Notice how I said "receptions". The ceremonies are fine. But I've been to more over-the-top wedding receptions in the past ten years! I look around at all the guests and the expressions on their faces is ALWAYS one of "put-out" boredom. I say, save your money and put a NICE down payment on a house, or take that trip to Tuscany or Paris! Who agrees?
2007-02-09 15:22:46 · 25 answers · asked by "Corey" 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, after reading your question, I mentally went back in time to many of the receptions that I have attended. And you know what? There they are. All of THEM sitting at the tables, checking their watches for the "time." Or, smiling only while being introduced to someone that they will never see again in their lifetime. There they are-"the reception zombies." Obligated to participate in the dreaded ritual of the reception because, somehow, a frilly little invitation found its way into their mailbox. Yes, yes, I even find myself amidst that uninterested group of people. I never realized how dreadful receptions can be until I stumbled upon your question! Thank you for the eye-opener! This will be a useful insight as I plan my own wedding.
So, to answer your question, YES, I agree. Why not opt for the extravagant honeymoon rather than putting out the money to feed and "entertain" people. Really, I hate to crush any feelings, but, most people aren't impressed with the ridiculously long "dollar dance" and the ever-so-traditional (and rather humiliating) "Chicken Dance" that they somehow find the courage to sit through.
Great question! Hmmm...
2007-02-09 17:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by Surreal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the reason and meaning behind the "adults only." The hall we rented made us sign a contract stating that we would not allow anyone under 21 to the ceremony if we were serving alcohol. We didn't exactly follow protocol... our intent was to have a kids room as well, where they had pizza and such, but they came over and danced with us a few times... No one was serving alcohol to minors and our caterer was well informed of who not to serve (or cut off if they drank too much). Your best bet is to have your husband inquire, as it is quite possible that they merely want to avoid having a bunch of 7-10 year olds and are expecting your kids to go to the reception... or they may be required to say that on their invites... or some other explanation... If your sons are not invited to the reception, then you should politely decline attending as well... I don't know what you should note as the reason, but if the 17 year old doesn't drive, that would be a perfect reason. Besides, you could take them somewhere fun like Hard Rock Cafe and have a way better time than at a reception with people who seem very pushy. If you want to opt out of the wedding in entirety, just politely explain that you just realized that you, unfortunately, have conflicting plans... even if you have to buy your sons concert tickets to whoever is playing the night before, so that they will be sleeping in and too drained to be helping with the ceremony... Good luck.
2016-05-24 20:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way, but about the weddings! I hate the length of the ceremony and it is such an intensely personal event that seeing it carried out in public seems to cheapen it.
But I like the receptions because they are a party, and often the reward to the folks who endured the wedding itself!
But I must agree that my biggest thought when I see a large and elaborate wedding, is why did they spend that much money when it could have bought them a modest home, paid for college, created a retirement account, and more.
2007-02-09 15:34:39 · answer #3 · answered by Batty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree! Receptions are a waste of money. You have to feed a bunch of people who may or may not want to be there and leave before the party ever gets started. At my brother's wedding, everyone left at around 6pm. I felt really bad for him and his wife! They could have used that money on other things, like taking a honeymoon without my dad (they went on a group trip to Vegas).
The kind of reception i would enjoy is potluck - you don't spend a lot of money and everything is more casual and relaxed. I hate all the obligatory dances and toasts - why not do something different for a change?
2007-02-10 02:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate wedding receptions too. They are dreadfully boring. I hate the ceremony too. It's just as boring except you can't talk 'cause some dude is busy babbling away about marriage. Will I save my money? Yup. Can you say, "got parents?" We're doing it all snooty boring and traditional. Of course, there is no way we'd be buying a house! That requires a level of commitment to a geographical location that I won't be ready for until I'm forced into a nursing home.
2007-02-09 15:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate receptions too. My husband and I don't dance (we tried at our own wedding and pretty much just ended up looking like idiots for the most painful & awkward minute and a half of our lives) so unless we really have other people we know to talk to (who aren't dancing) we usually book it out of there as soon as is socially acceptable. I wish people would just toast, cut the damn cake, and be done with it. I wish we had too, for that matter.
2007-02-09 19:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by Hamlette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree! Waste of time and money, and a bunch of phony smiles and it doesn't seem fun at all for the bride and groom, who have to stand in the "line" all night and not have any fun! Especially when they are going to get divorced later ... lol.
If I do have a reception, I will definately not have a receiving line or whatever it's called. I think that is the dumbest tradition of all.
2007-02-09 15:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by Rusty Nail 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You think wedding receptions are bad... try sitting through a baby shower. At least you can get drunk at a wedding. All in all, I agree weddings are way out of hand. I have friends that have recently spent 35,000-50,000 on one damn day. My wedding was a drop in the bucket compared to those.
2007-02-09 15:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love wedding receptions, the best ones Ive been to aren't so stuffy, but chill and fun, lots of drinking and sharing your love of the bride and groom,
2007-02-09 15:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by rachelelizabeth_organization 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. My parents were smart, they nixed the stupid reception and my grandfather gave them a car instead. A reception lasts one night. The car lasted 12 years
2007-02-09 16:53:24 · answer #10 · answered by Cybele 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋