How do I get my toddler to stop hitting?

Question

I have twins who are 16 months old now, the girl is pretty good and usually doesn't hit or bite or anything. The boy is a different story. He hits me in the face all the time and hits his sister and takes things away from her like sippy cups and toys. He also does this to other babies and even kids who are bigger then he is. I tell him "No." in a firm voice. He just laughs. I gave him time-outs but he doesn't really care and I don't think he even knows why I put him in his crib in the first place. I give him little spankin's on his bum or a little flick on his hand when he hits. NOTHING WORKS! If any of you mommies out there have a solution.... please let me know!!!

Answer 1

try to find a different time out spot where there is no tv, toys, anything that he would want... i have a time out spot in a corner for my little boy he is fixing to be 2 and he done the same thing... i would also take his toys away from him and that also helped.... when he was good he would get one toy back at a time... get down on his level and tell him why your taking them away...as far as the sippy cup... let him know that it is nasty to drink after others... ive told my little boy that and now when he sees someone elses drink he will say nasty drink.... that helped...

Answer 2

Patience, lots and lots of patience. He'll outgrow it if you're consistent in your teaching. 16 months is pretty young for time outs - they really are too young to get it. But there is a little irony in trying to teach him not to hit by hitting him, don't you think? You can give them cute names, spankin's and little flicks, but you're still demonstrating the same behaviour that you're trying to get him to stop doing. (Don't get me wrong, I spanked my kids and I'm not trying start up that debate!) Just be patient and firm, and if he takes something away from someone else, take it back away from him and make him apologize. (My friend requires her kids to 'show gentleness' while they apologize by helping them give a gentle touch, like a soft rub on the person's hand or cheek. She has six kids, and they've all got through this phase very nicely.) Good luck.

Answer 3

I know what I am about to say you might not try but it works. When the child is misbehaving act like a gorilla. Make a displeased sound and flair you arms around. This will get the child's attention and make him stop the act immediately. Although many won't try this because it is not commonly done. Also wash is mouth out with soap when he bites. If he hits grabs his arms firmly. Don't say a word just give a hard stare do it for about one minute. If he looks away or trys to fidget make him keep staring you straight in the eye. It is showing dominace. I find acting more primal towards your child in the terrible twos helps. He will grow out of it but it will take more time.

Answer 4

I do not really know what to tell you but I feel your pain..My son is 2 and he loves to hit people with his hands and his toys and he also will hit kids bigger then him..We will go to my aunts and he will beat on my 7 year old cousin and last summer my 17 year old cousin was drunk messing in our grandmoms wheelchair and he fell back on the floor and no sooner he hit the floor my son was hitting him..I have tried putting him in time out and yelling at him and taking away TV time but he still does it.

One thing I can say is do not hit him, that may very well be where he is getting the hitting from. By hitting him it can be teaching him it s okay to hit, you may think your doing good when your really doing bad by teaching him hitting is okay.

Answer 5

it could be yet she probable would not have remembered that. i think of the main suitable factor to do is to introduce her the naughty step/chair. coach her it first and tell her what its for eg " that's the naughty chair and once you do somthing naughty or somthing that hurts mummy you will get one warning then i will placed you in this chair and you're able to stay there till I say" you place her on the chair for the quantity of minutes for her age. while she hits you supply her a warning do no longer improve your voice merely tell her to no longer and that it's not very stunning. as quickly as she has ignored you warning and hits you returned %. her up and placed her on the naughty step do no longer say something to her however. each time she gets up %. her up and place her on it. as quickly as the time has finished bypass right down to her height and ask for an apologie or a hug or kiss and tell her you like her. this could take 5 or 10 situations merely keep going at it. or you're able to attempt a megastar chart etc and take one away while sheis naughty. good success and persist with it.

Answer 6

stop hitting him. find out what makes him upset and use it to train him. usually taking a toy away and putting it in a place he cant reach works. he can see it, but cant use it- making it so much worse. do it everytime he hits, then give it back everytime he does something nice for the person he hit

Answer 7

Everytime he hits, you take away a favorite toy. You put it in a tub with his name on it, and everyday that he goes without hitting, he gets one back. If he takes something from another kid, you do the same thing.

Answer 8

"I give him little spankin's on his bum or a little flick on his hand when he hits." YOU hit him and expect HIM not to hit? YOU are teaching him to hit...if you want him to stop YOU have to stop.

Answer 9

DEAR
YOU ARE DOING RIGHT ABOUT THE SPANKING JUST DO IT A LITTLE BIT HARD ON HIS BOTTOM AND USE A REALLY STRONG VOICE SAY I SAID STOP THAT AND NO I AND MEANS MOMMY MEANS NO AND I AM NOT GOING TO SAY IT AGAIN OK TAKE CARE AFTER ABOUT 2 TIMES THE MESSAGE GETS IN THAT LITTLE HEAD OF HIS TRUST ME.

Answer 10

treat him nice and compliment him ( abit out of proportion) for his good behaviour. slowly he would understand that his hitting does not get such positive response from you.
its true that time outs and getting down to his eye level and warning etc etc may not work.