My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and have been together for almost 2 years. However, he is very jealous or whatever...I dunno...he's older and he's got that Spanish temper I guess, so he blows up about everything and like most Hispanic men..he doesn't like any man close to me. The other day, I gave this guy a ride home from class the other day...he lived 3 minutes from the school, but rather than fight(which is what it would have been SERIOUSLY!)....I didn't tell him. The guy didnt try to get with me and I DEFINITELY ain't interested in him. Just last week I shared with him that I gave a guy from my BIO class my number cuz the guy isnt good at it and I am, so he asked if he ever had questions could he call me and MY BOYFRIEND FLIPPED OUT ON ME. So I decided not to share this with him...am I being bad to him for that?
2007-02-10 00:36:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Erica,
Let me ask you this, If he knew you were asking this question, and geting advice (from men) how do you think he would react...
My wife asks people questions all the time. I trust her.
Sometimes I get mad, sometimes she gets mad, at things, each other, whatever, but we respect each other and support each other, because even if you are you shouldn't be right (or impose your will on someone) all the time.
Good relationships are build on trust.
Sounds like he has insucurity issues with you, is controlling, and wants you all to himself.
If you find you are changing who you are or need to hide things from him, you should seriously question your relationship with him.
There are plenty of fish in the sea and they love you the way you are...
Be strong and if you do leave him NEVER go back, he'll keep sucking you in and continue to make you missarable.
Love is not what you say... It's what you do.
Hope that helps....
2007-02-10 00:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by Geno The Colorist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to hide things from your boyfriend just so he doesn't blow up at you then this should be a major clue about the quality of your relationship. Personally I'd say go out there and find someone who is more understanding. There's nothing wrong with being friends to other guys when you're in a relationship. Just think of all the things you'll have hide because your boyfriend has a jealousy problem. Drop him and move on.
2007-02-10 08:43:31 · answer #2 · answered by theanswerman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know if he is this way now and you havent even been together 2 yrs yet. STOP AND THINK how this relationship will be in another 2 yrs. Jealousy and Insecureity if either on of them are in a relationship it wont last. Sorry to say but I've seen so many end because of it. And its not worth going threw all the worrying and stress that will make old real fast if not kill you first. I wish you all the luck!
2007-02-10 09:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by danbar2 dig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a very jealous person and this is not good for a relationship. Relationships are built on trust. He will always be like this and the controlling will only get worse.
2007-02-10 08:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you arent being bad to him. It sounds to me that he is the one being bad to you. How old are you? You sound young for a possesive relationship. Your boyfriend should trust you and your judgement of other men. You should not be afraid to tell him about things like this.
2007-02-10 08:42:19 · answer #5 · answered by katyllou 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Big deal, you gave a guy a ride home. If your boyfriend can't handle that, then get rid of him and find someone who isn't so controlling and who isn't so jealous.
2007-02-10 08:43:33 · answer #6 · answered by Macca 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is your question again?
I got lost reading about how Hispanic men are so and so, and since I never dated one, I was just sitting wondering if I should care how you stereotype them as having bad tempers.
Not hispanic, but wouldn't want to talk bad about them. They are cool folks.
2007-02-10 08:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lana817 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dear miss
as a reply to your question i must say that do not ever think about yourself such terrible things.you are a humanbeing with feelings.
and you do not deserve such treatment from anyone.
if he has such a way of treating others you should confront him
and tell what you feel.if he dose not accept that tell goodbye and find someone who respects you
sincerly yours
a friend
2007-02-10 08:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has issues he needs to deal with but don't let those issues make you compromise your integrity you shouldn't have to keep things from him you are feeling guilty already its not because he flips out i believe you feel like you cant be honest with him because he overreacts good luck in the future i hope things get better for you
2007-02-10 08:49:36 · answer #9 · answered by bikerreveal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You haven't done anything wrong.
Sounds like your BF has a problem with trust issues.
You may want to rethink your relationship with him.
2007-02-10 08:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋