What is up with this girl?

Question

she is new at school and we talk once. We talk about our school history and religion. She told me she lives with her grandmother and she goes to this big church. She told me she used to go to private school and she had to wear a dress and she didn't like it. So she now goes to the public school. She also said that our class feels like it's summer school. Are conversation ended when are 10 min break was over and back to work. I was leaving early right when break was over. She told me she was leaving in 2 hours. Anyways She said she was a loser and she walk back to class and I told her no your not. And that was it we both walk away and headed in different directions. I thought the conversation was going good, but she was doing most of the talking. Why do you think she called her self a loser for? She sound kinda serious when she called her self a loser. Maybe she thought I was bored with our conversation. Next day in class I was doing my work and this girl ask for a piece of gum and the girl im interested was sittin behind me and she ask for a piece too. I gave both of them a piece and the girl i'm interested said i'm sorry for bothering you and I said that's alright. I was going to say something than she puts her head down and goes back to work. She didn't have any friends when she was new now she has 4-5 friends, but 1 that's really her true friend which he's gay btw. Anyways when she walks past me she won't even look at me. I hate when a girl ignores you like that. I'm not gonna talk to her unless she looks at me because to me that just seems like she doesn't want anything to do with me. In a way I kinda like her. What's up with her?

Answer 1

Sounds like she wants to befriend people but has a problem with low self-image. Just try to be nice to her and let her figure out herself.

Answer 2

Sounds like this girl has some self-esteem issues. Maybe there is a darker reason she lives with her grandparents and not her parents... but don't ask her, it may be like they are dead or something not comfortable for her... Her having a gay friend is OK, it's hard to be the new girl, and knowing that he wont be putting the moves on her in any way is security for her. When she says she's a looser.... that's the part that is sad. Sometimes when your parents or some role model in your life repeats something over and over (ie. 'you're worthless, you're a looser') It sorta gets ingrained in your head and unfortunately you may start to believe they're right. If I were you I would take the higher road and just continue on being her friend as best you can from a distance... She doesn't look at you, maybe it's because she LIKES you... If I'm right about her and her having issues, her self esteem may be saying that she's not worthy of you, and that's why she shys away. She'll come around. Be the little engine that could and don't stop being nice to her, just be your self, but I wouldn't go out of your way too much until she gives a little back. But overall her shy actions (asking for gum) say that she likes you. Keep it up!!

Answer 3

You should talk to her. A lot of girls have low self-esteem. Especially if they don`t have a ton of friends. She might not want you to think she likes you or whatever. Maybe she`s afriad you`ll make fun of her, who knows? Just talk to her and see how that goes. Don`t bring up that loser thing, but try to make her feel like she`s not a loser. Low self-esteem is the worst thing in the world if its really bad, because its you against yourself. It will be like you`re making fun of yourself all of the time. You can`t get away from it and its 24/7 which is stressfull. If you do something wrong when you`re playing in gym, for example, you`ll feel way worse than you should about it and you won`t let it go for a long time.

Answer 4

I think that maybe you weren't giving her enough attention while you talked. As in, you might not have seemed interested in the things she said. Did you look around at the surroundings instead of at her? Did you sigh alot like you couldn't wait for her to get done talking? Did you at least respond with a nod or anything while she spoke? Make her feeling like you were listening. maybe she felt like an idiot for talking so much and felt that you didn't care what she had to say to begin with.
That's the only thing I can think of as to why she's acting weird.

I think she's leaving the ball in your court. I think you should make the next move. Do something to let her know you like her, like invite her out somewhere.

Answer 5

From experience she tinks that you dont like her or that someone told her a rumor about you that wasnt true! SO, my advice is go up to her and talk to her first. If you really like her, then tell her. All that she can do is still not talk to you. But you have a 50/50 shot that she likes u back.ANd if you just wanna be friends then tell her that. Just dont keep goin the way your goin or ur gonna hav to live like that for the rest of the time u two are goin to the sam school.

Answer 6

She is shy and she thinks that if she acts too interested in you, then it might scare you off and she doesnt have very good communication skills yet. SHe doesnt know how to keep everything light and friendly and "lighten up !" Confidence in making friends come little by little.
Help her to gain her confidence by saying Hi all the time. Let her continue the conversation in her own pace,eg when she is not too scared.

Answer 7

sounds to me , like she wants your attention first .
and might have some self-image issues .
and called herself a loser , to see if you would remind her that she isnt .
she's probably looking for someone to make her feel special .
and she just doesnt wanna pressure you , so shes ignoring you .
but secretly hoping you'll come around .

i know she hasnt been looking at you ,
but talk to her .
just be like ,
"ive noticed you kinda ignoring me lately .
and i wanted to make sure everything was okay with you .
and make sure you know that i really enjoy us talking .
and i want to talk more often " .

if she acts weird then ,
then idk whats going on .

but more than likely shes be very overjoyed .
be patient with her .
shes probably scared being the new girl ,
to rush into things .
exspecially with a boy .


hope i helped =)

Answer 8

sounds like maybe she's shy and hard to get to know other people maybe ask her to a movie or to a malt shop or just go walking or ask her to go to the mall with you to look around.she also needs some self confidence she sounds like she don't have any maybe send her flowers and tell her how pretty she is and just flatter all girls like that boost her ego

Answer 9

maybe she called herself a loser because she was talking so much and not letting you talk....if she's ignoring u, then maybe she still feels weird about it....if u kinda like her, see if she has a boyfriend, if not, ask her out....since u like her....

Answer 10

your making to big a deal over little things i saw a bumper sticker the other day "dont swet the petty things dont pet the swetty things"