My ex & I were discussing getting back together christmas day & told him i'd think about it as it was a very difficult relationship & i wasn't sure if he was right for me. he managed to talk me round to agree to think about it, then on boxing day i went to his & let myself in & there he was in bed with this slapper that i know. I went mad beat hre up & threw her out then smashed up his flat.
He didn't speak to me for a few weeks but is now back on my case to try again. I've told him no but he won't accept that, he doesn't understand how much he hurt me & I can't forgive him. Can anyone give me any ideas on how to handle this one?
Should I get back with him or leave him and just try to ignore his calls (which is not easy)
2007-02-10 01:01:03 · 40 answers · asked by emzie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the only way people will start to treat you with respect is if you treat yourself with respect....
tell yourself..... you deserve better then this man, next he want to see you meet him in a public place....put best frock and lippy on... be late.... so hes sat waiting for you... then tell him sorry your moving on and he is not going to be part of your life anymore.... not only will this give you a new found confidence but it will help with mental health and if hes sleeping around thing of your sexual health!!
yes it sounds easy but i did this after my ex husband used me for 22 years as a punch bag, had string of "lady friends", and gambled our house away... one day i decided i am better than this i am now in very very happy relationship with a man i love a trust.....
2007-02-10 01:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by tink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him and he`ll soon get the message,he cant have wanted you back that much if he had another girl in his bed,you deserve so much better and someone who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve.
Just move on and forget the scumbag don`t let him talk you round no matter what he promises,as i did and the b@stard left me and our son again after 5 months so like me stop being treated like a doormat and find some self respect and walk away with your head held high.
2007-02-10 02:03:11 · answer #2 · answered by onlyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the calls you know you should just get on with life and find someone who treats you the way you should be treated . Have a happy life you cant have that with a difficult relationship he brings out the worst in you . when you feel your best with someone you will know it is the one for you . Happy searching x
2007-02-13 19:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by lucy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my own personal experience, I would leave now and start living life for yourself and your family and friends, and then, if your boyfriend can fit into your life, then, you have the option to ask yourself if you should take him back...Just try to remember that life is short and every second counts, so have fun and do not stress so much about the something that did not really work in the first place.
2007-02-10 01:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should go back to him but make him jealous of you instead the other way round. Why not have a good night out with your girls! Go and treat yourself. Make your-self busy instead of mopping around and having a go at him. If this doesn't work then i would dump him as there are many good looking blokes out there love might just be round the corner.
2007-02-10 01:12:30 · answer #5 · answered by ...x...Dani...x.... 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
leave him alone... once a cheater always a cheater... you can not trust him... if there is no trust in a relationship there is nothing... He probably is lonely right now and he if feeding off of he knows you love him and if he promises that he will change and cries in front of you.... you will forgive him.... Naw F that... Girl move on, there are so many men out there that will treat you so much better... and tell him he needs to step his cheating game up... How he trying to cheat at his crib and you got a KEY? stupid..... you don't want a fool like that.... good luck
2007-02-10 01:06:50 · answer #6 · answered by Shonda 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don,t waste your time on this ex of yours.
If you can,t forgive him and he can,t understand
how you feel - wheres, the foundation for a good
relationship?
You can ignore his calls and tell someone else
to ask him to leave you alone while you sort
your feelings. I mean, he talks you round on
Christmas Day then in bed with someone else
the next - DUMP HIM>
2007-02-10 01:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by Minxy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're such a violent person who'd beat up another woman and trash your ex's place from a fit of jealousy; you deserve the bad treatment from that guy whom I assume is no prize either. Try to improve yourself by being a more civilized person and you'll attract a better class of people. Stay crazy as you are and that guy is whom you deserve. Or worse!
2007-02-10 01:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
u should leave him there's no question about it!why would u even consider getting back with this guy!u said u two had a very difficult relationship,then he wonted to get back with u,he manages to make u think about getting back with him,u do think about him and then u find him with another woman before u've even said yes!and now he wont's to take u for a ride again! as hard as it is ignore his calls and get yourself a guy who will have some respect for u! hope i've helped! good luck :)
2007-02-10 01:17:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you get back with him then you will have to be prepared for the fact that he owns you and he can do what he wants, because he knows you won't do anything about it. Do you really want a relationship like that?
I say get some self respect, and maybe a restraining order.
2007-02-10 01:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by cigaro19 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋