So, here's the deal. My fiancee and I have been together for three years. I love him very much. We both have things that we love to do, whether it is our computers, or my crafting or what have you. The only thing is that he puts his computer game before me. He says that he doesn't. However, when I ask him to spend time with me its, I am in the middle of this and I can't stop for another two hours. Or, we are in the same house that's the same as spending time together.
Well, tonight I thought we were going to be having some "personal time", well he came back and started going to sleep. I asked him "when are you going to realize that your game is coming between our relationship?" Do you think that I was right to say that? Also, can you think of anything else that I can do?
2007-02-09 15:13:17 · 12 answers · asked by cala 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
K, gonna close this now since there hasn't been anymore. Pretty much all the ideas that are given I have thought of. I actually have played the game (NWN) with him. However, I am with out a good mouse since he stole mine to play. So, kicking his butt at it isn't an option (plus other reasons). I have thought about taking his power cord (too mean for me). Tried ignoring him, and setting time time aside for us. So, I guess all I have left is to take care of myself. Which is why I chose this as the best answer.
2007-02-09 16:32:57 · update #1
Well, tried closing but I couldn't. Give me more ideas if you have any!!!!!
2007-02-09 16:34:25 · update #2
its good that youre honest with him about that
and that you told him
if he is addicted to computer games and does not even have the time for you
then it would be of no use , if you start nagging, its good to be honest ,just not to a nagging point
for now just let him be
if he starts playing his computer games , then do your thing, go someplace else or have your friends and you go to the mall,if he has no time for you, you still have time for yourself, take care of yourself,
if he has no time for you, then you also should not show that you have time for him
if he values his computer games more
then whats the point, youre not happy that way
make him see what youre worth
just a test, try not talking to him, give him the silent treatment, then go enjoy a new hobby with your friends, hang out somewhere else without him
let him realize himself that he is about to lose someone special in his life if he does not know what his priorities are
just stop nagging him , it would make him turn to the computer more
he needs his space, give him his space,and go have your space too.
2007-02-09 15:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, need to work on tact and diplomacy, but you were right in making the statement...if that's how you really feel. And what kinda of game is he playing that takes over two hours. Heck, go buy another copy, put it on your computer, get good at it. Don't let him know you got it. Go online, get in his gameroom, kill his character...problem solved.
Get naked and bring him a sandwich or something. I like playing video games too, but.... ;)
2007-02-09 15:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by unclewill67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has he always liked computer games?? if he did then you are wrong because you knew going into this relationship what he liked. Woman should not try to change man and vise a versa. I know you wanted to go out so go and have dinner or whatever sooner or later he will get the idea
2007-02-09 15:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by iseemen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's good. You have to communicate, so you both know what you want and need from each other. Tell him how would he like it if you were always doing a certain thing for hours or putting it first? Like he does......
2007-02-09 15:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the best thing by bringing the problem to his attention, he might not have known it was a problem. You should just sit down with him and tell him how you feel about the whole situation, come to a compromise.
2007-02-09 15:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I can relate my man puts Internet poker and the damn PlayStation before me. He tells me the same thing we live together I see you everyday. Basically, that should good enough looking at him. I told him if he doesn't get it together I will hide the computer and the PlayStation. Threaten him!!!! Good luck!!
2007-02-09 15:18:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
other then taking our the hard drive of his pc why not try making a certain time just for you and him. tell him this is 'our' time and if this cant be worked out then the marriage is off. this is your future remember and if you dont lay the ground rules now ... well you can see what lays ahead of you.
2007-02-09 15:20:29 · answer #7 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes gambling then he prob has a gambling problem and thats another situatation...but if hes playing games nonstop and it seems lke its not stopping anytime soon then u mite need to talk to him... or u can sabatoge his game with a few viruses : P
2007-02-09 15:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by shanakon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him he needs to put ur relationship b4 a video game. if it gets worse he might lose u
2007-02-09 15:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he want to have "personal time" tell him "OK, Honey, I'm almost to the next level".
2007-02-09 15:17:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋