My mom doesn' want me to go to the army.?

Question

I want to go to the army when i turn 18 so I can get my collage paid for and also to have fun in my life but she said I'm not going can she keep me from not going to the army and if i do how make her not worry about me.

Answer 1

When I was in high school I wanted to go to the AIr Force Academy after graduating. My mom didn't want me to and I needed her approval so much that I didn't go. I'm 42 now and I still regret it. Follow your dreams, even if it leads to hard times, follow your dream.

Answer 2

As an ex soldier I would say go army, however, things change and so do attitudes, why not draw a compromise and go airforce.
Primarily as the air force is more technical, (some will dispute that) you stand more chance of coming out at the end with really usefull qualifications.
Also the likely hood of being front line is lower, and so though I guess is the adrenilin rush, I prefer to be a live coward though so I chose a career that was strictly back at base, REALLY BORING AT TIMES.
I played soldiers with the British, and airman both British and US,
As for the rascist situation, I cannot comment, but I regularly dealt with the postal service in the USAF and they did get some stick but that was 30 years ago.
Do what you want but do listen to others, there is a lot of fun to be had with the military.

Answer 3

Joining the army is not something your mother can keep you from doing. It is not what any mum wants for her child because of the risks involved.

The army and our forces do a job that takes alot of courage. The army serves a huge purpose for this country UK because without our army and forces, this country would be in severe turmoil as it would have no one to protect us and we would be open to severe attack on a regular basis. The forces dont just go to countries to fight like in iraq, they also do peace keeping which has been successful in many countries, they defend us too, they also learn many skills or trades during their service. Its not all about iraq but yes that can happen. Yes they also learn disaplin which many youngsters dont have these days, and teaches them loyalty, team effort and the list goes on.

Of course a mother will worry, I worry every day but your mother will support you if its what you want to do and you need to let her know you need her support what ever you decide you want to do. She will be there for you what ever decision you make.

Im proud of the forces in the USA and UK

Answer 4

Well, if you can guarantee you're not going to The Zone of Death (Iraq) and its smaller zone of Death (Afghanistan), you should be fine. But there's no guarantee. The situation in Iraq is desperate and they're deploying some people more than once (several rotations). The number of casualties in Iraq is horrific and much greater than the official numbers. For one, those who die later because of their injuries are not counted in the phoney 3,000 number. Those who are not American citizens yet (like those who joined to get a green card) are not included in the casualty statistics. Heck, even some real Americans who die on the battlefield are not disclosed. There are many casualties that were disclosed *only* because the Iraqi insurgency posted videos of the operations and casualties.

Take my advice: if you want to live, stay away from the armed forces. This is not the time to join. Your mom is a wise woman.

Answer 5

I joined the US Army at 18 and it gave me three things I dearly needed-discipline, a skill, and money for college.

She can't stop you when you're 18. You can't make her not worry, because it's what parents do. My parents were worried spitless when I went to the first Persian Gulf War.

With that said, ensure that you negotiate a GOOD skill. I was a blackhawk mechanic and became a crewchief at my first duty station (thus, I got to fly around in Blackhawks). Remember that the better the job, the less you'll get for college, but that doesn't mean it won't pay for it completely either! In 1993, I had $14,400 for college, and used it to pay for five years.

Stay out of the infantry, combat engineers, or MP brigades and remember what I said. During the negotiation of your schooling, threaten to walk out if you don't get what you want (tell them you'll go talk to the Navy or Marines or Air Force or Coast Guard because they all have similar jobs in them). Once you've signed the paperwork, the negotiation phase is done.

Good luck and do some research on whatever skill you choose (as in whether or not you'll be a frontline troop).

Answer 6

i am proud and i am happy to see there are a few brave young men left that have guts, and that are still willing to lay there life down to protect the rest of us that just want to live in la la land. if you are smart enough join any other service,stay away from the army and the marines, we need brave people to keep us safe from are threats, and to get more oil so we can keep driving are fancy s.u.v. but think about it kid look at the ones that are getting killed army and the marines, like i said i am glad they are there and i am proud of them jar heads but people here in the states i don't think have to much respect for solders any more, i believe that a lot of young people are starting to view people that join the service as lower class people, like they couldn't do any thing else are they have the idea that its because they wouldn't be able to handle collage. look at all the branches of the service. you are only 18 maybe take a year are 2 of and see what else there is out there, try the Peace corp. are some thing like that. are teach English over seas there are a lot of jobs out there that can provide you with adventure, and travel, and wild stuff. the military is not the only answer.i like the coast guard my self and i am thinking about joining. am not afraid.all fight ,all fire a gun, i hope this helped.

Answer 7

I have to say that I don't blame your mum for not wanting you to join the army. I don't feel that she is trying to stop you from doing what you want to do. However, my son wanted to join the army aswell; and I did some research. As follows:
1. Pay remains a constant source of conflict within the military. It shows that a fireman earns double that of a basic marine.
2. Levels of recruitment are in trouble and retention rates are plummeting.
3. MoD figures show that 1,897 soldiers returned from Iraq with mental health problems.
4. They have major problems with the standard issue rifle.
5. Land vehicles are not adequate for hostile action.
6. Accommodation in some forces are reported to be sub-standard. A mother of a young soldier sent an email to the media and she said that the army 'treat prisoners better than our soldiers.'
Although at 18 years old, your mother cannot really stop you from joining the army, it may be wise to take heed of her worries and listen to others on here who are trying to warn you aswell!
I wish you all the best at college! :o)

Answer 8

Your mom cannot stop you once you turn eighteen - you're classed as an adult - well you are in England. Your mom doesn't want you to join because she's frightened for you. I understand that, my son joined the paras when he was seventeen. When he said he wanted to join I encouraged him - like you, he wanted to travel and experience 'life'. The only problem was all the wars started when he joined - he ended up in macedonia, afghanistan, northern ireland and then iraq - I was one worried mother I can tell you! Happily he is now out of the para's and doing engineering. You'll never make you mom not worry about you - that's what loving mother's do! I hope you enjoy whatever you do, the best advice I can give you, what my husband always use to tell our son when he was returning from leave - keep your head down and don't be a hero. I wish you the very best of luck in whatever you do.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

My son joined the army and it was the worst thing that ever happened to him. He saw terrible things in Bosnia, Kosova and Serbia - things that reduced him to tears. He was just a kid himself - and there was nothing I could do to get him out of the army. He had to sit there until his contract finished. My son loved the army life - but there is something wrong with someone who can cope with bodies etc etc. The army doesn't do enough to support its soldiers. They train them to kill but not how to deal with it.
And if you want to know what agony is - it's when a stupid conflict breaks out and you don't know if your son is alive or dead. Or worse.
We all need soldiers, for defense. They are not appreciated enough nor are they treated with the respect they deserve.
There is no way you can make her not worry about you.

Answer 11

If you already made that decision, then keep it, but do it for the right reasons. Your mom is just afraid to lose you. She is also afraid of you growing up. She just needs to understand that you are not going to be there for ever, that you will now be on your own. She cannot keep you from going.

If you are doing this for your country, then may God be with you and protect you. Don't listen to the people in here, they are not supporters of the US Army, don't let people like that discourage you. You go out there and fight for your freedom and fight against the enemy. I really think that your mom will be a proud mother and she will start to brag to people that her son wasn't afraid to stand up for what is right. You will be her hero!