ok..im 13 i noe im to little to be in a long relationship..but ya i have been with this girl for 9 months on and off and like ya shes really in love with me..its like we ar emarried but not married cuz we can talk about stuff and dont get mad at each other..but n e ways..ya she does little things i dont like and thats how we get in fights and i BREAK UP WITH HER!!!..and wen i do that she NOTHING..she doesnt care about nothing...shes sad,hurt,and depressed..and like ya she tells me everyday wen we are not together..that she wasnts me back and she loves me..so like ya thats how we get back together so my question is how do i stop breacking up with her so much?!?!?!
2007-02-09 17:58:01 · 17 answers · asked by alxdjal_3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, if little things is what breaks a relationship for you, stop getting in them. Relationships are all about give and take.
Second, she seems to have self-esteem issues and thinks that the only way she can be happy and feel needed is when she has a boyfriend. This is never true for any girl. If you can, sit down with her and tell her that even though you want to PERMANENTLY end your relationship with her, you still value your friendship with her and eventually, when she's older, she'll be in a true two-way relationship.
2007-02-09 18:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by stephieSD 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to understand that the more you break up the more you will break up. Me and my boyfriend fight and even if we walk away and don't talk for a bit we don't break up. If you have a problem tell her or deal, but even if you are fighting don't break up. Its that simple.
Breaking up is the last card to play, it should be a final thing, and it should not be a spur of a moment decision, or based on little things, it should be something that you need to do. Little things should never break you up.
Write down all the things that she does to annoy you, i am sure that when you look at them they will seem insignificant. You have to let some things go in a relationship. Choose your battles.
2007-02-10 02:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by Bria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are much to young for this kind of thing, as your situation proves. This is why several wise religions insist that kids should not even date until they are 16 and even then, only in groups until they are 18 and no going steady until at least 18. You are not mentally or emotionally ready to handle a "relationship" with a person of the oposite sex. As I said, your own statements prove this to be the case. Chill out the whole thing and if she gets depressed tell her to go talk to a priest.
2007-02-10 02:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really liek her and you guys get in fights a lot that lead to break ups when your fighting instead of screaming n yelling at eachother you should actually try to solve the problem an talk thru it. if this is impossible for you two to do then myabe being in a relationship with her isnt the best thing for you. if all you do is get in fights break up get back together and get nin more fights theres really no point and theres no wya possible that you two really LOVE eachother if your happy with yur self you dont need a gf
2007-02-10 02:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by J-Dep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her she's your best friend in the whole wide world, and you like her a whole lot, but you're only 13. you're too young to have a steady relationship, and tell her it's too much pressure. You just want to have fun, enjoy being a kid.
Tell her in time you 2 can take things a bit more serious, but not right now!! She may cry, she's a girl. Let her cry, she'll get over it.
2007-02-10 02:02:49 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello alxdjal_3,
Life is just too dang short. You really should stay away from her, the next time that you break up, and start looking into other girls at your school. The world is filled with all kinds of girls and there might be someone who is better for you. You just haven't met her yet.
This girl isn't the one. It sounds like you two just sort of hang out together out of habit. Don't be lazy. Get out and meet other people. Once she sees you with other girls, she'll know that you are broke up for good.
It sounds like she needs to get out and meet other people too.
Also, you need to check out the Tom Leykis radio show to learn more about what you should do. You definitely need to learn a little Leykis-101 to get more women in your life. Find out if this show is broadcast in your area. Here's his web site:
http://www.blowmeuptom.com
I hope that this helps you. Good luck and happy hunting.
--Rick
2007-02-10 02:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to work on the issues of her doing things that you don't like that upsets you, which in turn causes you to break up with her. If you can resolve those issues, then you will have a happy relationship together.
2007-02-10 02:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by Aimee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she does stuff that annoys you, don't go back to her the next time you break up. You're both too young to be tied down to each other. Go find someone else that doesn't annoy you.
2007-02-10 02:03:16 · answer #8 · answered by tashley235 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok you need to dump the crazy girl before you do something and stuck with this nut case forever also you need to not be worrying about this little girls head problems and start worrying about your class work when your 18 you wont even know her name if your lucky but it would nice if you knew how to spell and knew your grammar
2007-02-10 03:55:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you guys can't handle this relationship, it either means that you're too young, or you're not right for each other. it's up to you to figure out which one. if you fight all the time, you should cool the relationship because it's going to hurt you bad one of these days.
2007-02-10 02:01:46 · answer #10 · answered by sportzgurl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋