I am 40 years old and only lived in western NY for the past 6 years. I did everything with my ex-wife and I don't have many friends. It is hard to meet people out there I went to a Parents With Out Partners dance I was the youngest there felt odd. This is not a joke I am very troubled with this. Thanks for your replies.
2007-02-10 01:26:26 · 16 answers · asked by paul 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All those older people have younger women who are single and available. You do not have to be with people your age to meet people your age. You have to be "out there" to do that. And available. How are women your age going to meet you if you stay in the library and the church.
2007-02-10 01:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by TMAC 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is really hard to get back into something that you've been away from for a long time. I understand exactly how you feel. A good way to meet people is online via chat rooms, online support groups (for divorced folks) and community gatherings. Have you tried getting involved with volunteering in your neighborhood? Maybe volunteer at the local food bank, shelter or school...they are always looking for good people to help out and its a fantastic way to meet nice people and make friends. You shouldn't go through life feeling isolated and alone.....
2007-02-10 01:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by Calista77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to cut this off asap. Your husband must cease contact with this woman immediately. He has no business calling her or meeting her for drinks. If he won't tell her so, you should. She's trespassing on your marriage with the intention of taking your husband. You need to take care of this right away.
2016-03-29 00:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Used to live in Jamestown.....it's tough....I used eharmony and found a wonderful woman although it took a while but I also became very active in my community...Join a service organization like Rotary....go to church and become active in a church organization(s)....volunteer to help others like delivering meals on wheels or tutoring at a local school...join a gym and get in shape...join a ski club or a hiking or bicycle club..join habitat for humanity....
You now have the chance to be whoever you want and paint whatever picture you want in life...instead of looking for someone to like...make yourself into someone who will be liked and you will naturally attract others....it will happen when you least expect it....when you give to others it creates a vacuum that will draw more of what you gave away back to you. You'll feel great, heal faster, make a valuable contribution to you community, have fun, and make a ton of friends.
2007-02-10 01:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by Scott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have access to a computer,how about e-harmony? Is there anyone at work that you'd like to ask out? Have you got any friends/family that you could mention that your ready to start dating again?You mentioned parents without partners.How about getting involved with things going on at the school where your kids go. there maybe a divorced woman there just as lonely as yourself,who like you, doesn't do the bar scene.
2007-02-10 01:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by karen b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's a few options (besides via freinds). Church and hobby groups are a great way to network. Dating services are effective I imagine. The bar scene is a joke and not a normal way to meet a potential (long-term) partner.
2007-02-10 01:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by Big Daddy Jim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey there!
I think that first you shuoldnt worry that much because i think that love and thet women you want will come when yuo least expect it...
Just try lots of sites for meeting someone and get to know lots of persons...
you can meet a nice woman anywhere just open your eyes and if you like someone just go 4 it...invite her to a nice restaurant or pub...be nice to her and make her talk about herself that's how she will know youre interested on her...dont speak only about yourself, try to get to know people...
Because you first have to know yourself really well so that you can show to other people how you are like...
Try to make men friends as well just be yourself and im sure people will like you!
2007-02-10 01:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by Neacsu v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other answers have included good places to meet people. I will add, make friends with people of both genders and all ages. Also, you may want to go by Paul rather than Paulie -- Paulie is a cute, intimate nickname, not a dating, friends name.
2007-02-10 01:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My best advice would be to do activities you like, like golf, church, dance classes, wine tasting, art shows etc. I thinks its the best way because then you will find someone who likes the same things you do. (you will already have something in common : )
2007-02-10 01:31:53 · answer #9 · answered by Sammy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start walking or jogging everyday.Soon you will see other regulars.Go to bookstores,coffee shops.Maybe volunteer somewhere like a animal shelter.There are always women volunteering there.
2007-02-10 01:30:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋