So about a year ago, I dated a guy for a couple months. We had been good friends before hand, and when it didn't work out, I had hoped that we would have been able to stay friends, but no go.
I was the one that broke up with him. He was... too into me, he kept telling me how he loved me, and I didn't feel the same way, and I didn't want to lie to him, so I ended it.
Anyway, he started avoiding me, and then went to college. I felt a little hurt and sad, but I got over it after a month.
The weird thing, is that, a couple weeks ago. He wrote me this big giant email about how me breaking up with him had been the most "crushing moment of his life." and how he had "dreamed about me for six months, and had only been happy while he slept."
He wanted me to forgive him. But, besides avoiding me, he never did anything remotly bad!
Blargh! I was done with this! The whole email was so crazy and dramatic.
I have no idea what to do. I have to see him at a wedding in a couple months! Help!
2007-02-09 22:39:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just reply to his e-mail and tell him that you are really sorry but you didn't feel the same way he did. That he didn't do anything wrong just sometimes people don't click right. Tell him that you forgive him for avoiding you but you understand if he was hurt by you breaking up with him and tell him that you hope you two could try and be friends...Good luck at the wedding!
2007-02-09 22:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These things happen. I know. I once spent a year obsessed with a girl and after we had a falling out I spent the next 4 years punishing myself over it. I suffered heavily from depression for this time and took to alcoholism and self harm. Then one day I just realised that it was not my fault, it was not her fault and these things happen. I turned by life back on track and now lead a normal life.
I would say this guy is a lot like me. He obviously had some unrealistic ideas about love being like some wonderful medieval sonnet or classical play where the stars and beasts weep in envy for the true hearts of lovers which simply by being normal, honest and human you have managed to shatter. Eventually he will grow up and realise that love is not really magical and like in a faerie tale.
Just avoid him and let him get on with his misery for the moment, he will get over you eventually. As you said he is being "crazy and dramatic" and letting his emotions destroy himself, just step away because there is probably nothing you can do to help.
2007-02-12 20:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by monkeymanelvis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen and listen good, I don't know how old you are but I would say no more than early twenty's, if that. This dill rod thinks he is going to play a guilt trip on you and then when you see him the firs t thing he Will try to do is dominate you or bully you. He is trying to break down your barriers then catch you off guard since you haven't seen him in a while.Oh No. Its a head game that abusive men or BOYS try to play. See it. Smile at him and for good measure ....... well I cant say that.
2007-02-09 23:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants you to forgive him for behaving so crazy. come on give him a break. write back and tell him there is nothing to forgive. you miss his friendship too. you can also maybe (or dint say anything at all) say something about how you were worried about it being weird when you see each other again.
don't be such a hard ***. you will understand how he felt when it happens to you. and it will. you will fall for someone who does not feel the same. it hurts. be nice.
2007-02-09 22:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by Kim C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 01:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by roca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not over you yet.
You need to be harsh on him, so that he will finally wake up and get over you. If you be too nice to him, he'll keep thinking that he still have the chance.
Just mail him back and let him know you will never ever be back together with him again. You forget everything and just be friends. but make your point clear, not getting back together is the point. Keep a distance is good.
2007-02-09 22:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by lemonfridge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you forgive him. Poor guy, he's still not over you yet (Thats why he tried to avoid you to minimize the hurt). You'll break his heart when you see him at the wedding.
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2007-02-09 23:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by Herbal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously isn't over you yet. You just need to email him back and tell him you've forgiven him and are glad that he has moved on with his life (even if he hasn't), at least he will get the hint that YOU have moved on.
2007-02-09 22:44:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is a really nice guy, he ask you to forgive him for being mad that you dump him, but he isn't stalking you are anything. if you don't want him keep your distance, but I think you made a big mistake.
2007-02-09 22:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him its over and you don't ever want a relationship with him . and say you still want to be friends with him. if he cant except that then don't be his mate.
2007-02-09 22:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by Lolliepop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋