My fiance is in the Navy. He is currently on a 6 month tour on a ship. I just found out that I miscarried our child. I was wondering if they would consider this an emergency. He said before he left that he didn't know how long it would be before he could call or write me. I know that he would like to know about this now instead of coming home in 6 months and seeing that i'm not pregnant anymore. I know the red cross can send a message in the case of an emergency. I don't know his social security number though will they have to have it? I don't want to ask him parents cause they didn't know about the baby and I don't want them to know before he does. Thank you for any help you can give me
2007-02-09 15:17:07 · 13 answers · asked by faith16_2003 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
His ship should have an ombudsman to help you with this. If you don't know who it is, ask one of the wives.
2007-02-09 15:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by Julie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. Your first course of action is to contact the Red Cross with any information you have. Another contact point will be your fiance's command's ombudsman. Hopefully he left you that number because she is a main contact point between the families and the command.
I will add that sailors have to fill out information sheets before they deploy. The sheets include information on who they want messages from and sometimes even what instances they want them about. If he put you down on the sheet then the base command decides when to send the Red Cross message out. But if he didn't put you on the sheet then you may be out of luck.
2007-02-10 04:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely try to get a Red Cross message to him. They should consider it an emergency, although it may be a little tricky since you aren't married. You will need his social, but I'd call them first and see if they can find him without it. If not, talk to his parents and be vague about why you need it or just lie if you want. A Red Cross message should get to him fairly quickly, and if possible, I'm sure they'll let him call soon.
Good luck and I am so sorry for your loss.
2007-02-10 04:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the American Red Cross in your area.
American Red Cross communication services keep military personnel in touch with their families in emergency situations. If you want your Service Member notified that your are OK or other situation, you can call the Red Cross at 1-877-272-7337.
2007-02-09 15:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by Burpie5 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call your local American Red Cross. They can send this information quickly and officially. They will be very helpful. The Navy acts very quickly when it receives Red Cross messages. you'll need his full name, his rate and the name of the ship.
2007-02-09 15:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mangy Coyote 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage about two weeks ago, and I'm still dealing with the disappointment.
They will need his social, along with his rank, unit, and other vital information. Memorizing his SSN is one of the most important things you can do with him in the service. It's impossible to do anything without knowing it.
I was lucky, because I helped my hubby fill out his enlistment paperwork--and after I wrote it about 75,000 times, it kinda stuck with me.
Ask his parents--don't tell them why. Make something up. It's definitely critical. It's best he know now than return, expecting to be a Papa soon and finding out the sad truth.
Again, I'm sorry for your loss. I know miscarriages are awful, stressful times. My husband was 3,000 miles away in training when mine happened!!!
2007-02-09 15:28:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be considered an emergency, the fact that your not married makes it a whole lot more difficult. You stated exactly what you need, his SS. The red cross might be able to get around this, so I insist that you try.
Last resort go to his parents, they can get ahold of him.
2007-02-09 15:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by Michael C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call the red cross- they will get the message to him within a couple of days and have him call you if at all possible. You will need his name and rank and info about where he is if you have it. Im sorry this has happened. I miscarried my husband and I's first baby also....but now we have a 9 month old daughter.
you do not need his social!
2007-02-09 15:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by cherokee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is actually an easy one. First you must contact the red cross and tell them your situation. Try to have the name of the ship he is on and any other data. They will in turn contact the navy chaplain who will in turn contact the port he is out of who will in turn contact the fleet he is with etc... etc... It sounds like a long drawn out process but it actually goes pretty quick.
2007-02-09 15:21:34 · answer #9 · answered by pjvthatsme 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 21:54:16 · answer #10 · answered by doolin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider this very much an emergency.
Contact the Navy. Explain to them. Im certain they will help you out.
Im sorry for your loss.
2007-02-09 15:20:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋