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I have a hard time making eye contact with people and I don't know why. Yes, I have social anxiety and I work myself up before I even go into difficult situations (usually situations with cashiers of the opposite sex). Usually when I do manage to look them in the eye they give me a weird look like they can see right through me. Am I just insane here? What can I do?

2007-02-09 20:17:48 · 8 answers · asked by Ryan H 2 in Health Mental Health

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2007-02-09 20:27:51 · answer #1 · answered by Oh My God! 6 · 0 0

I am the same way, I even get in trouble at work when my boss talks to me cause I can't look at them and my eyes go sideways and up and down, anything to avoid looking them in the eye and they think I'm not listening to what they are saying cause my eyes are wondering. I can look at them for a couple of seconds and then I just can't do it anymore, it freaks me out. Unless I know someone well, I can't look them in the eyes, it sucks. I agree with focusing on other areas of the face and then getting comfortable with that first. We're not insane cause of that though.

2007-02-10 00:25:45 · answer #2 · answered by It's MIRANDA!!!! 4 · 0 0

No! You are not insane ! This is a common problem, you didn't mention your age, but I'm assuming you are a young man. Just start out slow and when you do make any eye contact, just smile. It will take time and practice and it will soon become easier. Good Luck.

2007-02-09 20:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by sneerglaw 2 · 0 0

It's not a big problem as many people are like that. Try to relax and focus on the face instead of the eyes and later slowly progress to looking at the eyes.

2007-02-09 20:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by anT 1 · 0 0

I have the same problem sometimes. Just accept who you are and don't look in the eye if u dont want to. I just look up or sideways or down, doesnt matter.

2007-02-09 20:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by The Answerer 3 · 0 0

i have that problem, with every single person that i do not know, but i know i'm shy so i know that's why... i don't know if i should look them in the eye or at their faces or lips, so i've been trying to look them in the eyes, and they either look away, down and back up when talking, or look at me weird while they are still talking...


... so uncoftable and awkward!

2007-02-09 20:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by nae 3 · 0 0

you might be suffering from autism spectrum disorder(ASD) its comon a lot of people suffer from it and eye contact seems to be the main factor people often say they can not make eye contact with people, but you say its people you dont know but people that suffer from ASD its everyone even people close to them. you might just be a bit shy and anxious.If you think you have ASD go to your doctors and explain he should know what to do.

2007-02-12 08:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by George R 1 · 0 0

i know, there is a cashier in my local bank, and she is amazingly beautiful, i cant make eye contact with her, i just pretend i am reading sometthing.

2007-02-09 20:27:03 · answer #8 · answered by yamahaqi 3 · 0 0

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