I am hosting a baby shower party, and the mom-to-be asked me to call more people (about 10 persons) just one day before the shower. Also, my house is small, and turns out that there are more than 30 persons, and I was expecting about 20. If it is unappropriated, how can I tell her that, without hurting her feelings?
2007-02-10 01:13:44 · 13 answers · asked by Marian30 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Just tell her that you are sorry, but that you have already made arrangements for food, etc based on the number that you had previously arranged for--I am assuming that there had been an RSVP deadline date. Just say you are so sorry, blah, blah. Don't say anything to her about it being inappropriate for her to ask you to do this, although it really is. Sounds like she has enough friends for another person to throw her another party. Sometimes different circles will do that. I know, I had a party given by family and one from work. Do not feel bad, just be polite, but say no. Don't let her turn her lack of planning turn this into a hassle for you.
2007-02-10 01:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sabrina 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Send a nice gift to your friend with a card that explains you could not get out of the family shower, but you hope you can bring her goodies after the baby's born and catch up -- or go out for coffee or something before the big event. The family shower is an investment in your future. If your friend is a good one, she will understand. EDIT: An alternative. One way you could explain to your in-laws that you must attend your friend's shower is to explain that you received her invitation first, so you would feel very rude eschewing hers to attend a different event. That you wish you could do both, and you'll miss seeing everyone oh-so-much, but there's really nothing you can do. Because technically, since you were invited to this shower first, you must accept that invitation first; not hold out for the other.
2016-05-24 23:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think that is a good idea. if they weren't important enough to be on the original invite list -- they shouldn't be invited at the last minute. sounds like she's only wanting more presents. maybe mention that your place is too small and if she REALLY wants you to do so -- you can have a second party with those friends a few weeks from now. if anyone wants to know why -- tell them you house was too small to have one big party. maybe the mom to be will forget about it and enjoy this one party you have planned.
** i would be really insulted if i got invited the day before -- i may feel better about it if you called and said... i didn't get your rsvp but i wanted to call you in person to see if you received the invite. but that still should have been done more than one day ahead.
2007-02-10 01:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by curious_One 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that it is a little too last minute for notice and you feel like it is inappropriate to call the people the day before. Personally, if someone calls me to a birthday or shower the day before it only adds stress to everything because I may have had something planned, may have to work and this now means that sometime, before the stores close, you have to run to the mall and get a gift.
If you explain to her that you feel like you would be imposing an inconvience on the people, she should understand.
2007-02-10 05:17:33 · answer #4 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her the truth. It's pretty inappropriate to ask the day before. I'm sure they would like a little more notice than that, especially if they want to buy you a gift, and they don't have enough money. Then they will feel cheap if they can't bring you a gift. If your house isn't big enough to host that many people, than that's a pretty good excuse, not to mention you didn't make enough food, or have enough party favors. I would just tell her the truth. Or tell her to call the people not you.
2007-02-10 01:25:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No this is not appropriate. Have another shower if she wants but inviting people the day before is tacky! Just tell her you dont think this is right but offer to have another one or help someone else out with another one.
2007-02-10 01:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, unless these other people have expressed an interest in coming to your shindig, it would be very insulting to issue a last-minute invitation. If mom-to-be can't enjoy her party as it is set up, she really doesn't even deserve that much. Simply tell her you are unable to because of space restraints.
2007-02-10 01:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Taffy Saltwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she just wants more gifts. She shouldn't even know about the shower and she should have given you a complete list early on to avoid this and so that you could make proper plans.
2007-02-10 01:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No she is trolling for gifts and that is not the purpose of the shower.Let her know what you can accomodate and if she feels she needs tio include new folks ask her to figure out who to univite. Tell her to do the last minute asking. You have enough on your plate planning and accomodating her shower.
2007-02-10 01:16:06 · answer #9 · answered by Grianagh 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's very tacky of her to ask this of you...people need time to plan and you will be putting these last few people on the spot and possibly making them very uncomfortable. Just tell her this and stick to the original plans.....save yourself from the embarrassment it will cause.
2007-02-10 02:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by Blondie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋