i have been with a few people in my life, im 29, but i have never meet the right person yet, and i really dont no if i will, would it be mean of me to want to have sex, for my first time with just a friend, just so that im no longer a virgin,im thinking of it, but he is only a friend, its just that all my friends are haveing sex and i want to have that good feeling, but i dont no how long it will take to find the right man, im always at work or busy with my study.
2007-02-09 22:59:14 · 8 answers · asked by jen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, I don't think it's "mean" to want to have sex with your friend. Just realize that your friendship will never be the same.
Never.
I'm not saying it will change for the worse, but it just won't be like it was.
That said, I understand what you're feeling. I know what it's like to want that feeling, I entered the ring rather late myself.
A lot of attention is given to considering virginity as either an annoyance to be rid of, or a precious gift to give to someone.
But what about your first sexual experience being a special gift for yourself? It sounds like you are giving a lot consideration to all the issues.
Some good advice was given to me many years ago when I wondered if I was ready for sex:
Ask youself if you can pass BOTH of these tests! One: can you go into a shop in your own neighbourhood and put your own money on the counter and in a normal voice ask for a box of condoms?
Two:Can you have sex with the lights on? No - dimmers and candles don't count! Remember, if you can't face what you're doing or who your doing it with, why are you doing it? That's not a potted plant you're in bed with! It's another person - with fears and hopes and feelings....
I hope that - whenever you decide to have your experience you enjoy yourself and so does your partner. I didn't "lose" my virginity, I know EXACTLY where I left it! I threw it away with joyful abandon, and was happy and confident!
I wish you the same.
:)
AT
2007-02-09 23:17:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, stop waiting for "the perfect man". There is no custom fit in an off the rack world. And you're a 29 year old virgin? You gotta let the fruit ripen, not rot off the tree!
Friends and sex are tricky, you may very well lose that friend. Go out, meet someone, even if only for a night.
2007-02-10 07:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by guy o 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. What an earth makes you think that having sex will result in that 'good feeling'? No, it's not fair to use a friend just for sex, eeww skanky much? Sex should be with someone special who gives it more meaning than just being something to do for a 'good feeling'. You seem emotionally immature and inexperienced and my advice would be to wait until your studies are finished before looking for someone special.
2007-02-10 07:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have sex with a friend just for the sake of having sex. Thats will be terrible thing for both of you.
If you want to have sex for the sake of having sex then do it with somebody else, which I WOULDN'T!
Concentrate on your studies, as you have said, but also mingle with other people on your spare time. You will meet somebody with whom you can fall in love.
All the best!
2007-02-10 07:07:12 · answer #4 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why after holding out all this time would you want to give it to someone you don't love. Don't be crazy, be patient the right guy will come along. If you have sex with your friend you will regret it and you will lose a friend.
2007-02-10 07:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't make decisions under peer preassur coz later on you will realise that sex is not what you expected and you will regret for the rest of your life ,wait until the time is rihgt and you will never have doubts.sex is enjoyable if 2 people are in love.dont have sex b'cox every does.the right time will come be patient. GOOD LUCK.
2007-02-10 07:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by bontle s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't have sex with someone you don't like just to join in. If you feel bad then try hanging out with someone new.
2007-02-10 07:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by notoriousteen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come and call me I am available but are you right one for me
2007-02-10 07:10:03 · answer #8 · answered by killer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋