how can u tell when u r in love with someone, in lust or just infatuated with them?
2007-02-09 21:46:27 · 12 answers · asked by rambo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey!! here i hope this helps :D
Infatuation is a feeling; real love involves a commitment also. Infatuation is just love of emotion. Real love, though, is love of devotion. Only the emotions are affected in infatuation, but in real love both the emotions and the will are involved. Next, a person "fall into" infatuation, but "grows into" real love. Guys, have you ever seen a girl who was so beautiful that you thought you'd faint? This is infatuation! It is based totally on physical attraction; often you don't know much in-depth about the person you so-called love. Thus, infatuation is mostly biological. Also remember, never tell a girl you love her, unless you are willing to marry her.
Then, infatuation is basically selfish where real love is basically selfless . Infatuation is more interested in satisfying yourself and the "feeling" than it is in the other person. Real love is primarily interested in the other person. It seeks to give instead of get.. Love unselfishly seeks the highest good for the other person. Lastly, infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real love is strengthened by time and separation. This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the contrary, there is great pain in separation if you are truly in love.
LOVE:
Love is patient. The word translated "patient" means to wait patiently for the fulfillment of expectations. When you have diffculty dating this girl and she does not want to come out, if you truly love her, you will not complain and blame her, you must look at the situation from her point of view - maybe she is having some problems which prevented her from coming out. You must react to it with patience and understanding. Next, have you ever met someone you liked so much that you wanted to push the relationship and make it progress faster? Sure you have! Love, however, is willing to give a relationship time to grow at a natural pace. It does not push but is willing to wait for the relationship to grow at a rate that is satisfactory to both parties. Love is Kind. Love seeks to encourage and build up others. It respects the feelings and emotions of others.. It finds its greatest satisfaction in making others happy.
1. Love does not hurt. Physical and/or emotional abuse are not a part of love.
2. Love is not manipulative, it should not be used to get others to do what you want. You should never give in to demands based on the, "You would do it if you loved me!" tactic.
3. Love is an intense feeling of caring for another person. It can take many different forms (romantic, friendly, familial) but it is always about caring.
4. Although it is true that a big part of love is putting another person's happiness ahead of your own this never includes compromising your values or being untrue to yourself.
5. If somebody asks you to do something that you don't want to do in order to "prove" your love they do not love you the way you might think they do. When you love another person you don't ask them to sacrifice a part of themselves in the name of that love.
6. It is very easy to confuse lust for love. The true measure of romantic love is commitment and trust not physical attraction.
7. It is possible to feel romantic love for more than one person at a given time. Just think, if it is possible for you to love both of your parents at the same time why would it be impossible to feel romantic love for two people at once? Don't beat yourself up emotionally if you find yourself in this unhappy situation. But be sure to remain single and be open and honest with all parties about your feelings and confusion.
8. Sex is NOT love. Love is NOT sex. Sex can be a part of romantic love but it is never mandatory.
9. Romantic love can (and often does) fade. When it goes there is not always a reason. When somebody falls out of love with you it does not reflect upon your value as a person or your desirability.
10. Love should make you feel happy, secure and appreciated....................
2007-02-09 21:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by NiceGirlRee;) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a huge difference. A puppy needs housebreaking. You can't do that if you are away 8 hours a day. A puppy needs to be socialized. You can't do that if you are not home. A puppy needs lots of time and attention throughout the day to stop it becoming distructive. If you are at work all day the only way to avoid the distruction is to leave it in a crate all day. By the time it becomes a dog it should already be housebroken and have more control of it's bodily functions so yet it can go from the time you go to work until the time you get home. A dog should be socialized by the time it's a dog and no longer a puppy. A dog often would rather sleep all day and be ready for play and attention when it's owner gets home. It should also be trained so it won't be distructive once you are gone so it won't need to be left in a crate for 8 hours a day.
2016-03-29 00:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel when it is true love ... when you feel you are above selfishness in a relation. Love mainly is the translation of the feeling of devotion and sacrifice to the welfare of the other but lust and other possessiveness is always implying the idea of misusing the other and degrades the real meaning of love.
2007-02-09 21:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sara007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya can't. Read Shakespear, there's all that jazz about heaven and the sun and clouds, it all means that basically your reason is clouded when you're in love (or lust, or whatever). Not that he had all the answers, but anyway, I find it true... the best thing to do is to rely on instinct or to rely on your closest friend... either at your own risk... your friend is not you and instinct has the same chances as reason to be clouded...
2007-02-09 21:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by Viv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think this is something we only can sense ourselfs , i do know when its deep love or just lust
its not hard , so listen more to ur inside and u will find out pretty soon !
2007-02-09 21:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get to know someone and spend time with them. When you are involved in their lives and want to stick around even when things are not going well then you know that you love them.
2007-02-09 21:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they make your life complete and they still make you feel glad to be alive when you have been together for years.
I've been married 3 years and I still love my wife.
2007-02-09 21:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by Doodle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When u r in love you cant stop thinking about them
2007-02-09 21:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by ARSENAL FC 4 LIFE!! 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
when in love
you dream over her, your heart and soul is moving ,
when just in lust
your d*ick is moving up firstly.
watch closely your heart and d*ick, you will know.
2007-02-09 21:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by earthlove 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah u dont fanncy wen u luv um.wanna shag u wen infactu
2007-02-09 22:10:45 · answer #10 · answered by the pleb 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋