Do you believe in hitting your children??

Question

I mean like spankings and stuff because Alot of times people always holler abuse but i think that every once in a while they should get a spanking because certain things they do will show them that you aint playin.and they cant just act any way they want to right??

Answer 1

Despite the screams of abuse if you spank a child, I think it can be necessary. I found my older daughter would push and push and push the boundaries... each time pushing further... eventually she would do something that needed to be punished. I spanked her twice. Once she said, after we were done, "Thanks Mommy I needed that." My hand usually hurt more than the bottom!

Usually I found other ways to punish. Once, I spanked her for doing something outrageous. While she napped after, I went into her room and removed every single toy. Bread and water for dinner. She was not allowed to participate in the Peace Parade the next day. Had to stay in her room. She was 7. When she woke up from her nap, her room was back to normal and her favourite meal was up for dinner. That was big time punishment and only happened once. Neither did the crime. (Rubbing bubble gum into my newly reupholstered nursing chair because she did not like the new baby. Then pouring dish soap on the seat!)

One of the problems in America now is that parents have had their power stripped from them. Spank a child and they can scream abuse. Spanking must be very very very rare for it to be effective. Although I have been known to swat the bottom of a runaway toddler... not that they feel it much.

It should, however, be a last resort.

When my kids were older, they made their own punishments. Amazingly, they were often 3X as hard on themselves as I would have been! A few times I would have the one decide the punishment for the other. I had to be creative. The younger watched the older and NEVER even acted up. She learned from observation.

Answer 2

my brother and i got spanked when we were little (I'm the eldest, 15 yrs old), and my sister who's 7 years younger has never gotten spanked in her life. by the time i was 3, i knew exactly what was right and what was wrong, and i was a perfectly behaved little girl that knew her limits. after 2 kids, my dad softened up and is now too soft to spank my sister. now she's a spoiled brat that gets everything she wants by just quivering her lip, she doesn't know right from wrong, she is ill-behaved, and all my dad does is lecture her and give her time outs. she is nearly 8, and she is still behaving like i was when i was 2. i still love her and don't want her to go through all the unnecessary spankings i had to endure before i was even 3, but i do think she deserves one once in a while. i think spankings hurt emotionally more than they do physically, because whenever i got spanked when i was little, it was never the sting or pain that i thought about, it was that i had disappointed my parents. that's what really shaped me. even though the spankings hurt when i was little, I'm kind of glad my parents did that, because i didn't want to end up a brat like my sister. but i know every kid is different, but i also think a spank ONCE in a while doesn't hurt, it's for the kid's own good. as long as it's not often.

Answer 3

Spanking is an ancient form of discipline. Yes, you should spank your children. But do it only if, and only if you are in control with your feelings. It's a typical punishment. Never, ever, do it in a blind rage. Do it as a sentence, an act that needs to be done for the wrongdoing. Then, explain your purpose and make them understand that their actions has a consequence, and like going to jail when you're an adult, they need to feel the pain of their consequence.

Answer 4

I believe in a good old-fashioned spanking when
talking and grounding fail to bring results.

In most cases my kids get 3 tries before getting a spanking.

1. We talk
2. We ground
3 We spank

Most of the time it doesn't get past #2

Answer 5

My son is 15 months and I have not thought of spanking him...my concern with spanking is that I see more parents do it to let out their own frustrations than to actually teach their children how to behave. I think that spanking has a purpose, but it is often overused.

Answer 6

Great question.I did a study a couple of weeks ago.Where I watched how two families discipline their kids.One would spank and the other family would use time-out and positive reinforcement.I watched this for along time (a year).

I notice that the kids that were spank are still misbehaving alot but with the family that used time-out they were nice and polite. But it all depends on the family.

I DO NOT FEEL SPANKING A KID HELPS ANY IT DOES CAUSE HARM MANY PEOPLE DO NOT THINK THAT BUT IT DOES!! READ BOOKS ABOUT PARENTING!!WHAT DOES IT SAY!!!

Answer 7

Hitting a child is abuse, if you say go up and hit an adult is it not assault?? Why should it be any diffrent with a child?

It is a proven fact that punishment is more effective then hitting but the problem is now a days people ground kids in there room where they usually have video games and a computer and a TV so how exactly are you punishing them??

When you punish a child yo uneed to make sure he or she has nothing really to do like no TV or computer, if they have all this fun stuff in there rooms there not really being punished so your point is not getting across.

Another thing is kids who get hit tend to go around hitting others, if you hit a child they think that it is okay to go around hitting people.

Answer 8

Well people who don't spank need to check out the Bible. It plainly states "spare the rod and spoil the child". And I am a motr of 3 and I do spank mine, not always, it depends on what they've done. Some kids are different, but personally I believe that ispart of the problem with todays kids. They are given too many options and not enough discipline. Parents are getting lazy and letting their kids get away with everything so then when they grow up they get into trouble with the law because theyt are used to being able to do whatever they want to.

Answer 9

Yes children need a good spanking once in a while, its not abuse

Answer 10

Pple say spanking is bad. But just look how nuts the kids are today.

Someone one told me once that if you need to spank a kid, there is something wrong with them already. Well, maybe true but I still think that spanking is good cause kids can get full of themselves.