My uncle passed away on Thursday from cancer. We were a very close family and when I was growing up we used to spend loads of times together as my cousin and I are the same age. I am in the process of writing out a sympathy card for my auntie and my head is just shot - I simply cannot find any words of comfort to write to her. I don't just want to write the usual sorry for your loss and thinking of you etc. I would really appreciate any words or versus to help me or any websites.
I don't want to copy them I just need some inspiration so it will help me. I know it must come from the heart and it will I just need a helping hand to get my brain working. Any advice would be gratefully received
2007-02-09 23:51:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank you all so much for your answers, they have helped a lot. It will be coming from my heart because only I can tell her what he meant to me but at the moment my head is just a great big mess. I am still in shock because he was only diagnosed before Christmas. I know what I feel and want to say I just can't seem to be able to put it down on paper.
2007-02-10 00:22:46 · update #1
Thank you Ms Mat Urity - when I read your answer it hit be like a ton of bricks. I write short stories and children's stories and have never had problems - maybe it is just too soon to put into words - I just kept thinking if I get something on paper it will be something for her to keep and for her to read when she is ready - but you are right I don't have to do it yet. Besides if I give my self time to grieve it will be easier for me to say the words.
2007-02-10 23:58:26 · update #2
Remember a really fun time that you had over at your uncle's house and write about the fun times and fun memories.
Here is an example
When I was 12, uncle Bob took me fishing and I caught my first fish, it was an amazing experience, and I will always remember the good times we had!!!!
Write something such as that.
I am sorry for your loss, hunny. *huggs to you*!
2007-02-09 23:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's too soon for your aunt to take in anything that is written on a card at this moment and if you were close much too soon for you. Just sincerely write on the card what you have said to us as in you simply cannot find any words of comfort to write to her, adding you are in complete shock and just can't imagine how awful she must be feeling Tell her that you hope there will come a day when the 2 of you (or whoever else) can be together and remember all the happy times you had with him.
2007-02-10 11:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Auntie that your Uncle gave you so many great memories and he will be alive in your heart always. Talk about a couple of your favorite memories with him....it will make her smile! Tell her to hold her memories close and cherish the time they had together. Offer to be there for her if she ever wants to talk & let her know that she is important to you and will never be alone. Also, tell her that you will pray that God will give her the strength and courage she needs to get through this. I'm sure you will find the right words in your heart and she will get great comfort from your note. I am sorry for your loss.
2007-02-10 00:15:10 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-24 23:15:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. just tell them how wonderful he was and how you enjoyed spending time with him and the family. something which is personal from your memory is always better than a verse off the net. think about a funny memory, it may not seem appropriate but they will be pleased you remember those times and it will touch them more than a tacky 'I'm really sorry for your loss' verse. good luck and deepest sympathy.
2007-02-09 23:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by Giggle Angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
write a story about what you and your uncle used to do, with dialogue in it, the way he used to talk with you. take a memory of a trip and turn it into a story that adults or kids can read.
stories bring the person to life... use your mind to picture your uncle and translate it into words.
the best way to overcome loss for many people is to never let them die in your heart or your mind.
2007-02-09 23:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by maggiemae821 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You always make me smile
when i feel a little blue
so now i'd like to share
a little happiness with you
Whenever im feeling down
you always lift me up
and build me up with confidence
that you know I havn't got
Right now i'd like to be a part
a part of your warm and loving heart
and to show you just how much i care
im letting you know i'll always be there
I wrote this for a relative who was dying about 10 yrs ago of cancer and after they passed away i put it in their coffin, it made me feel better
2007-02-10 00:00:46 · answer #7 · answered by ✿Regina Felangie✿ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first - try YOUR best ...it should come from your heart !
But this may help :
You had a great life with a great man - celebrate his life not his death!
You will have have memories ....just remember the good ones!
Times like these are very tough - but you ALWAYS have me there ANYTIME !! I love you
2007-02-09 23:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by SARAH♫☼ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello friend, my heartfelt condolences. i know it might be hard for u to find out the right words for someone with whom u have spend many a good time. we will be able to direct u to some websites that may offer u the choicest verses and words. but they may not be neough sometimes. i think u can do better if u turn to urselves. rather than focusing on verse, written by others why dont u think abt all those beaitiful hours u spent in the company of ur uncle and ur cousin? try to express them in words and sent them to ur aunt. good memeories are what we all like to cling to.surely, u will not like to brood over his death, right?instead u will like to remember again and agin abt his beautiful life. so why dont u try to focus on the good memories of ur uncle which will live with u forever rather than the sorrow of his deathwhich u would like to get over with?ur aunt too will like it. it would be evn more better if u pay her a visit. believe me, she would appreciate it. some years back, my uncle who was suffering from depression committed suicide. he had 10 nephews and neices including myself. we all went there and stayed with her for a few days to give her company and to take her mind off the death of her husband.taht definitely helped her a lot. after the funeral service she took out the photo album of her wedding and showed it to us, telling us of the funny things that took place on hr wedding day. we all laughed. more importantly she too laughed a lot.it helped her recover fast. had she been left alone she might have spent the entire time crying and brooding over it. i would suggest tat u should try to visit her. once again, my condolences. may his soul rest in peace.
2007-02-10 00:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by lilac4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would put my words like this 'Uncle gave us all our own special time and by this we all had our own wonderful experiences with him. By keeping Uncle within our hearts he will live on through us, for always.
2007-02-10 03:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋