Shes 17 and 6 months pregnant and recently got engaged and planning on getting married this summer but everyone thinks shes moving way too fast but she thinks she knows best.
Her and her fiance have a apartment and two cars but a babys coming along and he dont make a lot of money and now there thinking of getting rid of both of the cars and getting a new one and they seem to have everything and somewhere in all this I'm jelouse cause I feel that its not fear shes getting the perfect family but I'm not and everything is about her and her baby and her life and I feel very left out like no one cares about me because now everyone in the family is helping her out and buying her clothes and baby stuff and stuff for her apartment they seem to have the money and shes sooooooooo spoiled and I'm not noticed like everything is about her and I'm invisible and sucks living under her feet like shes queen!!!!!!!
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!
NEED ADVICE!!!!!!
2007-02-10 00:42:49 · 15 answers · asked by jocelyn r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2007-02-10 00:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by Lana817 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What? She 17 pregnant and not married -yet? This isn't all cracked up to how you think it is. You know this will die down. All this attention will end and her struggle will just begin. It's already happening. You don't have a clue as to what her life is going to become; so don't even try. You're reading way too much into this. Be glad that you aren't going to make the mistakes she has. Having a child at that age didn't seem well thought out. Now it's rush rush rush to get things in place before the kid comes along. And a marriage besides? One thing on top of another. Be glad that you are where you are and you have some time to think about how you would like your life to become. Bet you she would like to trade places with you. It's not that she is spoiled. Rather she's got a lot on her mind and very little time to think. So take it easy and don't be so quick to judge. Concentrate on what you want out of life. Look at her situation closely. Is this something to be envied? What kind of a life is this? Hap hazard and unplanned. So for now it's about her because it needs to be. There is no choice about it. It's a mad rush in a crazy dilemma. At least you have some freedom and time to think. Put it to good use. Not for nothing but you will be noticed soon enough; when a baby sitter is needed.
2007-02-10 09:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that it is normal for you to feel this way if you have been ignored and not been inportant in the family, i have been there and odne that, like "somone i know" who gets all the attention in my family and she does stupid things and they are all for her, this will blow over because you shoud do what i did, i went to college got an awesome degree and now i make 6 figures and drive the car i have always wanted, two of them :) while her and her husband have a baby and dead end jobs with no degrees all because they went too fast in life, plus now i have a wonderful husband and everythning will fall in place for you, because all i hear about nowadays is "look at"m" she's my favorite daugther, she does this balh blah..... and in the end the other sisiter still can't get it together... :) good luck, and for now sweetheart Just do you!!!
2007-02-10 10:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax hun...I know it's totally unfair to be pushed aside and neglected and it feels really awful. But give it time and the attention to her will fade and your family will get back to normal...but that might be quite a while after the baby's born. But instead of hating your cousin for all the attention and luck she's experiencing, try to be happy for her. How would you like it if you were in her shoes and your cousin was jealous of you? Try to get involved in the excitement rather than resenting her. Besides, you never know, your life might end up better than hers. You don't know it yet.
Keep a positive outlook. Hopefully everything works out for the best. :)
2007-02-10 09:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a very evil thing in a family, i don't know how old you are but you sound very imature. You should be happy for your cousin, and one day good things will come to you, i wouldn't suggest getting pregnant, go to school, get good grades etc.. talk to your parents about how you are feeling. And it rarely works out for young married teenagers like that, they will be a time she may need you and i hope you will be there for her. Good luck
2007-02-10 08:51:02 · answer #5 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it this way you better be glad that you are not pregnant and having a baby because babies are alot of responsibilities, they have to be fed all hours of the night, and require constant care and when they start teething oh boy they cry and cry and scream because their mouth hurts and so on.. Just be glad that you are not in her shoes and you can enjoy your freedom and not be tied down to anything trust what i say it will not be easy for her..
2007-02-10 08:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in your situation last year ago. It was when my cousin who was 18 years old got pregnant. You know what i felt that time? I'm sad and I pity her. I felt bad for her because she can no longer do things in her suppose to do. She can no longer party like other teenagers, stay with her friends, do outing, go on dates, things like that. having baby means having BIG responsibilities. you are no longer thinking just about yourself but more for your baby. she needs to feed her baby, change clothes, change diaper from time to time *which is very tiring on her part*.
you what girl, i can see that your still immature. instead of getting jealous/envy on your cousin, why not just help her out? stop yourself from thinking that she's the queen now and your invincible to your family cause you know in your heart that it's not true. your family is helping her right now cause her situation is very complicated and her health is highly in risk.
focus yourself with other things. study hard. work hard. keep yourself busy. don't think of following your cousin's pregnancy. i'm sure that your family is very sad for what happened cause she's too young for things like that and they want something more for her and for you.
2007-02-10 09:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by poochini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says she has the perfect family, she has no idea what she is in for, don't be jealous, be happy, you will not be tied down to any baby or man, your responsibilities will in no way compare to your cousins. Believe you me, the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
2007-02-14 06:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE IS nothing to be jealous about... she has now made it to statics status... she is a teen mother... You just have to find something to succeed in. Go get straight A's in school. Start applying for college... Your cousin life is over and you have all yours ahead of you... so bump that whole having kids things and start to travel. Go see the world. Being jealous of something you have no control over just shows the immaturity of you.
2007-02-10 09:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by Shonda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your being noticed on yahoo, so people do care. They are giving you, a total stranger, their time and attention. This is a much better way to get noticed than being 17 and pregnant.
2007-02-10 09:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by sue k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang in there. watch and wait and don't say anything. She is too young and doesn't know where she is headed. She and her BF will never amount to much if anything at all. Whenever the going gets rough he may bail on her and your relatives will blame her for his departure.
You want the attention but what you need to do is get an education
2007-02-10 08:59:22 · answer #11 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋