Depressed 16 year old guy?

Question

Im a 16 year old guy and I've been depressed for unknown reasons. At school, I have only one or two friends who barely talk to me because they have other friends of their own. In class, I try to talk to people around me but those discussions don't go well; they either end the discussion or start talking to someone else. I've been in the same school for about 1.5 years and I haven't made much progress with friends. Academically, I'm an all A student. I also tried using MySpace and Facebook but I couldn't attract too many new friends that I can hang out with. It may seem odd, but I sometimes cry every week or so to let emotions out. I just cry at the fact that no one knows me for being who I am; many teachers say that I'm a very friendly guy. I tried talking about this with my parents but they just won't understand. I also play tennis and have tennis team tryouts coming up within 2 weeks and so I don't want to mentally low at the time. Anything you guys think I should do next? Thanks =)

Answer 1

Change is required in ur attitude.

u are a friendly and good guy , some times ppl get uncertain around such people.

You have to stop seeking any attention.

Be an observer, watch and listen in to the conversation.
dont comment sometimes.
comment or give your input only when required.

They will start noticing and appreciating u.

I know its a very different approach, i can tell u more but try this for now.

Answer 2

You know, it's stupid that they say high school is supposed to be the best time in your life. It's not. It's hard to gain confidence and gain self-esteem. Almost everyone deals with that throughout their life, and sadly, some never overcome it. Why do you think there is still so much depression even in adults? People trying to buy happiness, or seek happiness in a bottle, and they don't know what life is really about. They can't find anything that makes them truly happy.
It's good that you're involved in tennis. The best way to improve your confidence, is finding something you're good at. Everyone has at least ONE thing they're good at, whether it's baking food, music, sports, etc. And focus on that. It sounds like you have a lot going for you with tennis, and school, don't throw that away.
Also, think of the people who really love you. Even if there is just one person in this whole world who loves you, it can mean so much. Sometimes one good friend is more meaningful than having 50 friends who aren't true, and talk sh!t about you behind your back.

Answer 3

Friends in high school are not all they're cracked up to be. I had a circle of about 4 really good friends in high school that I don't even see, write to, or call anymore. And I know a lot of people with the same story. You're an A student? Awesome! Concentrate on keeping that. When you go to college you'll make friends effortlessly because the people with your same interests will keep showing up in the same places as you. You'll see that your family, education, and doing something with your life FOR YOU is most important ... friends are just a bonus.
Please don't stress yourself out to the point of crying about it. I mean, everyone needs a good cry once in awhile, but these people that aren't willing to accept your friendship a) probably wouldn't be true friends anyway and b) don't deserve you. Trying to be someone's friend because you think HE needs one is way better than trying to be someone's friend because YOU need one. Do what's best for you and everything else will fall into place.

Answer 4

Do you intend to go to s physician for check up? I have heard about this clinically depress thing, that a person has to take prescription drugs. I hope you don't need too. I make a lot of friends because I have a sense of humor,and I am helpful, I was not born that way ,I learned that. have you read Anthony Robbins Unlimited Power? And the last name is Covey he write good self help books,for teenagers,You know what? I pretend that people are my best friends,that I have not seen in a long time that I am happy to see them,you do think that will work for you? May be you are a very serious person ,loosen up,be out going be funny.I hope you will have a lot of friends soon,so you won't be unhappy. I wish you the best of every thing.

Answer 5

Hey,
Yes i am having those problems too. I always feel left out and i only have about 2 friends i can actually count on. I try to make new friends but they dont pay any attention to me either. I dont know what is it with people these days? Im an all 'A' student (at the time, lol) too but that doesnt make anything better about friends. I think having one or two friends sometimes can be a better thing because you can become closer with them and know that they are your true friends who you can always count on, instead of having 50 friends who you rarley see or talk to. So i would just be you and keep the good friends you have and if anyone new wants to be your friend thats great! Good Luck! =)

Answer 6

Little dude, sometimes being a teenager isnt easy. It's not like you see on t.v. and beleive me, not everyones gonna get you. you know what I mean. You seem like a good kid. You just have to be yourself. Dont be so down about it, your not the only one that feels alone. I had a lot of friends at that age but we were all screwed up. we did drugs,ditch school, we definately didnt act our age. I'm not blaming my old friends but we had insecuritys too. I had a very difficult teenage life. I didnt get along with teachers,my parents, my family, I was alone emotionally even though i had friends. I dont know if it helps but sometimes family can be the best friends you can have. I didnt experience it til I was much older. In my 20's to be specific. So maybe try to appreciate what you do have and dont worry what others think. Dont try so hard to fit in. Just be yourself . It's normal kid. In a few years you'll be ready for college and things will look up. for now concentrate on your education. maybe find a girl that would like to study with you or just hang out. Sometimes a "NERDY" girl might just be cooler than you think and you guys might have some things in common. You might even get lucky! LOL. just be yourself lil man and remember.It's not easy being a teenager. Love your self and the rest will follow.

Answer 7

I can tell you that you are not alone on this (even if you may seem to think so, because whatever you are experiencing is what I am in right now more or less (minus of course the A grades).

Unlike you who have two friends at school, I do not have the luxury of having any friends at all; on top of that, I am not a local resident since I came from a different country, wherein my situation was not any better as I am in right now. I do not have myspace nor any other "friend-pulling" sites to boost the number of friends, and me making friends with others is to no avail. I only have a mother, because she and my dad are divorced...aside from that, I have no knowledge of who my true father is.

So you see, it is not only you who thinks of yourself being bereft of the good things in life. If you ask me, I try to live everyday as if it is my last even if no people would talk to me or even if people stay away from me...what matters most is what your think and what your heart feels. You don't live your life as to how you will be in the future, but how you would react to what you have right now.

Your actions here on earth matters, whether you think you are alone or not. Being alone at times is part of life, and we must deal with it as positive as possible. You are 16 and still young and have an exciting life ahead of your; you should live life to the fullest and accept things that come your way...not expect things that would only disappoint you because they did not go your way.

Hope this helps!

Answer 8

I like what tt and cupcake have said. The way to make friends, show yourself friendly. Please, find someone you can talk to, a counselor? Also, you are in high school. Do you have time aside from your needed study time, etc., to maybe do a couple of hours or so of volunteer work in your area? Like at a hospital, vetrinary clinic, etc? It's good that you cry-there are chemicals in tears that help relieve the stress, etc. Please see about going to your dr., or somehow see about talking to a counselor soon, maybe an anti-depressant may be needed. You can have lots of acquaintances, and a few friends. When I was in high school, I only had a couple of friends, but I knew a lot of the kids there. I wish you the best. Take care.

Answer 9

You know how people say that "these are the best days of your life"?

Well they are wrong. I think that things can really suck as a teenager. You have to endure alot of stress and pressure. Even if you are brilliant you rarely get credit for it and sometimes you get treated worse because of it.

The only thing I can say is that it gets better.

I am 42. I am no longer a pretty girl who gets lots of attention. I am getting achy and I have wrinkles. I would have to say that from my mid-20's on, things got better and better. I have more self-confidence and don't give a sh** what others think.

I know you have probably heard this a million times. Try to stick it out and do your best. Get a pet. They love you no matter what and do anything to be with you and see you happy.

Answer 10

Really sounds like you need to talk to someone. What about your counselor or a pastor? Most teens can't talk to their parents maybe cause as parents they forget what it was like to be a teenager with the peer pressure. What about a church youth group? Is there anyone in your family that you are close too? You should just learn to be yourself and not worry so much about how many people like you.