True or not ? Women fall in love for "who" that person is, but try to change him as soon as they have him ?

Question

As it says. I feel that way. Women try to change their man (give up games, sporting, tv etc) once they have him. So why did they fall in love with that person if he's not perfect for them ? (I don't speak out of experience, mind you)

Answer 1

BECAUSE!!!! Women like other women! A woman's best friend isn't a diamond, it is other women. They don't want their man to be a man, they want another woman to go shopping with, talk about petty things, and basically be an adult 6 year old for the rest of their lives.

What better thing for a woman, than to marry another woman, yet still be married to a man? That is why women slowly change men. Certainly, women are not converted to a beer-guzzling, chip-eating, football fan, because we don't want to sleep with a man-wife, we want them to be women.

Now you know why women are crazy and men are normal.

Answer 2

I don't know if there is a solid true/false answer to this question...
I think that until the end of time, there is going to be no "perfect" partner, and that there will always be things that a person isn't happy about with their partner. That being said, a lot of people are trying to mold the one they care about into that "perfect partner" and its just not going to happen. I don't think its just women, I just think its more severe with women. Maybe because a lot of us react emotionally...But I don't think a person should try to take away the things that make their partner happy, or the things that make them who they are, unless they are truly things that are hamful for the person or for the relationship, (drugs, illegal activity, etc.). To try to take away someone's livelihood, as far as sports, tv, video games, etc, is just ridiculous. Everyone needs their "me" time...and taking those things away from the partner will make them bitter, not happy. Who wants to force someone to spend time with them? The time will be more valuable if both people want to spend it together. Besides, if the person is feeling neglected there is a deeper problem, and if they can't communicate well, or if they aren't happy, instead of trying to change that person, they need to consider the pros and cons of being in that relationship. Sometimes when the newness wears off and you really get to know a person, you realize that you didn't truly "love" them after all, because you didn't "know" them. And once people stop expecting relationships to be fairy tales and happy all the time, they will realize that love is about accepting a person for imperfections as well as the things that make them wonderful to you!

Answer 3

We fall in love with the person you portray yourselves to be. When people get to know each other there is usually a few things that need a little work. That is with both parties not just men. Everyone puts their best out there when we met. We tend to hide our problems. But as far as wanting to stop someone from sports or games, that's not right. Depending on the amount of time given to these events, sometimes we forget to make time for others. When we try to tell the person they need to spend time with us it may come across as if we do not want them to participate in their activities. We just want them to spend a little less time on TV or sports and a little more time with us. This should be taken as a complement. The other person could be out shopping or other activities instead of want time with the other person.

Answer 4

Let's put it this way:

Video games, sports and TV are amazing fun. I love them to death and I'm a woman. However, there ARE more important things. And that's all women want men to realize.

Yes, you can have games, sports and TV but please, set your priorities right. Family and work first. Fun after.

And this is not women talking; it's life. As for men thinking that women try to change men, well, in that case, women think men are immature for refusing to give up games, sports and TV.

Really, when you're married or living with your girlfriend, it involves sacrifice. And one of those sacrifices is not having as many nights out with all your guy friends. If you're not willing to make that sacrifice yet, don't even bother talking to a girl that wants to settle down.

And this principle also applies to women. No more excessive shopping when you're on a budget with someone else.

:)

Answer 5

There is truth to that. I don't believe many woman can be truly happy without some controversy, angst, instability, etc. in my experience, it seems women want to take up the challenge of turning a 'raw diamond', into a 'priceless gem'. in other words, they like everything that u are when they get with u, yet feel the need to make u into their personal improvement project. here's the ill $hit, if u allow said woman to change and mold and transform u into HER vision of a better u, she will subconsciously lose interest in u as a result as she will then view u as weak for allowing yourself to follow her lead rather than stick to your own convictions!! MADDENING!!

bottom line, WOMEN ARE CRAZY!! but we love 'em. just gotta know when to compromise and when to say, "***** get the f*ck up out my face with that bull $hit!" they may act hurt or angry when u put your foot down like this, but internally they are SUPER turned on by this kinda assertiveness.

Great Question Dude!!

Answer 6

I have heard this saying MANY times, and it always holds to be true:

"When a man & a woman start getting into a relationship, the man always hopes the woman WON'T change, but she does; and the woman hopes the man WILL change, but he doesn't."

Answer 7

Not all woman do this but yes i can agree alot of people do but its no just us females that do this, i know alot of males that do the same thing!!

I think if you've fallen for someone it should be the person they are not the person you want then to be. And if you want them to change then you really dont love them at all as you should and would never ask someone you love to change.

I would never change for anyone and i'de never ask anyone to change for me.

Answer 8

I would say this is True not only of women, but of men as well.

Most men in stead of trying to change their women, would look for another women to satisfy his needs.....that need for something new, exiting or change.

Women unlike men, don't change partners as often, but look for changes in their men, to satisfy her needs or to better the relationship.

Bottom line we are creatures who craved change and attention. When you first for all in love your partner can do no wrong, everyday is spring and you feel you can accomplish anything in life. Once that first spark dies down, both partners start to look or expect changes and thus is when we fall in to a trap of at times looking unctuously for our partners to change for us. Both men and women are guilty of this, but must clarify not all.

Answer 9

There are certain things BOTH sides are expected to change once they're in a serious relationship. Neither one should be out partying with their friends all the time because that's part of being in a relationship, you get serious with this one person and cool it with your pals. So, yeah, she's in her rights to want him to cool it with games, sporting, TV and spend more time with her just as he's entitled to expect her to cut back on running around with her friends, quit dressing flirty to get male attention, etc.

Answer 10

A little true...yes, we fall for what you are but we don't know you well enough until we spend more time with you then we realize...I didn't know that about you...that is when we start perfecting you!