If your daughter or friend was...?

Question

Cutting them selfs.. what would you do ?
What would say? How would you help them?

Answer 1

well, if its your daughter, then im guessing that there isn't much you can do, other than get them a counselor. being a teenager i know that if my mom tried to talk to me, i wouldn't respond well. if its your friend, and it isn't a serious addiction, then all she needs is someone to talk to. i personally used to cut. i had a best friend whom i trusted a lot. i told him all about my addiction, and emotions. he made me promise to call him everytime i had the urge to cut and eventually i stopped. i had someone to talk to, someone who didn't think i was crazy but really cared. so if your a friend be there and let her share her emotions, and if its a serious addiction tell an adult so they can get her counseling. if your her mother, then get her counseling.

Answer 2

Most people that are cutting are intentionally seeking a cry for help. I know that some people believe it relieves them of there stress etc... (well honestly that is crap) I used to cut. The reason I turned to that is because I didn't know who to talk to and I was beyone my point of frustration and was praying someone would take the time to notice. Of course most cutters will put it off as if they don't want the help but c'mon we wouldn't do it if there wasn't something bothering us in the first place. If you know about this person who is doing it you should really tell the next of kin. If it is your friends daughter it is your obligation as a friend to bring it to there attention. I wouldn't confront the daughter I would confront the parent. You may know the daughter well but that daughter needs there parent; you need to intervine sorry for all of those that disagree out there but it is true. I have scars to this day and believe me it is very embarrassing and tough to come up with lies to tell people where they come from. Get your friend help...be a Friend!

Answer 3

I would be harder if it was a daughter. The parent might be part of the perceived problem. I have known two women in my life who cut themselves regularly. For them it was more than just an attention getting device, they mostly did it private. They told me that prior to cutting they were experiencing unbearable emotional pain (or stress) about something. After they were bleeding the attention shifted to dealing with the wound and they felt relief from the originating problem. Both of the women I knew needed psychiatric help about the cutting and other issues.Both were in their 20s and 30s when they were cutting. After therapy and medication neither of them ( now older) has any desire to cut or hurt themselves in response to the sort of feelings that led them to start such behavior in the first place.Sadly they both get those sorts of feelings from time to time now, though not as intense, and deal with the feelings in different ways.

Answer 4

I would tell them that if things are bothering them that bad, change what's happening in their life. There are so many other options other than self mutilation or death. They always have options. Don't let things or people determine your happiness only you can do that. Tell them the positive qualities and characteristics they have. Build them up and offer to find help for them. Say you want to help them because of how much they mean to you and how important they are to others around them.

Answer 5

I am sincerely sorry that you know someone who is Self Injuring. It is a very difficult thing to handle, especially since it has been glorified by the media, internet, highschool cliques and stereotyping. Here is some backround information. It is a coping mechanism for anger and sadness relief, stress, dissociation and self controll. It is characterized by linear cuts, about two to four inches long. The most characterized places on the body for wounds to appear are the inside of the forearms, hips, breast area, stomache and the inside of the calf muscles. About 98 percent of the time it is mistaked to be an attention scheme, when in fact, about 75-95% of all teens who cut keep the wounds and scars hidden. They also don't admit to family and friends about doing it. Most of the time, the cuts aren't deep enough to cause major or life-threatening damage. The cuts usually quit bleeding when pressure is applied. When approaching the person about it, you must remember to be sensitive to self-esteem and feeling. You must remember that this is a very fragile issue, and it MUST be handled delicately. Let them know that you are aware of thier actions, and you are concerned. The two most important things to do on dealing with this is ONE: DO NOT FORCE THE ISSUE, and TWO: do NOT make them immediately stop. Makeing them stop abruptly can have some serious after affects. They may feel angry and cut more in number and more deeply. They may feel ashamed and embarrased and might even try to commit suicide. Let them know that you are here to help and if they need anything, they feel they need medical attention or they are ready to quit, just to call you. Let him or her know, if they aren't comfortable talking with you, talk with another trusted adult or call a crisis relief line. Don't make bribes, don't make threats. You want them to feel COMFORTABLE with you. You want to make sure they think of you as a confidant. When you approach them, have a list of crisis lines, the local mental health line, suicide lines, numbers to the nearest hospitals, and a few helpful websites to give to them. I've included a few phone numbers and websites you may want to look at. I hope this information is helpful. Good Luck! STAY SAFE!!!!

Answer 6

Tell them that you're there for them and then get them some counseling. Chances are that they're going to put up a fight but if you're the parent, it's your job. Hang in there and be strong because they will need you to lean on while they try to overcome this.

Answer 7

Just try 2 b there 4 them.

Answer 8

That person wants attention. Spend time with that person. Show kindness and love. Try to have a pleasant conversation.
And see a doctor who can recommend a psychologist or a psychiatrist.

Answer 9

They need some psychological help...duh...hate to sound obvious. If you are a religious family, you might be able to approach from the angle that her body is God's property...if not, then you might try to convince her that she is too valuable to debase herself so much...self esteem therapy is ongoing and involves the whole family. My cousin used to cut himself...he tried to convince me that it was cool. When I told him I thought it was not cool, he stopped bragging about it, and eventually quit.

Answer 10

Try to talk to them, if you confront them they will either lie or do something worse it is a control thing, its the only control they have over themselves, similar to anorexia and its scary but its one for the professionals and gentle guidance will get them there.