For Women ONLY....How do I tell a girl that is with someone that I have feelings for her?

Question

Ok, here is the short version. I met a amazing woman at work. We have tremendous chemistry and flirt alot. She has been with the same guy for 2 years and I think the reason she is with him is out of convenience and it is comfortable. I have totally fallen for this girl and want to make my feelings known. I don't want her to cheat but just to find out if anything is there. Preferrably for her to break up with BF. Anyways, as women are there ways that I can approach the subject without being to overbearring? I think there is something there but I think she might be afraid to make the first step...AS i am. Anyways, I don't want to go through life not knowing if what we have is real. I am not the type of guy that is a home wrecker, but she isn't engaged and I feel that we may have something. What do I do? How do I tell her? Should I just come straight out and go for it all or tread lightly?

Answer 1

if you don't want her confused then don't tell her that trust me she will start thinking twice about stuff she shouldn't think twice about. if you think she likes you then i gusse you could but it could start problems. but good luck

Answer 2

ok first thing you need to do is just act casual get to know her a bit more, chances are if you feel she is in her relationship for comfort and convience she probably is... you need to get her to tell you that though. just get tou know her who she is everything like that... eventually she will tell you she is not as happy as she should be with her current BF... this might not take long if she already likes you maybe just one or two little chats

Once she says she isn't as happy or fulfilled act simpathetic wait a day or 2 then tell her you have been thinking about her and what she said (women like to hear you have been thinking about them) tell her you KNOW that you would make her happy and that you really like her. *make this about her not you

DO NOT let her cheat on her current BF with you, that leaves doors open.

Break it down you like her, you want to make her happy, she is not happy now, however she has this BF:
Either break up with him and have a chance to be happy or stay with him knowing she is not happy which would she rather live with?? Make yourself a limited idea don't wait for her to break it off... if she isn't happy and likes you then she has nothing to lose..
GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 3

Ohhh. Your so awsome.....I want you. But seriouly, I have a guy at work who makes me laugh, and I can fully be myself and tease him, we have good conversation, he's witty, funny, older and established, I enjoy his company,I actually think hanging out with him would be fun ....but I do not find him physically attractive. It's depressing. Several times in my life I have run across people like this, if only I could have a mate that fit all those things, AND I thought was hot! So, I think you should just put it out there and ask, tell her just like you told us, if the feeling is mutual, she'll be thrilled.

Answer 4

the best thing for you to do is to wait for the right time because I'm sure they will broke up sooner or later. It's just a matter of time, What i'm trying to say is that: not forever are they gonna last. Besides, if you're the BF of that gurl and someone happened have this urge to make your GF his, what would you feel?

Answer 5

I'm not one personally to try to step on anyone's turf. I do have to recommend, though, that if you do, you just tell her flat out. Don't be weird about it. Just say as bluntly and openly as possible, but in a soft compassionate tone (avoiding the weird overtness) , "There's something I'd like to talk to you about. I know that you're taken, but I like you alot. I don't want it to make you feel uncomfortable, but I'd by lying if I said I didn't care for you on a deeper level then just as friends." Then allow her the option to ignore it or pursue it.

It's simple, I promise. People really try to over-complicate it sometimes. Don't make her feel cornered though. Like I said, verbally express her option to ignore it.

Answer 6

This is what you say, I think we need to spend less time around each other due to the fact that I am starting to have feelings for you and I don't want to cause any problems in your relationship.

If there are any feelings on her part then you have opened the door for her to share them. If not you have been a true gentleman.

Answer 7

I think you should shair your feelings with her. she may be with someone at the moment but if you feel there is something there then why not. she may feel the same way and is like you affred to say something or not knowing how to bring it up. i know she is a co-worker but that shouldn't hurt nothing. like you said she has no commitment with that guy. i would go all out. don't wait to long you may lose your oppertunity. good luck.......

Answer 8

Just be honest with her and tell her that you know she has a bf and you don't want to come in between them, and tell her how you feel. and take it from there. let her make the first move . good luck.

Answer 9

if i was the bf and i found out id rip your heart out but u are your own person just becasue your flirting dont mean nothin sometimes maybe she does it to improve her sex life with her bf

Answer 10

Are you mental? She is with someone and she's a co-worker. It's not you place to decide who she goes out with nor it is your place to dip your pen in the company ink.

Answer 11

you dont let it just flow cause if she is your friend at least thats what counts i know you said women only but from a mans prespective dont ruin a good thing