if several family members have treated you like dirt for so many years, and yesterday 3 awful and mean things?

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were said and you found out, would one be justified in cutting off all contact. Please note that they have done a lot of awful things to me and I keep going around them and trying to forgive, but yesterday was the final straw. They are too mean and I feel I hate them and never wish to see them. I always am the one trying and I'm tired of what they do. I feel I should not do this as Jesus said turn the other cheek. They will care less if they never see me anyway and I think would prefer it..it was me who felt one should not essentially write off family. Even my son has advised me to "write them off" and said "they are not a family" and just now someone from suicide prevention said "I should not hang around them and she does go around people she doesn't like..to say "you're mean" and walk away and be done with it and don't let them justify. Is she right? Am I? they have made me cry 6 Christmases in a row and yesterday at a funeral really upset and hurt me and some things they

said that got back to me and also were overheard was thought by those telling me (family that does care) was shocked saying it was a horrible thing to say. I'm done done with them and their meanness and I need to know that is OK? Or is it not? Does God ask too much in me letting them continue to hurt me? to ask me to always forgive people who aren't sorry and don't care.

Am I reading things wrong as far as God..I have been hurt too much to let it continue anymore. I want to break all contact but I do how to see them as mom is dying within 6 months and it will be a nightmare when she goes. We predict fights..

Also should I write a letter telling them how they made me feel and telling them off? I want to say something to one of them but was sworn to secrecy by the person who told me and they said they will never speak to me if I mention what the mean relative said..it is hard not to want to respond about it to the insulter or at least tell my mom (who I can't as she blabs eve

everything and always takes the other person's side over mine but she is the only one I have to talk too)..please answer as many of my questions as you can.

Answer 1

you've got to ask yourself whether this family is what you really wish to end up with in the future. once you've left this family, you'll know how much they'll miss you. no matter how bad they've treated you, you have always put up with it and this i commend you. but you can't always stay this way, things will become worse and more worse.the girl you mentioned in suicide prevention doesn't seem to be the person whose shoes you're in. you are in a worse state compared to her and what i would advise is to question yourself, is it worth it to spend the rest of your life just as miserable? everyone deserves to be treated in the right manner, your family members should not be treating you like this. 6 Christmases and yet you're still with them, your courage and determination shows me how much you're willing to sacrifice for this family. and my advise to you is to ask yourself whether this family has recognised the number of sacrifices you've made for them. whether you've had enough of them criticising you. you may think that god has give you this challenge, but i ask do you deserve this?

Answer 2

Sorry to here that your Mom is sick. I understand how you feel. But you need to be there for yourself do not listen to what they have to say when you go to places that your family is at just stay away from the ones that continue to be ignorant you are A much better person than they are. You have to be strong and not let them bother you I know it is hard but you can do it trust in God. You said people are saying awful things did you try to just ignore the things they are saying as the saying goes sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me. If your family is not worth being around them than be there for your Mother.

Answer 3

Just let them go, you did your part to reconcile the relationship with them and they refuse to stop the talking about you. You can only turn the other cheek for so long. As long as you have family that knows how you are and they don't listen to all the smack the other family members are talking about you that's all you need.

Put it this way maybe they are jealous of you and they think that talking smack is going to make you look different in other peoples eyes. Let them talk and ignore it cause misery loves company.

Good Luck and I hope everything comes out good for you.

Answer 4

you know what for a long time my sister did not like me and she probably still does not. But Honey God works wonders let me tell you the nicer you stay the better your reward (trust me) to this day my family needs me and i am constantly their, but my blessing is greater than writting someone off, let God work through you so your light can shine because you know the outcome is better. Every one that has mistreated you will need you in the end. My pockets are never empty that is my blessing

Answer 5

some older human beings behave as you describe, yet many (if no longer maximum) do no longer. If that's a metamorphosis to your mom, then i think of that's significant that she is examined by using her well-being care expert. appearing out, being propose, could be a demonstration of dementia and there are a number of reasons for dementia (stroke, Alzheimer's, etc.) it could additionally be led to by using melancholy or an rigidity affliction, drugs, soreness from arthritis, diabetes, kidney ailment, and particularly some different maladies. some human beings have continuously been this sort yet are greater outspoken as they age. possibly your mom could enable you to bypass along with her to be certain the well-being care expert, so which you will describe what you're watching. If no longer, you are able to truly touch her well-being care expert and describe what you're seeing over the telephone. My mom has continuously been somewhat propose; yet her self administration has lessened as she has gotten older. She has an rigidity affliction, yet has no longer accomplished each and all the failings her medical doctors have cautioned. She incredibly would not understand in the 2nd that she is being propose or impolite. the main suitable i've got been waiting to be certain to do approximately her habit is: spend time along with her, inspire her to get out, attempt to comedian tale along with her relating to the failings she says, tell her that i could desire to take a ruin because of the fact what she is asserting/doing is propose, distract her, do no longer enable myself to be embarrassed by using what she says or does. attempt to attend and notice; i understand that isn't uncomplicated!

Answer 6

You don't need to cut off all contact with your family but you could try to reduce the amount of contact you have with them. The most important thing is to live your life the way you think is best. There will always be people who put you down so it's like the song says "you can't please everyone so you've got to please yourself".

Answer 7

Stop contact and move on without them. No one is worth that much trouble. Sometimes family members will do you dirty before a friend will.

Answer 8

STOP RIGHT NOW!!!!!! DO NOT ALLOW OTHERS TO TAKE YOUR HAPPINESS AND PEACE OF MIND AWAY....YOU DONT HAVE TO TAKE THIS........JUST WRITE THEM OFF AS A BAD EXPERIENCE AND GO ON WITH YOUR LIFE THE WAY YOU WANT TO LEAD IT.......SORRY TO HEAR THIS....TIME TO PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN......YOU CAN ONLY FORGIVE SO MUCH......GOOD LUCK......BE HAPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

why would you keep putting yourself through this and getting so upset you need to keep away from them they don't sound like a very nice lot to me

Answer 10

this reminds me of a stcker I have on my older car, "A Happy Family is a Medicated One...'

Get your family some psychological help, STAT!