feel so great, now i get on with life, without her smirky remarks and complete jealousy of me. x
2007-02-10 11:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by honey xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually they are not happy and do not want anyone to be happy because they feel like those people are throwing and bragging about their happiness...they comfort you which only makes you feel worse... it is a case of misery needs company
2007-02-10 10:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋