I love my boyfriend to death. There is no chance I would ever cheat on him for any reason what so ever. He worries about it all the time, and I am getting tired of being accused of cheating when in reality, I'm sitting at home waiting for him to come spend time with me. I don't want anyone else. Never have. Only him. He has done some pretty shady things behind my back,,,,,,,,,I found out about them, though. So I have reasons to doubt him, but I don't. I don't nag him, I let all his mistakes go a long time ago. He spend an entire weekend with another girl while I was pregnant with his child. (although he says we were broken up at the time) STILL!!!
How do I make him see that I am in love with him and no one else. The accusations are getting old, though, and it's making me question his faithfulness. So, I guess my question is what can I do to assure him that I'm not ,,,or will never, cheat on him?
2007-02-09 15:39:50 · 15 answers · asked by Littlemissy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WOW sounds like a winner!! Anyway sounds to me like he is trying to push blame on you because he has a problem with being faithful himself. Men tend to do that as a way of justifying his own issues, "if she's doing it... so will I". It also sounds like he is REAL insecure with himself. It is also a form of abuse and a way to keep you down and insecure about YOU! Honestly how can you put this much effort into being totally faithful to someone who would, most likley, drop you in a hartbeat for "something new". I think you need to take a LONG hard look in the mirror and ask yourself why you stay in this situation, what does it have to get to before you understand that you deserve more? Beatings, Yelling, More Abuse? You will never assure him that you are not cheating, he knows your not cheating, but he will keep using this as a tool to "see above comments". I hope that you will wake up and take a good look at your situation because you sound like you deserve a WHOLE lot more than what your getting!
Hope Everything Works Out
~TML~
2007-02-09 15:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well surprise surprise. im gonna be the odd man out. some of the things you say would have me suspecting him but ill assume that will come out if hes guilty. now, lets assume he's not cheating. i think that he may have been hurt BADLY by someone before you and has extremely hard time getting over it. that was my situation. all these people who say its guilty conscience havent probably felt that. so IF he's being faithful then this is most likely a combo of fear and insecurity on his part. but theres nothing to do though but reassure him and try to understand where hes coming from. in time he'll get over it, and if not then he mos def needs counseling. hope you get thru it.
2007-02-09 23:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he most likely feels like you are going to cheat because that is what he IS doing. YOU WILL NEVER be able to assure him you are not going to cheat. if he really loves you he will see that himself. he has some emotional issues to deal with. and his fear of you cheating only is a reflexion of what he does. Just be honest and if you can find out where he is so you know what he is up to. and show him this if you want.
2007-02-09 23:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by Kinka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't...Honey, he's accusing you of cheating because he knows he is being unfaithful...The one cheating always accuses the other. He knows you deserve better and thinks that maybe you are actually going to realize that. He feels if he accuses you enough, you will be too scared or paranoid to cheat. He accuses you because he is the one cheating.
2007-02-09 23:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS HAS BEEN PROVEN IN MANY OTHER RELATIONSHIPS:
-THE ACCUSER ACCUSES WHEN HE/SHE IS REALLY THE GUILTY ONE AND THINKS THAT THE OTHER ONE WILL OR HAS DONE THE SAME THING.-
SO...MAYBE HE CHEATED AND DOESN'T WANT TO GET CAUGHT AND SO HE ACCUSES YOU BECAUSE HE NO LONGER TRUSTS ANYTHING.
MAYBE HE IS INSECURE. TALK TO HIM AND TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HIM.
HOPEFULLY HE DIDN'T CHEAT, BUT I'VE LEARNED THAT THE ONE WHO ACCUSES IS FULL OF GUILTY CONSCIENCE.
2007-02-09 23:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by ...guess.... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order for a relationship to work it must be based on trust and obviously there is a total lack thereof from him... Also they say that when a man doesn't trust the woman its because he himself can not be trusted. I don't see where your relationship can go anywhere if he can't trust you.
2007-02-09 23:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by JAngel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he seems to be a jealous b/f and is a person that wants some one to be perfect when he's not.i mean going with another girl instead of you when your pregnant,you should be the one asking the question not him
2007-02-09 23:48:28 · answer #7 · answered by ying yo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would so stay home 4 about a week and then u can tell him why u were doing that.
2007-02-09 23:43:31 · answer #8 · answered by Texas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is insecure, or because he ceated on you, he thinks you would do the same.
I would demand from him to stop doubting you, and express to him how this is hurting you.
2007-02-09 23:44:28 · answer #9 · answered by PRLadyDama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey now gurly tell him that does he really think that you would try to ruin your childs life by cheating ?
2007-02-09 23:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by thing1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋