i have 2 kids with ADHD?

Question

i have 2 children that have just been diagnosed wth adhd they are 2 and 3 and the doctor said they are some of teh worst kids he has ever seen with it.

i am a good parent and do evryhing i can to make them happy even if it make sme unhappy i still do it.

i just dont know if i can keep going, i am unhappy lots and i cry almost everyday. what can i o to make this problem not such a big problem in our family.

theses kids are not normal kids, the 3 year old jumps off the roof, the 2 year old has a twin sister who has a broken arm cas ehe jumped on it.
they have punched other kids in our street.
i am a good mother and i do disaplan them. this is also not teh first doctor to say this as i didnt believe it first time so his is the 3 doctor who has said they have it.

i just want to say that he kids eat perfect, they are lactose free so cant have dairy and i am a personal trainer so they do regular exercise and eat perfect caus ei make hem. it is not bad diet, it is not bad parenting. theses kids have a problem i hate to say it but they do they have a major problem. the doctors havent told us to give them medications either. 3 doctors cant all be wrong.

Answer 1

I have a child with autism symptoms and I can tell you that I have heard of a few things that are great for both autism and adhd:

Dietary changes are the single most helpful thing you can do for them. No wheat, no cow dairy and no processed sugar. We use rice pasta and cheerios, spelt white bread - goat and sheep cheeses and rice milk - and home made cookies with Xylitol sweetner or organic sugars (like in Pamela's cookies) and organic juices watered down. The difference it makes is profound and can show a difference in as little as 2 weeks.

Limit electro magnetics in the house, particularly while everyone is sleeping. That means turn computers off over night, don't leave unwatched TVs on, corded house phones if you can. The hum of all the electronics is very disruptive for some children - add that to the transformers outside our windows, cell phones and transmitters all over the place, it really adds up and taxes a child's nervous system. There are great chips that you can get to neutralize the EMFs on your electronics (let's face it, they are here to stay) and the site has information on how it can help kids with such issues: http://www.mybiopro.com/About_BIOPRO.aspx?ID=carolecherry

There are things that you can do for yourself to help this situation. Too often we do not take the time to care for ourselves, not realizing that our own stress and despair becomes a contributing factor to the problem. I have recently learned that my own stress and panic in this situation was one of the things that keeps my little darling's head spinning, as it were. Here is what I have learned:

Boiron Sepia 200C is a homeopathic remedy that has been found to be super for women who feel that every single second of their lives is dedicated to doing for someone else. It is inexpensive and works very quickly. The people I know who are having great success with it take between 4 and 6 1 time and that is all. You do that once a year maybe. Here's a link: http://www.vitaminshoppe.com/store/en/browse/sku_detail.jsp;jsessionid=Y41XZSZCBVCYKCQUC4YFAFQKCQL00UNE?id=BI-7014

Wild Yam cream helps a body build up her progesterone. Progesterone is the happy hormone that makes us think pregnancy is a good idea in the first place - it's what gives a pregnant woman that contented glow. Unfortunately we give up so much progesterone when we deliver our children and it does not get replenished before we have a 2nd kid and then we are really tapped out. Our body and our sanity vitally need the progesterone / estrogen cycle to work properly - here's a link to the topical cream that I use: http://www.mynsp.com/carole/products/guide.aspx?stockNum=4936

We got involved in the Byonetics program - and I confess I am not sure that they work for ADHD, but they had a environmental and a parent's CD that has probably been the most important part in helping me to stop crying and to start to feel sane after a long time of panic and worry. You might contact him and see what he says. He's very kind and caring, here's his link: http://autism.comingbackhome.org/

Remember, you can do it - you can effect change in your own life. You are a beloved child of the Universe. It will all work out. The more peace you can have in yourself, the more peace your children will have. When they are so small, they are mirrors of ourselves and all they know of the world is us. Breath deeply and intention. These kids make us slow down if our drive for life.

Peace!

Answer 2

2 and 3 years old? No, that is way to young to know whether they have ADHD. You need to get a second opinion, or better yet, wait until they are past 1st grade. I am a teacher and I see a lot of children come into the classroom so doped up because their family doctor convinced the parents that the only way to control a rambunctious child (despite the fact that most children have energy levels WAY above an adults) is to give them medication, that these children are basically empty shells. Your children may have ADHD, but it really is probably too early in their life to tell. Even if they do, there are many ways to help the child be productive in any environment. And I would find a new doctor if he is using terms like "the worst kids."

Some suggestions in the mean time....
Set boundries (all children need them and do well by knowing how far they can go)
Provide wiggle time (children need to move, constantly...so allow it)
Provide a variety of activities and toys (if your children do have AHDH, different textured materials will keep their focus for some time---sandpaper, felt, etc.)

If you are doing the best you can, you are probably a great parent. Do not let this upset you.

Answer 3

They could. I was in 4th grade When my mom, Dr. and teachers discovered that I had ADHD. I could not concentrate in school without medication...I was so hyper outside of school too. In 7th grade I started on Adderall...I think it was pretty new then...After I graduated high school and went to college I started having heart problems. I did a lot of research and found some Canadian reports on adderall and how the effects of it are horrible. So I'm just trying to let you know that the drugs for ADHD are not good. They could never connect my heart problems with the adderall but I think it had a connection. Also, Adderall is an appetite suppressant and in 11th grade, age 17, height-5'6 I was 111lbs!!! I didn't eat breakfast or lunch, only a small dinner. I would never recommend the drug to anyone. Oh yeah and my dad things my little brother (age 9 -I know, he's a lot younger!) may have adhd now.

Answer 4

I really like the other two suggestions. Also, look into things like gymnastics, dance, ballet, and karate. They use the same amount of energy as soccer/other sport but also teach discipline and focus that the other activities do not.

Your children are 2 and 3, all toddlers are a handful. But, they are still just children. Remember that raising children is not just pleasing them. You are the boss. You make the decisions. Letting them rule the roost will only exacerbate the problem.

There are a lot of children with ADHD. Talk to your local school district, library, special ed department, and/or pediatrician about things you can do with your children to help them focus and attend to the world around them.

Answer 5

Well first of all (((HUGS))) to you. If your kids are indeed ADHD it will get better. They seem pretty young for this diagnosis though. Educate yourself as much as possible (I recommend the book "Driven to Distraction), and find yourself some support. There are several on-line information and message boards where you can ask questions, etc... The medications are a viable option, though your two sound like they may be too young for that yet. See a pediatric psychologist who specializes in ADHD - they will be the best people to help you find a way to cope with this. Chin-up! You are not alone, and you'll be ok.

P.S. This is probably not the best place to get answers about this sort of thing - there seems to be a lot of people who spout off misinformation with no knowledge of the issue at hand. Again, I recommend going to one of the ADHD message boards like the one mentioned above.

Answer 6

How can a 2 and 3 year old have ADD? I think you need another opinion.

I think it would help if you didn't cater to your kids, cos it sounds like you do. Sometimes you have to put your needs first. If you spend your life catering to them, you will be miserable. You probably need to apply more discipline. Not spanking but methods that will have them to mind you and not make you crazy.

I don't think it's an ADD problem, more of a discipline problem and stressed mom who is too kind to her kids. Doctors are too quick to diagnose rowdy kids with ADD which is despicable. Small children do not sit quietly in place and wait for orders. They act up, get into crap, and scream and play. The whole point of being a parent is to direct them and teach them right from wrong. Doctors shouldn't be drugging them just because they are rowdy.

Concentrate on discipline and getting them to listen to you. Call Supernanny if you have to. :)

Answer 7

That is OUTRAGEOUS! 2 and 3 year olds now! These Doctors that do not give one damn and cannot wait to medicate, just KILL me! It just makes me furious! They have No idea about Nutrition, But they do know a 600 sq. ft. sun porch on the summer home would make him feel better! Especially if WE pay for it! Please, do research! Go to your local health food store! Ask questions and #1, WEAN them off the sugar and dairy! Introduce "FISH" sticks and veggies, cut in funny shapes! You do have to be creative, for sure, but do not let them vegetate them with Ritalin! This A.D.D and A.D.H.D. "Crap", was invented to sell even more and more prescriptions! It is so PATHETIC! Proper nutrition will help you and your 2 little children! Omega 3-6-9 is essential! Vitamins and minerals and healthy food will bring your tears to SMILES! BELIEVE ME! JUST TRY! Good luck!

Answer 8

at least they don't have a serious birth defect. calm down. practically every ones kids are getting diagnosed with ADHD these days. Someone even said one of my sons might have it. He's like 1 year old!!! personally, I think it's all bull. pretty much an excuse for unwanted behavior.

when i was younger a doctor diagnosed me with bipolar, i'm fine and living a normal life. don't worry about it. just let him be himself


Kids just don't jump off roofs or punch other kids. you need to SERIOUSLY disipline these brats. dont be scared. i got twins myself and i know it's tough, but you seem like you could be handling it better. how did your kid get on the roof? think about that.

Answer 9

sign your kids up for a sport or activity that requires a lot of energy. Soccer, hockey, etc. This will help them use their energy and may also help in calming them down at home since they will be more tired from running around all day.

Answer 10

there is an online forum for people with adhd & their families - www.addforums.com - they have lots of advice & and friendly support