We broke up many years ago, we have been in contact thru email the past month (he contacted me first), it has brought up many old feelings for him. The emails have been surfacy, just getting caught up on each other's lives. It is getting hard for me though as I would love to have him back, maybe he just wants to be friends, he lives miles away but i have never forgot him. Should I just chill or should I be up front with my feelings. I don't think I could be "just friends" with him though. What do I have to lose by telling him how I feel??? Any advice???
2007-02-09 18:22:37 · 8 answers · asked by Sunny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
are you SURE its actual feelings for him? ironically, the EXACT same thing happened to me, he contacted me about a month ago, we've been broken up for years, we've been emailing ever since, and we live on opposite sides of the country now. however, even though i do notice things stirred up by this (and for a brief moment thought maybe it was feelings), i am in a happy relationship (and feel that in my case it was just old memories and wedding jitters), and realize that (at least in my case) these things being stirred up are exactly that: no more than fond memories of what we once shared together. if you are sure that these are really feelings for him, then why not talk to him a bit longer, feel out his new life a bit (maybe he's in a relationship?) and if you find that he is available and you are too, why not try pursuing it? with my ex, his relationship isnt as serious as mine (hes in a casual one), and its kind of obvious that if he were to be given the chance to get back together, he would take it. i would think that after having been with someone for a while (especially if you were in love), you will be able to feel him out as easily as me with my ex. you will probably be able to tell if the old feelings are mutual, then just be up front. you really have nothing to lose if you said yourself you could never just be friends. in my case, we can just be friends (even if one of us has feelings), but thats not for everyone. i say feel him out and go for it if you detect even the slightest hint of him wanting to be with you....you really have nothing to lose! good luck!
2007-02-09 18:38:24 · answer #1 · answered by crazydaisyodu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about the reasons why you two split up to begin with. Was it a bad breakup? Were the reasons valid? Would the problems you two had before resurface? It's always hard to let go of an ex. It's even harder when you start thinking of the good times. It's easy and comfortable because you know them. Just because you have some old feelings stirring doesn't mean that you have to act on them.
I'm inclined to say leave the past in the past. He could just be wanting to catch up or just going through a phase where he's nostalgic about the past. He might have no intention of getting back with you. You should probably wait awhile and see what directions the emails start going. If he hints that he's looking to get back together and you really want to give it a go, take a chance and try. If he never brings it up, don't bring it up either. It will just make things complicated and uncomfortable.
2007-02-10 02:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should give alittle bit more time, to see if that is really how you feel about him. It may be a phase, you never know until you give it time. Do you if he feels the same way? If he lives far away, what are the chances of you seeing eachother alot, if you two do get back together? Good Luck Darlin. I have faith that you will follow your heart.
2007-02-10 02:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, I'm going through the same damn thing. We are friends, but the difference is he knows I want him, and he doesn't know that his mom told me he wants me too. We live in two different states. I don't know if it's fear or what, but everytime we try to get back together, people just seem to try and destroy us. I think you should just tell him how you feel. He already knows you, and it's not like he doesn't feel something for you. You always have fellings left over. I know
2007-02-10 02:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL there maybe too much water under the bridge.
2007-02-10 02:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
play it cool and give it time. see what his agenda is, trust me, it will come up and then go for the kill. good luck
2007-02-10 02:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by braille 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, tell him your feelings.Just friends or more than that,just tell him.
2007-02-10 02:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a man. Any man. You sound desperate.
2007-02-10 02:26:37 · answer #8 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋