We lived together and would of been together a year on monday, we were fine as friends when we split up but i got upset the other day and he's now ignoring me completely, wont answer my calls or texts, i feel so low i honestly dont no what to do, i thought he was my soul mate :(
2007-02-09 22:49:33 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Believe me when I say this. ANYone and EVERYone CAN BE replaced. He dumped you, so move on. He can be replaced so much quicker than you think and or believe. BUT do yourself a BIG favor. Don't just grab the first guy that come along. Just hang with friends and take it from there. You'll find one and sooner than you think. It is your boyfriend lose not yours. He will realize this and if your smart don't take him back. You'd be doing yourself a big injustice. He doesn't deserve you in the least. Good luck.
2007-02-09 23:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
this may sound like you can't do it but do not call him. when u call him he will not miss your presence as you are still with him. give your phone to a friend and do not beat them up when they refuse to give you it back - its for your own good. be sad but dont wallow in your misery. spend a day with your friends or alone watching a sad film and crying etc, and then make sure your busy always to keep your mind occupied, go shopping, or window shopping as a cheaper solution, go to the cinema, get your hair done and nails facial to boost up that self esteem. after a week or so gou out on the nights with your mates and dress up with your mates, you may not feel like it but the wolf whistles will put a smile on your face. then, eventually you wont need to preoccupy yourself as the thoughts of this foolish boy will come to you less and less. when you get this strong you can then call him as he will see how strong you have become. and then you can chuck away all the memories you collected of him an you
im so so sorry, i know totally how you feel and i went through this myself and wouldnt have gottn thru it if it hadnt been for my mates ringing me up at ll hours and letting me waffle on about him esp at nights when i usually used to talk to him. if he was your soul mate you would still be together. or as boys do, he's just confused. you never know he could just be abit scared of all the strong feelings he has for you but then again HE MAY not. sometimes its good to be realistic rather than overly optimistic as you wont get hurt. at the mo the more you call him the more e will shut you out. dont let him do that to you. take your self respect and keep it. and for now take each day as it comes and dont think about the future. focus on hving fun and eating ice cream! yum
2007-02-10 00:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by DesertRose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's heartbreaking but it's over. He made his decision so it's time for you to accept it and stop trying to contact him. It only prolongs the pain for you and stops you from starting to heal and move on. We've all lost someone we thought was 'the one' only to go on and find someone else. Set a time limit on the time you will allow yourself to grieve for this relationship. Since you've already had 3 weeks I would suggest another week. Then contact your female friends and tell them that although you're still feeling fragile you need to go out and have some fun. Next, whether you feel like it or not, go out and actually have some fun. You need other things than your ex to occupy your mind. I'm not saying it will be easy but you need to do it for your own sake. By the way, ice cream helps in the interim week. Good luck.
2007-02-09 23:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey there,we dont know what guys think most of the time and thats the hardest part.well as u said he dumped u so u should find the strength to move on i know it is very hard but thats what u gotta do girl but if u still love him and u want him to be still ur soul mate then dont give up.rock on take care the are alot of guys who r looking 4 a girl like u.xxxtinaxx
2007-02-09 23:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by Tina G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is probably something going on that you don't know about and he is not telling you. if he is ignoring you it is because he is trying to protect you (and himself) from getting hurt.
i personally would advise that you try not to see or talk to him for the next 6 months and give your self the opportunity to change with out him in your life. if you feel like speaking to him, write it down, put it in an evelope and put it in drawer. you really won't get anything from him, and desperately trying will jsut make it worse.
after 6 mths, meet him and see that things are different, take more space and do it again. one day you will see him and that will be it.
i personally don't believe that you can stay friends with someone you have had an intimate relationship with simply because when they have a new partner, the intimacy will be in that relationship, you will feel shut out etc. alot of emotions and being let down etc etc.
so get on with your life, redefine yourself and survive as you are ment to. there is someone else out there for you so don't worry too much about it.
2007-02-09 23:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by sofiarose 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on, if you start getting hysterical on him he will run a mile anyway just take the good memories and find someone who is your soul mate. There were obviously reasons you split up, think about them and get on with your life enlightened.
2007-02-09 22:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by Giggle Angel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He obviously has some personal issues with himself if he can't speak with you. You are best not pursuing him and let him have some time. If he realises he misses you then he will contact you, if not then if was not meant to be and you will no doubt meet someone better suited to you. It may seem like a hard thing to do but you need to leave the decision up to him. If he is man enough then maybe you will be friends
2007-02-09 23:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by the_armani_gent 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forget him and move on. I know it's hard at first, but it's the only thing that works. Trying to remain friends doesn't work either, so just toss that out the window right now. He wouldn't have left you if he loved you, so you know where you stand with him. If he tries to come back now, it's just until he finds someone he considers better than you. Cut your losses and be done with him on a permanent basis.
2007-02-09 23:03:07 · answer #8 · answered by truckinmann 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i honestly feel for you, but you never grow up if never dumped. be a good girl and acept the fact that it's all over. no good thing last a life time. and don't go rushing into another relationship. we men are all the same.
2007-02-10 01:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by Josh A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to beat yourself up about it,life sucks sometimes...Get out with your mates and try taking your mind off him gradually and have some fun...
2007-02-09 22:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by . 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋