I man that I love tells me that he can not be with me. He's been divorced for 2 years now. He had a girlfriend last year, but she cheated on him. He works a lot, and has 2 kids (10 and 16). We are 'active'. He might be leaving in a few weeks for training and will not be back for a year. I want him to know that I really like him, and I'm willing to wait for him. He's 37 and I'm 24.
He kissed me on my forehead once.
Sometimes he kisses me repeatedly (pecks).
Sometimes he brings me a plate of food that he cooked for dinner.
He called today while he was at the store and said "what size shoes does your son wear?" - It was shocking, and then he told me they were having a sale.
I don't know if he's using me for sex or if he just doesn't want to be with me. I'm confused, but I love him.
2007-02-09 15:41:56 · 9 answers · asked by unlikely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just sit down and have a talk with him. Before me and my boyfriend got serious, I thought he was using me for sex. But he took me out to dinner, bought me shoes, clothes and cooked for me. I a guy is using a girl for sex, they are definetly not goimg to do that. Now we have been together for two years and have a 9 month old baby boy. I plan to marry this man. I am 16 and he is 20. He loves you girl. Wait for him. I moved away and we were apart for about 8-9 months. But now we even love eachother more.Good Luck. It is not only for the sex. Talk to him.
2007-02-09 15:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a big age difference here, and he has told you he cannot be with you. You may not be thinking age is a factor in this, but he may think differently. It sounds like he likes you, but does not want to be committed to you. Lay off on the sex and see what happens. If he still stays arond, he likes you for who you are as a friend, if he splits, then he is just using you. You may love him, but he may not love you back. Keep an open mind and don't stop your life waiting for him. If he wants you when he comes back, he will let you know.
2007-02-10 00:01:39 · answer #2 · answered by Katykins 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's hooked on the booty but knows that the two of you would have a hard time as a couple because of the social issues, mostly the age difference. He might also be having a hard time fully trusting women because of his recent past experiences. Maybe he's guarding himself from being hurt again. Try laying off on the sex and see how it changes your relationship with this guy. If he stops talkikng to you when you cut him off you might want to consider moving on to someone that's more available both physically and emotionally.
2007-02-09 23:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by tashley235 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't sound like love on his part. Maybe he is kind and this is his way of showing it. As far as the shoes for your son ... A kind and nice act. If you think there is more, ask him! Don't dance around the issue. At least you will know if he has interest. Good luck.
2007-02-09 23:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by daffodil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't met any female that hasn't brought this subject up to me. I know most of my friends their girlfriends (now wives) brought the subject up to them. That is what spurred us into actually making the move.
I will tell you he has been hurt more than once and it is harder for a man to trust after the second hurt, but that is not just men it is women too. Think of how he feels and be in his shoes for a moment. Once you understand him it would be easier to talk to him and see what he really wants. (BUT, if he wants to avoid the subject then he is just using you)
2007-02-09 23:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by e_bear_68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you feel someone sends mixed signals means it does not worth your time. He says he can't be with you...come on!!! When a man is in love there is not obstacle that stops him.
I think he just likes you girl, don't wait for him. Be friends with him but don't wait.
My experience tells when someone sends mixed signals it means it got no future.
When a man says NO it is NO, it is not like women. They don't really send signals, they are direct and in this case he said I CAN'T BE WITH YOU which means NO: NO LOVE, I JUST LIKE YOU
2007-02-09 23:52:06 · answer #6 · answered by C6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is testing the relationship...seeing if its safe territory...you know...if he cares enough to ask what size shoe your son wears to buy him a pair..obviously...he cares about you...try telling him straight out...
2007-02-09 23:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by AquaxinxMarch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it looks like he's testing the waters to see where this relationship will go
2007-02-09 23:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart tells you.
if you think he`s useing you then dump him
2007-02-09 23:46:27 · answer #9 · answered by Dr Universe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋