When I met him I was 16 and a virgin, He was my first and we were together for 3 years, we had some problems and broke up. He was crushed and I did some things (when we were broken up) I shouldn’t have with other people *** After 6 months we got back together when I realized I was stupid and I wanted to be with him. 3 months later I am being the best girlfriend and our relationship is great but sometimes he remembers gets sad and accuses me of cheating. How do I earn his trust and will he ever get over this?
2007-02-10 01:24:50 · 8 answers · asked by Cindy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Continuous love, reassuring, and lots of patience, that is, if you are having a good relationship this time, and you just know that this is the best relationship and you would stick by it, no matter what. Once trust lost, its so difficult to bring it back again, I mean, he must be feeling insecure, and worried again, and he really does love you, and everytime he thinks of the past, he probably feels he could lose you again. If you are working it out, without giving up, I mean, give him so much of love that with time he would forget all about it, then its good.
But if those small moments of him getting sad, become bigger moments, by argument, doubts, or even the chances of him getting louder and louder on his thoughts, then I would suggest you really do end it once and for all, that is, talk to him that it hurts you to remember, and that you are now 100% true to him, but if he cannot trust, and continues to live in the past, then the future may look bad for both of you. All this, as I told you above, continuous love, support, patience, should get you and him free of such thoughts.
good luck
2007-02-10 01:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is insecure. and what do you do for a person who seems insecure you tell them all the good things about them. a man constantly needs his ego stroked so he is going to need double that. Just reassure him that he is the only one for you and you both have to know that what was done when you two were broken off in no way should impede or reflect on the relationship that you have now. But dont let his insecurity reach a point of no return where he is jealous and causing you grief. He has to learn to trust again. Period! if he doesnt learn and continues to suggest that you are cheating. I think that the best thing to do then is to split or take a break. you can not have a relationship without trust. It just does not work. Let him know your concerns and see where it goes from there.
2007-02-10 09:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jan l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for if he can't forget the past and keep on bringing it up when he's not on the mood,well try to talk to him that it will be useless to continue your relationship while he can't forget the past and move on with your new relationship.As what others usually say...past is past.Once in our life we done some mistakes in our lives,which we should leave behind and go on with our life.It doesn't mean that if a person committed mistake before he will do it again and again especially when the person is not like that...i mean if the behaviour and attitude is on the right phase.Now if he can't get out of his mind this thing...why don't you try to give him time and space till he will accept your past....then if he will accept it and you will both feel the love is still there then make another try for your relationship...but this is just my own opinion the final decision lies on your hand gurl.
2007-02-10 09:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by kimy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the issue comes up again just tell him that the past is the past; you regret the choices you made then, but you can't change them now. Besides, it wasn't like you two were married.
For your relationship to blossom, he's going to have to get over it. Just tell him this is the last time you'll speak of it.
2007-02-10 09:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess he's going to have to grow up and quit bringing up the past before you leave him. You might just want to make that clear to him so you don't have to hear about your past ever again. The past was yesterday and should be forgotten.
2007-02-10 09:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jim F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to be with himmmtell him you will marry him and want to be till death...for this you can give hin ur trust.best of luck
2007-02-10 09:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you continue to be faitful to him and show him how much you love him, he will get over his insecurities. It just takes time.
2007-02-10 09:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by dollfacedbaby1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you did while you were broken up is not considered cheating, he's overreacting
2007-02-10 09:29:28 · answer #8 · answered by B2B2008 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋