he has a new woman, but he has forgotten about his family. he just calls but never has time for my brothers and me also for his grandchildren. my mom died a year ago of cancer and he was with her all the time but after a month he started to go out with this lady. he spend all of my mom's money that she had in her insurance for him. and he doesn't have no more money left. we think that he spended with her it was alot of money for it to be gone so fast. but he says that he had bills to pay.
2007-02-09 17:25:29 · 11 answers · asked by maria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he promise that we will be together and doesn't spend the holidays with us not even his grandkids they are 7, 3,3, 2, and a 6 month old baby girl and the only one. all of the others are boys
2007-02-09 17:32:20 · update #1
this lady cheated all ready , he bought her a new car maxima 2007. his grandchildren don't have their other grandpa near so they want to spend time with my father
2007-02-09 17:35:54 · update #2
You can let your father enjoy what's left of his life. A widower who was happily married misses his spouse so much that a woman companion can help him to be happy again.I think it's harder for a man to lose a spouse than for a woman because so many things done at home were done by the wife and he misses that woman's touch. So let him be and don't worry about the money. It's true that there are a lot of bills to pay after a death. But if the money is gone and the new woman is still there, she isn't after just his money (cause that's gone).
2007-02-09 17:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How close together do all of you live? If possible, get ALL brothers and sisters to call the same day and demand a meeting. You all need to stay together on this! Then talk out the problem. Ask him how long he's known her. Are you all ABSOLUTELY positive she cheated? Did he know she is a cheat? You kids must stay on the same page to combat this. I'm sure she knows about the health issue with your mom and she CHEATED!!! Will she cheat again? Sounds like it. She got what she wanted and if dad is broke, she MAY BE looking for her next down and out victim!! Tell him that all of you are together on this and still love him, BUT tell him this has to stop because if/when she dumps him, you do not want to see him and the family suffer over another loss like what happened when your mother passed away. May God be with all of you and the BEST OF LUCK!!!! Please keep us poted.
2007-02-10 02:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by Jurch69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maria, I am so sorry to hear about your mom passing away.
When my mom passed away from cancer, my dad was very depressed and my younger sister took care of him for a while. Some friends of ours introduced my dad to this lady not to long after my mom passed away. We were all surprised, that my dad got involved so quickly, but on the other hand, we were happy for him, that he found a companion. My dad is one of those people who can not be alone, especially because my mom took care of the whole household. He did too spend a lot of money on this lady, but after all it was his money. I am sure your dad has not forgotten about you kids, he is just in pain and doesn't know how to handle everything right now. Give him some time and be there for him. You don't have to like this woman, but you should respect her. Just be there for your dad, because deep down he needs you more than you know.
2007-02-10 01:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when talking to a family member people tend to have a hard time just saying what they feel. Because they are afraid of hurting someone's feelings or they have a fear of rejection. But, the truth is. Your father isn't a mind reader. He may just be so caught up in the grief of your mother that he isn't thinking of you and your siblings. And it's very common for people to spend money on stupid stuff when under stress or grief.
Call him up, or write him a letter if that would make you more comfortable. And tell him that it breaks your heart that you don't keep in touch since your mom died. And his actions make you think he doesn't care. You miss the way he was when your mom was around, or whatever it is that you are feeling.
i can't guarantee that it will change him. But, you will feel better & chances are, he will come around.
2007-02-10 01:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by not_the_doctor79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe father needs a wake up call so that he can see how his actions is affecting his family. Open up and tell him family needs a serious talk with him and spill out the problem. This discussion will help him and the family to mend love among all of you.
2007-02-10 01:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is rough im sorry theres nuttin u can do really but talk to him but dont start accusing him 2 fast it could be rough as far as finances if the other chic doesnt have a job help him out maybe i dont i cant imagine what thats like
2007-02-10 01:29:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As distressing as this must be for your siblings, children and yourself, your father is old enough to make his own decisions and (possibly) his own mistakes. How he spends his money, whom he associates with, whom he has decided to have no contact with are all things that are none of your business.
2007-02-10 01:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feal srry for u alot.i think well if hes never ther u should mive in with a responcible relitive.thats wat i did.the exact thing happend to me. if your dad is agresive u shoulndt do this but if u hate this girl write a note on his bed an write"i dont need u any more i just needed someone to give me a house untill i cold get throuhg.so i know its wierd but thats wat i would do hope i helped...jdb103088@yahoo.com
2007-02-10 01:31:09 · answer #8 · answered by jesseph b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like his children are grown. If so he fulfilled his responsibility it would be nice if he is still there for all of you. but some parents distance themselves when older and live for themselves again like when they were young.
2007-02-10 01:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by setter505 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remind him of those days with ur original mother, how they were so happy with u kids.Spend time with him and respect him.
2007-02-10 01:30:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋