trying to potty train.......?

Question

anyone with any good advice on how to get my son who is almost 2 to use the potty.... i have tried to take his favorite stuffed animal and put a diaper on it and and act like the bear told me he had to potty took the diaper off sat him on my sons potty and took a medicine dropper filled with water hid behind the bear and then put it in the potty like the bear used the bathroom... my son dont care that the bear used the bathroom... got that tip from a friend... he also has the elmo potty and elmo... he dont care about that.... he does have a elmo potty training dvd... that he watches every night... and has learned a little from it on his own... he'll take his pull ups or his big boy underwear off and sit down for a min and then takes off... he will go a hour or two with out wetting his big boy underwear... anyone have any other advice??????????

Answer 1

To potty train your son(20 months old I guess) you have to estimate if he is ready for it.And he is ready if:
1.Knows what happens in his body at the moment,not after that.
2.He expresses willingness to remove his diapers and go to the potty.
3.He is able to run,climb ladders...
4.He often immitates adults.
5.He understands what other want from him and usually does it willingly(he has passed the confrontation stage when he disagrees everything you say or want).
6.He understands the words 'potty','pee','make caca',etc.
All these signs say that the boy is ready to be potty trained.But don't worry if your son doesn't express all of them(or even one,but I'm sure he has at least one).That doesn't mean you can't potty train him successfully.That just means you'll have to be more patiens and careful.
First you have to buy a potty.It has to be interesting(many colors and funny pictures).Let your son play with it before telling him he will have to use it instead of diapers.Talk with him using the words 'potty','pee','make caca',etc,so he will get used to them either.Let him see(but don't MAKE him see) what adults(who don't use diapers) are doing and how are they doing that in the toilet.That period doesn't have to be longer than a week.After that your 'job' is a bit easier.You have to take your son and sit with him(on the bed) and talk to him(but be careful you are talking with him on one level,because adult's knees are not very conductive to a conversation).Tell him that he is a big boy already and he is ready to go to the potty instead of the diapers.Let him know this would be easier for you(and for him) and you'll be proud of him.Than explain him(or let the father explain him) how to pee and make caca in the potty(and please,don't hold his penis as if it's going to fall off any moment).After you have explained the boy what do you expect from him,don't make him do it in your own hours.Let him do it when he needs to do it and don't ask him every 5 minutes if he needs to use the potty.Put the potty somewhere where it's easy for the boy to find it(maybe in the corridor).Then find some easy to put on and easy to be put off clothes(like drowers with elastic on the waist) and buy him beautiful pants(which big boys wear).Then leave the boy to get used to everything and try not to be too worried about the carpet in the living-room(trust me,it won't be dry for very long).Ask him if he wants to go to the potty at intervals(but not very short like 5 minutes:)))Only before going to bed you can put him on the potty but during day,let him go only if he wants to.When you see he has pissed on the floor,take him to the potty and explain him that there is nothing wrong,he just hasn't noticed he needs to go to the potty and you are sure the next time he will succeed.Getting used to the potty has to be done for a week and no more.If the child often forgets the potty you have to ask yourself if he is really ready and if you decide he isn't,explain him that it's not his fault,and it's just your mistake and ask him if he agrees to go back to diapers.A few month later try again.
Now what behavior has to be used.Forget about spanking,yelling and critisizing the boy if he hasn't succeed and has pissed on the floor or in the pants.If you think he does it on spite of you,don't let yourself to be involved in such conflicts.Go back to diapers and pretend to be indifferent to that.Things will get normal after some time but you have to know that 'the last word' won't be yours.It will be your son's.
When the boy pees or makes caca in the potty,you don't have to pretend he has given you a piece of gold or something.Your clear satisfaction of the done is enough.Don't use threats or promises.Going to the toilet is something natural and that's how you have to look at it.
You don't have to make the boy stay on the potty for a long time on strict hours.I already said it and I'll repeat it - going in the toilet means going when you need,not when the adults want you to go.The potty doesn't have to stay in the middle of the living room.Of course,after the boy has left the diapers,he has to have a potty 'nearby' but soon the potty has to be returned in the toilet.
If the boy wants to piss staying up like his father - why not?Let the father show him how and leave the child to do it on his own.
Don't throw the faeces in the lavatory pan and don't let the water too fast.The boy just won't understand anything.You wanted him to make caca in the potty and praised him for that and now you are hurrying to get rid of the 'present'.That would really upset your son.
Show him how to wipe his bottom and let him do it on his own.
After he has gotten used to the potty,there would be events.You don't have to make a problem from them.This will get back to normal if parents stay calm.And one last advice,something I noticed and maybe helpful for you too.If there is a tragedy in the family(someone dead,divorce or anything like this),it may cause more 'events' for your son out of the potty.When a neighbour's child(she is 10 now) was 3 years old,she was potty trained for more than a year already and she never pissed in her pants.But at the time her father got very sick,my friend had to go to the hospital and...you know it was a very tense atmosphere at home.Then the girl(perfectly potty trained) suddenly started to pee in her pants more than once a day.I was very surprised but after the 'tense' time passed she suddenly stopped pissing in the pants.And she didn't do it on spite of her mom,she just was worried because mommy was worried.I had the same problem with children I babysat(a boy and a girl,now over 2 years old).A year ago they were just potty trained and I divorced with their father.A month after they were able to stay dry all day,they started pissing in the panties again.I was ready for that and after the 'crisis' passed,their problems with potty were suddenly solved.
I hope I've been helpful enough and I wish you success with your son's potty training.If you have more questions about potty training,don't be shame,just ask me.

Answer 2

He's too young. Boys take a little longer than girls. Wait and save yourself and your baby alot of stress and wet carpets. My grandson was 2 in December and my daughter was able to 'catch' him so he pooped on the pot, but it was a total fluke. Forget the bear scenario, when he's ready, he'll be ready. If you have already started, that's OK, but just don't make a big deal out of it. When you do start training him, in about 6 to 7 months, I would be very deligent, put him on the pot every 20 to 30 minutes for no longer than a minute or two. Praise him for sitting, but allow him to get off when he wants, otherwise the toilet will be a punishment to him and you'll be fighting all the while. Take your time, he's still a baby.... be patient....

Answer 3

I'm guessing he's your only child? That's not an insult but it definetly means that you've fallen into every first time mums problem of trying to 'keep up'! I did it myself, I tried to train my daughter at 2 and boy was I wrong to even think about it! He doesn't care about the bear doing it because he's just not ready. Leave him happy in his nappy for another 6months and see if he's more interested then. I promise you though, no matter what the books or 'perfect' parents say, the majority of kids are not trained until they are 3. He's going in the right direction for now but take it slow and let him lead you.

Answer 4

Sounds like he's on his way to being trained. You're doing a good job, but it takes time. I tried rewarding my daughter when she would use the potty. You could have a 'party' when he uses the potty by putting on silly hats, whistling in kazoos, and doing a funny dance. Or you could buy him some small toys and wrap them as gifts. I bought some trinkets at the Dollar Store, wrapped them, and put them in a fish bowl on the back of the toilet. My daughter would get one when she used the potty. After 9 months of trial and error, we were finally Pullup free. It takes time, patience, and a variety of tactics, but in the end, the child learns when they are ready.

Answer 5

I have the same problem with my son who is 2 as well. What was working for him for a while was that I would give him a sticker every time he went to the bathroom on his own. He had a book were he would put his stickers. And he got to choose the sticker he wanted. But ever since I had my second son and we also moved he doesn't even wanna try. Good luck to you though.

Answer 6

hey hun!! dont stress!! i have a 31/2 yr old daughter and she REFUSES to go potty on the potty chair! this is so stressful on me!! i just dont know what do do!!!! i mean i cant force her to do something she doesnt want to do you know?? and currently she goes to pre school and her teachers told me to NOT force her and wait untill she is ready to do it. Because if we force them it may take longer for them to learn!! your lucky your son is only 2 yrs old so you still have plent of time so dont rush him when he is ready he will let you know i promise!! i also have the elmo potty and elmo is her favorate!!! but unfortunatlly not even that works!!!!!! excuse my bad spelling! lol its late so im a lil bit tired!! well hun all im sayin is just dont stress he will go when he is ready the worst thing to do is force them to go! i hope this helped you a little bit! im going through the same thing so i understand!!! good luck to you and your son.

Answer 7

don't rush him when he is ready he'll go otherwise you'll be fustrated i tried to potty train my daughter when she was his age it was more stress on me than anything so i waited till she was a lil older and she will be Three on the 11 th and she's potty trained make it fun let him get away with wetting his self on his under-ware with his favorite theme like super man and act like super man is so upset not mom and he won't want to upset super man will he!

Answer 8

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Answer 9

heya,
how about trying this.... when he wants to go to the toilet and you can tell, bring him to the potty sit him down and then he SHOULD do something **. Then keep on doing this when he needs the toilet and he should get used to where it is, tell him what it is and he should pick up and go wheneva he needs to go.

good luck the result. My fingers are crossed for you!!!

Answer 10

i heard for pee pee you can put cherrios or frootloops or something in the potty and the goal is for them to "sink the cherrios" for every piece he sinks give him a m&m or something like that you can also have dad take him in the bathroom when he potties and try it that way.