i've never had a boyfriend in my life.i am not bi or a lesbian.the sweetest guys ask me out.but i always say no.they tell me i am beautiful and all these nice things, but i don't feel anything for them.i want to like them as more than just friends but i don't know how.they say that i am pretty but i just can't see it.i don't see myself as pretty or anywhere near there.i have a very low self-esteem and i don't know what to do.i think i should learn to love myself first before i can love anyone else, but it is so hard.what should i do.i hurt these guys feelings and it makes me so sad.they deserve better than me. i don't understand why they like me.i just don't feel the spark.why me instead of all these gorgeous girls.i am so confused.
2007-02-09 16:31:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing it's normal
2007-02-09 16:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by ~Strawberry Delight~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
o sweetie u seriosly need a reality check! u are a beautiful person and if u werent then y would these guys take time out of there lives just 2 ask u out. and u shouldnt turn some1 down just becuz u dont feel that special spark now cuz u never no ...u might feel it on a date . ur right u do have low -self esteem and u really need 2 fix dat go on a shopping spree,go to a spa ,get ur hair done,get your nails fixed just dedicate a day 2 u and nobody else not only will u feel better but u will be lookin fly as hell !aint nuthin wrong wit u ! all u need 2 do is stop puttin ur self down ...and u said so urself the guys are nice so just give em a chance ....but if u REALLY dont likethem just say no .u shouldnt feel bad i mean u cant say yes 2 every body !
2007-02-10 00:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by jazzyj 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You would have been thouching some ones heart with your story to bad I don't have one. there is this big thing wrong with you which is exactly what you said. I don't care what you said and what you think about your self. I all ways believe that people have to think that they are the best and they can do any thing and that there is no otehr person on earth as beautiful or handsome as they are. Any ways you should give one of the guys a try and you will see for your self that you are beautiful/ ( if you wnat it you can stay ugly) I don't care but you really have to see that these people like you the way you are and the things you do and I think you have to be gratful about that. Any ways I think ou should lighten up but there is notthing that I can say if you want to regrate it all the time of you life go ahade and stay the way you feel about you self OK!!!
2007-02-10 00:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by abeshawiwe!! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you are gorgeous but the self esteem is bringing you down. Ask yourself this:
1. Do I have a big/sexy butt?
2. Do I have large breasts?
3. I'm a fun, interesting, exciting, etc?
4. Are these guys fun, interesting, etc.?
If any of the above are true, you could potentially be gorgeous and not know it because in your mind it's not true. I once met a girl who had such a deliciously big ***, I couldnt help keeping my hands off (and I didnt all night). She was white, and I guess most white guys dont like big butts so she had a low self esteem. Thanfully it worked out for both of us.
2007-02-10 00:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by donjuan2100 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK first of all your thinking WWWAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYY to much. When a guy says your cute gorgeous etc... Stop thinking, why would he say that when I know there are better women around. From now on the only thing you say is " thank you". When they ask you out you say" yes" or " no" depending on if you are busy at no time are u allowed to think" Well i know he can do better so let me not go" Relationships come from the heart Hun not the head. Stop thinking so much your gonna drive yourself nuts
2007-02-10 00:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by pjvthatsme 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are a beautiful and good person, you have to believe this, go out with the guy, how else will you know if he is a good person or not...you are right you have to love yourself, but if someone is asking you out there are a lot of reasons he is asking...you are good looking, you are a good person, you have a good figure, let the guy decide and you need to look in the mirror and tell youself that you are a good person and people like you....go for it and judge yourslef later...take care Heather
2007-02-10 00:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You hurt guys feelings? Turning them down and getting turned down is something we all must face. If you don't want to be dated,then don't be dated, no need to hurry things, and don't let people pressure you. Now about the esteem issues, there's always counseling, the church, parents and/or good parents of friends who'll be glad to help guide you. You esteem problem is not, from what I can sense, from sensible thought.
2007-02-10 00:38:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nothing, You're just and isecured *****. That's all or you might be ugly and guys are lying or I don't know. I still haven't seen your pics so I can judge any further, sorrry!!!!
Although I also had a girl who said to me that I deserve someone better and they said if a girl say's that it means GOOD BYE. Ouch.
2007-02-10 00:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
could it be that you dont TRY to be like any other typical girl thats only concerned mainly about her looks and how many guys like her...believe it or not you're special in a way and its easy to tell from your words..you have low self-esteem cuz you perhaps haven't found something that motivates..like sports or anything...maybe you should do some self reflecting..spend some alone time and look into your heart to find the special qualities of yourself...hope i helped
2007-02-10 00:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by Tidus 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes you are confused and you should love it....if you keep saying no, then no one will ask you out.......go out and have fun, be yourself.......my wife used to be the same way, well, she was my g/f back then.........but i keep telling her how beautiful she is,as i am sure you are as well..........i have no doubt you are a rare and beautiful find, and any guy would be honored to take you out to a movie. ya know, it took me 21 years to find my first real girlfriend, and i thought there may be something wrong with me...but ya know, i lived through it....and so can you...write me and we shall discuss this further if you wish
2007-02-10 00:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by phishsports 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
every morning; get up, look in the mirror, and tell yourself something you like about you. i know it sounds cheesy but it really works if you try it.
then after you learn to love yourself, maybe you'll be able to let someone else love you.
by the way... i had the same problem and im still working on it...
good luck to both of us!
2007-02-10 00:36:55 · answer #11 · answered by runningballerina 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋