Help! I have been invited for a bridal shower, and they have placed a gift registry with Croft and Barrel. My questions are:
1)If I like an item from the registry should I buy it ONLY from C&B or can I buy it elsewhere for a better price?
2)Should I gift ONLY items mentioned in the registry (as some of them suck) or can I buy something else?
3) Would giving a gift card be too tacky?
4) Also, should we take another gift for the wedding reception which is few months from now?
I appreciate your quick responses! Thanks!
2007-02-10 00:29:37 · 8 answers · asked by Student 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
1) If the exact same item, brand name and everything, is in another store for a better price, yes you can buy it from the other store.
2) It's better to buy from the registry if you can, you know it's what they wanted, it takes the guess work off of you, and you have better chance of not repeating a gift
3) Yes, a gift card at a bridal shower is tacky. If you weren't going to the shower and were only attending the wedding you could put the gift card in a congrats card and put it on the gift table at the reception, but not at the shower, gifts are expected in the more intimate setting.
4) Only one gift is required.
Take care!
2007-02-10 01:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by disneychick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1] If you like an item, you can buy it any place. But call C&B and tell them you purchased it, and ask them to take it off the registry.
2] You can buy them anything you wish! You do not have to stick to what they are registered for.
3] I think a gift card would be very nice. There will always be things that they will need.
4] Normally, a smaller gift is given at the shower, and something bigger for the wedding. But if you give a big one at the shower, one for the wedding is not necessary. And for either one, only give what you can afford! Guests should not be expected to pay for a reception!
2007-02-13 06:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. If you don't get it from Craft and Barrell, it won't come off the regestry and therefore they may get a double of a gift. One of those screwed if you do, screwed if you don't events....
2. You don't have to get things from off the registry, but remember: those tacky things she obviously likes or needs. Someone will get them...
3. If it is not on the registry it is a little impersonal and tacky for a shower. She probably put everything she wanted from the store on the registry, so you might as well get something off of it.
4. Yes, you need another gift. The total value of the gift should be somewhere from 75-100 per person.
2007-02-10 13:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Generally you should purchase only from the registary so that it comes off the registary and there is no doubling.
2. You don't have to but it is recommended. The items may suck to you, but maybe she likes it or needs it. Get her something on the registary and something that you think is nice for her then.
3. I don't think so. Check to see if they have gift cards as part of the registary.
4. The shower and the wedding are two seperate entities. You get a gift for the shower to help the bride build up a household. The gift for the wedding is really to help pay for the extremly expensive wedding that they put on. A lot of them run at lthe very least $100 a person, and that's just for the catering hall. Not including flowers and favors, etc. The going rate of wedding gifts is generally $100 a person.
2007-02-10 09:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bridal showers have gotten to formal with the gift registries everyone is going to. And these places can be expensive. Buy what you can ....where you can...and at the price you can afford.
I don't think a gift card is tacky at all....something might come up later that she needs to add to the household items.
See what happens with the shower first....hehehe.....the wedding is still down the road,......good luck.
2007-02-10 15:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by Blondie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can buy from somewhere else but then the item wont be taken off the registry and the bride may get double. You dont have to buy from the registered place nor do you have to get something from the registry. Yes..you do being another gift to the wedding.
2007-02-10 09:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughters were recently married and they loved getting gift cards. You don't have to buy your gift off the registry but when you do they eliminate that gift. They also got gifts that were not on their registry. Do as you choose (although they might be returned). A wedding gift should be purchased also.
2007-02-11 20:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just buy something from C&B so she doesn't get doubles. You don't have to like what you get her.
I don't think a gift card is tacky at all! I got a $110 gift certificate from co-workers who all pitched in for it. I loved being able to shop for myself instead of getting tacky dishtowels and other crap people "thought" I'd like.
And yeah, you should get another gift for the wedding. That's the proper thing to do.
2007-02-10 10:29:13 · answer #8 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋