(Borderline Personality Disorder) if so does anyone have any advice on treatments. Some days I feel frustrated because I don't know how to help him.
2007-02-09 16:38:56 · 7 answers · asked by IzzieB 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I spent 10 years with my girlfriend, who suffers with BPD, and other than preparing yourself for the battles that will surely come, there isn't much you can do. I tried every known tactic there is to help her and in the end I discovered that there is just nothing we can do other than love them. The patient has to seek help and once they have found a shrink, medication and a good therapist, they have to stick with the program. This is one of the most difficult disorders to treat and should not be attempted by laypersons. Make sure your partner has the finest professional care available and you just strap yourself in for the ride or leave. This is no cake-walk, and nobody would blame you if you can't handle it. We are no longer together, but are the best of friends, and she is doing great now that she has found the right med and goes regularly to see her psycholigist. Good luck and God bless. Peace.
2007-02-09 17:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by rick m 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tricky...there are a couple of good books out there that you might find helpful. Also, your partner might benefit from a DBT(dialectical behavior therapy) support group (check you local mental health clinic). You can also seek out couples therapy (depending on how invested you are to the realtionship i.e. are you married or dating for a month). I have seen BPD treated with neurontin and other psychotropics, but I feel that they are largely ineffective. BPD is tough to treat, but it can be done. Hang in there.
Books (amazon.com has them for cheap):
1. Sometimes I act crazy:Living with BPD <--provides lots of tips and advice for the client, and their supports
2. I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality<--really good insight and tips. it's less boring then the above, but not as detailed
3. Marsha Linehan developed DBT. if you do a google search for her you will find lots of info. she is very well know in the community. but,,,please don't buy her treatment manual and try to follow it on your own.
2007-02-10 00:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by Toadsputum 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can only help him by giving him support to get into treatment or stay in. Look for a mental health agency that offers DBT Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. It is the only one that i have ever known to work..
For you, if he doesnt stay in treatment you need to leave this relationship. it will only get worse
2007-02-10 00:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by cmenow 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i can not vouch for the other person, but i have bpd. my family could answer this better than i can, but if he is taking his meds, then it is not so noticable. when i take my meds i am one person and feel like i am human, when i don't i lose time spans that i cannot remember and that upsets those around me but if you find a miracle cure let me know!!!!! other wise if i get any info that might help you i will let you know.
2007-02-10 01:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by riley_09_08_2004 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he under the treatment of a doctor? If not, he needs to be.
There is nothing YOU can do to help him. He needs to help himself. If he won't, get out while the getting is good.
2007-02-10 00:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a book called "walking on eggshells." That's the whole focus of this book, is dealing with someone who has BPD.
Best of luck!
2007-02-10 00:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't help him. He needs to help himself. If he can't do that and he's treating you like garbage, leave him even if it is the disorder, your own health and safety should always come first.
2007-02-10 00:49:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋