i feel sad and unhappy when i happen to hear abusive words..? how to deal with it?

Question

whenever i hear bad langugage....dirty words.. the words are not directed towards me however it affects on my every cell.....i feel sad and it goes deep into me reactign on my every thought...my thought are pessmistic , my voice low, and enrgy level down....

i know i cannot avoid these situation and people....how do i remain unaffected by the negative power of the words?

Answer 1

I think you should seek professional help.

Answer 2

Love has a lot of power to heal and change people - selfless love can at times soften the most hardened of individuals and it makes the giver of love experience true bliss. Instead of the negative person depleting your energy - let your positive energy change the other persone. But I know it is difficult to give love to a complete stranger or someone who is being rude - but prayer/meditation/yoga help us in conquering our ego and in remaining detached , so that we do not react to other people's opinions and words. Also on a more pragmatic note - think that we are only responsible for our actions and words and we should not be affected by what others say and do. Each one of us carries our "Karma" with us and will finally have to reap what we have sown - so those who are at the giving end of abusive words today will someday be at the receiving end.

Answer 3

You know, I think that this might be a good thing to pray to God about. It is WONDERFUL that you don't like to hear curse words and abusive words, because it tells us that you have a conscience! It is not so wonderful that it makes you pessimistic and have low energy. Do you mean that you feel downtrodden when you say you have low energy? If I think of anything helpful, I will come back and post it, but right now I can only think of asking God for some help with this.

Answer 4

I think you were brought up that way, that is why you are so judgemental of people. In your book, those who use offensive language are sinners. The only sinner here, is one who thinks they can play God and decide who the sinners are. Thou shall no pass judgement. Did you know, the middle finger means something else in a different culture???????????? You can remain unaffected by the words when you study the sociology of the whole world not just your little world.

Answer 5

Me too. Well my first thoughts are, they think they'r so kool using these words?

Followed by, something bad should happen to those who abuse these words like everyday anguage.

Then, it seems like a hip thing nowadays...should I also follow the trend?

A simple yet selfish and arrogant way to deal with it is....well...think yourself as better than particular in your mind. Yeah, I know it's crude but hey it works. Remind yourself not to be like them, swear only when life turns (dirty word).

Though, don't act as if your'e better than everyone else who speaks like them. Sometimes, it's the way people are brought up that make them so. Most of the time, people just think it's kool.

Answer 6

If it's not directed at you, you just gotta tell yourself that it's not about you and just shrug it off. Even if it is directed at you, you don't have to stand for being talked to in a negative fashion. Demand the respect that you deserve. If someone wants something from you they are going to have to ask you nicely! Just know that you are OK no matter who says what to you. If you are down, take time out and listen to your favorite music, take a nap, read, play on the computer... just take care of yourself.

Answer 7

You can remain unaffected by the negative power of the words if you give back positive words... (namely loving words)
this is possible only when you forgive from your 'heart' the person one who hurt you with negative words...

Answer 8

Well nothing strange about it. We are all blessed with the virtues in our lives. Virtue is to have good morals, sin is what pricks your heart and you dislike it. Likewise whenever we are faced with a dilemma or uncertainty in our daily life we have been extorted to observe the following guidelines:

Seek a verdict from your heart. Virtue is that which your soul and heart feel satisfied with. Sin is that which troubles the soul and about which the heart is uneasy and confused, even though people may give their legal opinions in its favour.

Answer 9

dear samata,
whenever you are supposed to hear that type of words,you hear it by this ear and leave it by the other ear.why because,we cant satisfy everybody's expectation.we should live for us.we should worry about the world.why because the world come only to curse us.it will not come to bless us.
i hope you know,tamil nadu's x-chief minister jayalalitha.you think of her.being a women,she is controlling how many men.for one day how many men are scolding her with abusive words.see how she is courageous.
so my dear friend,you dont listen to that type of words.why because words are not going to do us anything.

Answer 10

For every bad thought, try to think up seven good thoughts. For example, if someone says you are good for nothing, just tell yourself that you have talents and name a few, then tell yourself the things that you have accomplished an then tell yourself the things you do like about yourself.

Answer 11

You and I seem to have things in common...
I realized that society was horiffically evil, and that there was nothing I could do about it. So I rebel against it. Know, as I do, that you choosing not to emulate those who surround you, those who degrade themselves by showing off their filth. By knowing that you do not follow their beliefs, you will rise above their immaturity. I found relief in knowing that I had the courage not to be like everybody else. And it makes me feel good to be different.

--Struggling to be me, in a world so full of evil clones