Guys, how would you feel if your girlfriend wanted you to play video games less?

Question

Many times I've called, my boyfriend tells me "I'll call you back in 5 minutes, let me finish this video game," and will call an hour later.

Once, he put me on hold for "5 minutes" I waited 40 minutes, yelled into the phone, hung up 5 minutes later. Three hours later, he calls: "I totally forgot, I got so caught up in this video game.."

Soon he will be late for dates, due to this immature video game obsession. We've been together for a year and a half, and he had never been into video games up until recently..

He is 22 years old. Is it time for me to tell him he needs to set his priorities straight? Guys, how would you feel if your girlfriend wanted you to cool it a little? Not stop, just play LESS.

Answer 1

we need to get our priorities straight --- what is more important your relatonship or a game --- i finally have sorted that one out and the relationship one --- best wishes ---- talk to him get him to get his priorities in order

Answer 2

Ok games are like boobs to a guy. Most guys will not know that they are ignoring you until you actually say something. One day while you all are on the phone just say "baby I am not trying to be mean but I really think you rather be with that game then me." Most likely he will say how do you figure, No i don't, and 9 times outta 10 he will get mad. Then after all that just say, "Prove to me that you want me more then that game--->" and think of something you all do together that you enjoy while the game is on and in his face.

Answer 3

u totally right about telling him to set his priorities straight. that is so immature of him to a video game before his gf. yeah i feel u sister u should definitely have a talk with him about playing less.

Answer 4

you're not his mom and he does what he does because he enjoys it. give him an alternative that is as fun or more fun and i'm sure he'll go for it. let him be. just what he needs at 22; a nagging girlfriend... no he doesnt really.

huge point coming up. most guys dont like being on the phone and being tethered by their girlfriends with their cell phone. just get off his case. like i said, give him fun alternatives.

believe it or not what you want to do isnt always going to be what he wants do. and what you enjoy may not be what he enjoys. and what he enjoys you may not enjoy. find some happy medium; but read your question and ask yourself why is it all about you and what you want to do. it sounds like you're 16 going on 40.

if it's not video games it will be something else. you arent joined at the hip and he may have interests that you wont share in common same with you. get off his case. :)

Answer 5

No. That's like... telling girls never to put up any make up anymore. Games are like... well, some guys drink beer, some use drugs, and we, gamers, slackers and nerds alike, need games. It's like oxygen to us !! You are a hard woman !

Seriously, games are harmless. Tell him about it, but if he gives in he is not a real gamer at all.

EDIT

And for the record, I'd feel as if she doesn't love me, and it'd be better if the relationship was over.

Answer 6

great

Answer 7

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What in the world is the difference between loving a person and being attached to them ?
Love is the sincere wish for others to be happy, and to be free from suffering.
Having realistically recognized others' kindness as well as their faults, love is always focused on the other persons welfare. We have No ulterior motives to fulfill our self-interest, or to fulfill our desires; to love others simply because they exist.
Attachment, on the other hand, exaggerates others' good qualities and makes us crave to be with them. When we're with them, we're happy, but when we're separated from them, we are often miserable. Attachment is linked with expectations of what others should be or do.
Is love as it is usually understood in our society
really love ? or attachment ?
Let us examine this a bit more. Generally we are attracted to people either because they have qualities we value or because they help us in some way. If we observe our own thought processes mindfully, and carefully - we'll notice that we look for specific qualities in others.
Some of these qualities we find attractive, others are those our parents, or society value.
We examine someone's looks, body, education,
financial situation, social status. This is how most of us decide on whether or not the person holds any true value to us.
In addition, we judge people as worthwhile according to how they relate to us. If they help us, praise us, make us feel secure, listen to what we have to say, care for us when we are sick or depressed, we consider them good people, and it is this type of people we are most likely to be more attracted to.

But this is very biased, for we judge them only in terms of how they relate to "us", as if we are the most important person in the world.
After we've judged certain people to be good for us, whenever we see them it appears to us as if goodness is coming from them, but if we are more aware, we recognize that we have projected this goodness onto them.

Desiring to be with the people a lot who make us feel good, we become emotional yo-yo's -
when we're with these people, we're Up, when we're not with these people, we're Down.

Furthermore, we form fixed concepts of what our relationships with those people will be and thus have expectations of them. When they do not live up to our expectations of them, we're very disappointed, or may become angry !
We want them to change so that they will they will match what we think they are. But our projections and expectations come from our own minds, not from the other people.
Our problems arise not because others aren't
who we thought they we're, but because we mistakenly thought they were something they
aren't.
Checklist: "I Love You if __________ "
What we call love is most often attachment.
It is actually a disturbing attitude that overestimates the qualities of another person.
We then cling to tightly to that person, thinking our happiness depends on that person.
"Love, on the other hand, is an open and very calm, relaxed attitude. We want someone to be happy, and free from suffering simply because they exist. While attachment is uncontrolled and much too sentimental, Love is direct and powerful. Attachment obscures our judgment and we become impatient, angry, and impartial, helping only our dear one's and harming those who we don't like. Love builds up others, and clarifies our minds, and we
access a situation by thinking of the greatest good for everyone. Attachment is based on
selfishness, while Love is founded upon cherishing others, even those who do not look very appealing to the eyes. Love looks beyond
all the superficial appearances, and dwells on the fact that they are just like us: they want inner peace, happiness, and want to avoid suffering. If we see unattractive, dirty, ignorant people, we feel repulsed because our selfish minds want to know attractive, intellectual, clean, and talented people. Love, on the other hand, never evaluates others by these superficial standards and looks much deeper into the person. Love recognizes that regardless of the others' appearances, their experience is the same as ours: they seek inner peace, to be happy, to be free from sufferings, and to do their best to avoid problems.
When we're attached, we're not mentally and emotionally free. We overly depend on and cling to another person to fulfill our mental and especially our emotional needs. We fear losing the person, feeling we'd be incomplete without him.
This does not mean that we should suppress our emotional needs or become aloof, alone and totally independent, for that too does not solve the problem. We must simply realize our unrealistic needs, and slowly seek to eliminate them. Some emotional needs may be so strong that they can't be dissolved immediately.
If we try to suppress them or pretend they do not exist, we become anxious, insecure, falling into a depression. In this case, we can do our best to fulfill our needs while simultaneously working gradually to subdue them.
"The core problem is we seek to be loved, rather than to love. We yearn to be understood by others rather than to understand them. In all honesty, our sense of emotional insecurities comes from the selfishness obscuring our own
minds. 'We can develop self-confidence by recognizing our inner potential to become a selfless human being with many, many magnificent qualities, then we'll develop a true and accurate feeling of self-confidence. And
then we'll seek to increase true love, without attachments, to increase compassion, to cultivate patience and understanding, as well as generosity, concentration and wisdom.'

'Under the influence of attachment we're bound by our emotional reactions to others. When they are nice to us, we're happy. When they ignore us, or speak sharply to us, we take it personally and are unhappy. But pacifying attachment doesn't mean we become hard-hearted. Rather, without attachment there will be space in our hearts and minds for genuine Affection and Impartial Love for them.
We'll be actively involved with them.
If we learn to subdue our attachments, we can most definitely have successful friendships and personal relationships with others !! These relationships will be richer because of the freedom and respect - the relationships will be based on. We'll care about the happiness and the misery of all human beings equally, simply because everyone is the same in wanting and needing inner peace, happiness, and not wanting to suffer. However, our lifestyles and interests may be more compatible with those of some people more so than with others, and that is alright. In any case, our relationships will be based on mutual Love, mutual interests, and the wish to help each other in life.