So I just got back from my first official date with this guy I've been seeing for a few weeks, and we left things kind of odd. First of all, I usually get several hugs before we say good night, tonight, nothing. I got a "see ya later". He did drive 45minutes to see me, nicely dressed, and hung out afterward with all of my "artsy" friends. But I thought I'd get more than a "talk to you soon" Should I be concerned?
2007-02-09 17:51:01 · 6 answers · asked by sardonicwit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do have to add, he did drive an hour to come see me, took care of all of our tabs, and was VERY nicely dressed. What do you think?
2007-02-09 17:58:40 · update #1
No it's not at all odd ; the relationship is only at it's beginning he may be shy or he may not want to offend you You may need to initiate a closer bond by holding his hand and being tender hopefully he contacts you soon to arrange more dates otherwise you need to move on and not spend time being concerned as not everyone is compatible.........and it's better to find out sooner
2007-02-09 18:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by njss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he didn't really want to be around your "artsy" friends. I don't think he's lost interest in you otherwise he would have never driven that far in the first place. Since it was your "official" first date I think he wanted some alone time for you two to talk and get to know each other better. That situation could have made him feel a little uneasy. Wait a couple of days and if he doesn't call, call him and see what happened. Good Luck!
2007-02-09 18:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by cutet88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds awkward. He may really just like you as a friend.
Bottom line: he sounds like a gentleman. If he asks for a second date, he's interested. If YOU are interested, call him and tell him you really enjoy his company, and that you are hoping to go out again soon. Don't wait for him to call. Also, if there is an activity that you want to suggest, that is even better (especially if it's something you know he likes to do). If you already have a plan for a second date, it takes some of the pressure off of him.
I assume, since you have seen him casually for several weeks before your date, that you would have an idea whether or not he is into you. It sounds like he might have gotten indigestion and needed to get away before he started having embarrassing bodily functions (heh). Don't underestimate the power of pride to destroy a good moment. Depending on how comfortable you are with him, and how well you understand his sense of humor, you might say something like, "Hey, I feel kinda gypped that I didn't get a kiss goodnight... did you forget to brush your teeth or something? You better be ready to kiss me next time!" Then you can joke about it next date by bringing some mints. Then again, since you're asking us instead of asking him... maybe you don't know him that well yet.
2007-02-09 18:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by David T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No hug? No kiss goodnight? Where are his manners in this critical area? I'd be concerned. Maybe he didn't have a good time.
2007-02-09 19:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I really do not know what to tell you. It kinda seems fishy too. Do you guys see eachother alot? Do you live far away from eachother?
2007-02-09 18:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but it does sound sorta fishy. artsy how artsy? but if you love him stay with him ya know !
2007-02-11 05:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by natsume_01_i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋