I have a girlfriend who has been really depressed for a while. She doesn't think wshee looks good, when in fact she looksgreat, and she had some boy problems like half a year ago and she's still lingering on it. They only went out for like two months too. She doesn't even like the guy anymore, she's just still lingering on it. I want to help her but everytime I ask about it it's something new and I have to argue for a while to find out what it is. It makes me feel like she thinks she's more jaded than me and I'm not worthy to hear her problems. Any advice? For any questions regarding this just e-mail the questions to my other e-mail, matttheepimp@yaho.com and I'll try to get in contact with you. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
2007-02-09 17:11:22 · 14 answers · asked by Matt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We've been going out for three months. And another thing is she feels like everyperson she's trusted has like betrayed her. Like, somehow done her wrong.
2007-02-09 17:18:05 · update #1
I actually went through a similar experience as your girfriend when I was about that age. I dated a guy for two months, he cheated on me, and a bunch of other things. I thought that boys were dumb, and I was in no hurry to find a guy anytime soon. Then about a year later I found a boy that I'm still with 2.5 years later. And he just told me that he would let me deal with what I needed to deal with, and that he would be around for a long time. And that he like the girl he knew, and he didn't care about my baggage, but he'd listen if I needed him to, or give me a little space if that's what I needed. He basically said "i'm gonna be around for a long time, and you're baggage from that other guy doesn't effect how I feel about you." that was the most comforting thing to hear. And he's still my boyfriend, and now the love of my life today.
2007-02-09 17:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by Ask&Receive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think almost every teenage girl goes thru the stage of depression and thinking they don't look good. It's natural. Just remind her every day how beautiful you think she is. Even if she says that she's not, sometimes she may just say that to hear you say that she is. (did that make sense?)
And the guy troubles, it depends on the guy troubles. If she's lingering on it, she may still have feelings that she doesn't quite realize she still has.
As far as her opening up to you, you guys have only been dating for 3 months. It takes a lot longer than that for me to build up enough trust in a person to tell them my secrets, and even then I keep things to myself. There are just some things you can't talk about with your boyfriend. Sounds like she needs a closer girlfriend to talk to and vent.
2007-02-10 01:26:58 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is just be there for her. Let her know that if she ever has any problems, that she can come to you. Maybe she just doesn't want to dump her problems on you. Just be there for her. Tell her she's beautiful everyime you see her, and just show her how much you care. You can't make her tell you anything, but you can let her know that you'll be waiting there if she ever needs to get something off her chest. Try telling her some jokes, too! A good laugh can help loads.
2007-02-10 01:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by Mizuki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oookay, this sounds like some good old fashioned teenage angst. She needs to learn how to express herself...if something is bugging a person, it will do them no good to hang onto it. You are her boyfriend = best friend, so she should be able to confide in you and talk. Could there be any reason she's doing this for extra attention?
2007-02-10 01:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by Mudbug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she really does still like the guy. Just talk to her. Let her be able to trust you. That's really all you can do. If you truely care, show her. It means a lot to us.
2007-02-10 01:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a girl is insecure shes insecure, im not sure if theres much you can do u can try to make her feel pretty by doing little things like saying that shes beautiful. kiss her.. hug her make her feel loved it seems like u care about her so it shouldnt be hard. i mean i know i love when my bf does those things to me.. and as for the other boy.. if she didnt like him she wouldnt be worried about him..
2007-02-10 01:16:45 · answer #6 · answered by KimsMommy18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you try to help your gf try to understand what she is goign thru actaully pay attention to what she is saying. also if she is still stuck on her past bf then maybe you should spend more time to gether so she can get past that.-- go on more dates make her happy :] tell her that shes pretty in a way that she actually knows you mean it not just saying to to make her feel better.
2007-02-10 01:16:38 · answer #7 · answered by J-Dep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that you love her and it doesnt matter what other people think of her, and if you really like for her to feel better get her some flowers and chocolate for this V-day also take her to see some ugly people that might help
2007-02-10 01:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by enano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do for her is be there for her and talk to her.
Good Luck
2007-02-10 01:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep ur girl and make her feel good...atleast ur girl is there with u...i just got dumped...please answer my question that i just posted....
2007-02-10 01:16:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋