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we've been going out for 10 and 1/2 months, and i know he loves me and he says thing out of anger but he says really really hurtful things

2007-02-09 15:15:05 · 5 answers · asked by Breanna M 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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tell it straight to him that it hurts you when he says mean things out of anger at a time when you're both having a casual time. let him know you're very troubled about it. tell him you love him so much but then you just don't know if it's worth it anymore..

let him KNOW you're "thinking" of breaking up.
(actually with a relationship like this you're better off.)

see how he responds to that. if he repeats it again at another time when he's angry, then it's a good time to break things off with him. wait for him to cool down first before breaking up. you'll never know what more he can do if you broke up with him when he's angry.

try not to answer back when he's mad. it'll make him worse.

am not suggesting you try to change him, that will never happen. just find a good time to break it off and get out safely.

2007-02-09 15:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

he may only say those things when hes angry but theres a good chance he means them, but he only says it when hes angry because he may say them more hurtful than he wants and if he can say "well i was angry i didn't mean it" it gives him another chance to re-word his thoughts...

OR.. if he didnt mean it he wouldn't have said it...

OR (again) he may say it to make you feel like you need and want him more than he does you. (this is the more likely reason if he also talks about other girls infront of you, IE. "she was hot" "I could be with her" etc.) there's pretty much only one thing you can do and that is, next time he says it Leave him. Then if he really does love you he will come back proving that he needs you more than you need him, and he doesn't regret anything. If he says it again after that, he isn't worth it. Don't put up with sh!t from a guy if you can find better.

2007-02-09 15:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by Samski 1 · 0 1

Why stay with someone who brings you so much grief when you're merely DATING. When you date, you're flaunting the best possible side of yourself to the other person. Imagine what this guy would be like if you were married -- it can only go downhill from there. /:

It would be more beneficial for you to go ahead and move on if this is an ongoing thing.

2007-02-09 15:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by Slippers 4 · 1 0

You should talk to him STRAIGHT because maybe he is not fine about the relationship. What he said was a very but very gruesome thing.
But you talk about other things he says when he is angry I think that's emotional violence and he is very used to use it on you and you should allow it.
It suppose boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is the happiest time in a relationship how do you picture if you marry him?
Just imagine that.
I think he uses emotional violence and you don't deserve it

2007-02-09 15:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by C6 7 · 0 0

a word said in anger is a spoken truth isnt it? Okay cut out the sex and start for the top, we will see how much he really loves you.

2007-02-09 15:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by EyeKneadPoints 3 · 0 0

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