Parents.............How to deal with it?

Question

my mom ran away from her parents, because of the same reason i want to. How do u deal with the fighting? sometimes i find myself with my music so loud that it hurts my ears to block the fighting out! My grandma wants to help by getting into my business. I understand she wants to help, but i don't want her to. I have found myself wanting to run away, but then turn around from going into the alley back to the house. How do I deal with it? My BFF is helping by having me talk to her, but its not enough, and i try to go to her house or do something with her to just get away! Is this running away from problems? How can i talk to them? I get yelled at for just trying to tell my so called dad that it needs to be solved instead of just increasing the anger! Plzzzzzzzz help me and be nice about it because this is a serious matter! No bad stuff plzz!
SAD AJ

Answer 1

You said your grandmother wants to help.
okay, let her. If nothing else you need someone to talk to that will have some understanding of your situation.
Maybe your parents would let you stay with a friend or visit your grandmother if possible for awhile.
she could tell them she needs a little help around the house for awhile or wants to builld a better relationship with you. Have some one on one time.
But honey YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE AND NEED A BREAK.
If that idea is not an option find a hobby, part time job, anything to get a few more hours a day out of the house to think and get a little peace of mind.
Your parents I am sorry to say have to work these things out on thier own.
I am just sorry to say it may or may not get better.
It sounds like you are describing my parents.

Answer 2

Aw, you're going through some really rough times but try and stick them out. Your mother ran away from her parents because of the same reason that you are going through, did you tell her that? Also consider your future, running away from your parents rarely ends well. I understand the need to run away, I felt that many times before, but just wait a little while. Things may not necessarily get better but if you can make it through your schooling years before you move out, that's already a big push forward. How can you pay for college without a home to stay at and a family to support you? I know it's a bumpy ride now but keep doing what you are doing and stay strong. If you need to get away, try taking long walks or unleashing some frustration by playing sports. It's a great way for some alone time and a chance to make new friends.

Answer 3

I am so sorry for you are you close to 18 so you can maybe go away to college or get a job and eventual move away. Please don't run away especially if you have no where to go. What about you grand parents or older siblings aunts , uncles ,cousins some one who can stand up for you or that you can stay with.. Try a high school counsler maybe they can direct you some where. If there is other abuse happening to you physical , sexual whatever go to social services but be prepared they can remove you from the home ,but in those situations it is better then the abuse. How about a one on one with your mom and tell her how you are hurting out side the house some where ..... Good luck and God bless you

also know that none of this is your fault tell your mom she is driving you to follow in her running away foot steps...

Answer 4

be smart about this, if you run away what kind of life u are going to have? no no no.
Do not go live with ur bf, do not run away, do not do drugs and dont bust your ears.
i dont know how old are u but when u go to college move out but get a real chance in life and you will be so glad u put up with the yelling.
And if u really want to fix things at home family therapy is the only answer. If u dont have money go to a church and they will help u for free.

Answer 5

First of all I`m so sorry.
Things will get better.
Keep talking to your friends
and even though your grandma may annoy you
she is just trying to help.
kindly tell her that you want
to deal with this situation on your own.
Try to get involved with things at school
or on a team. This
will keep you away from home for a little longer.
whatever you do, do not run away.
that won`t solve the problem.
Good luck.

Answer 6

If they won't listen to your spoken word, write it down like you did here, and tell them exactly how you feel. Even if they don't respond, you will feel better that you were able to express yourself without interruptions. Suggest family counseling, or even just counseling for them. They can't be happy fighting all the time. Maybe if they see it in print, they will take this more serious and really try resolve whatever issues they have. I wish you the best.....

Answer 7

....running away from your problems does not fix them....they are still going to be there whether you are in the back alley or 3000 miles away. You will have to deal with it....go stay with grandma...or with a close friend....

Answer 8

no different from my parents......dont run away it wont help....it might just make matters worse.....once it got so bad at my house i had 2 call the cops......try to see both sides of the argument without them knoing you asked the other.....then try to come up with a good solution and say it to them.....and when they stop fighting tell them that next time they do fight to keep it to themselves and not let their kids know and tell them to put themselves in your shoes.......if they physically fight you should call the cops or it will get worse.......i hope i helped you ....good luck :)

Answer 9

You should let your grandma help you. You should tell her what you are telling strangers. She loves you. If you love her, let her help you. It's possible she won't be able to do anything more than listen, but she deserves your trust. Allow her to know you and know your feelings. I'd feel more sorry for you if you didn't have a grandma who wanted to help.

Answer 10

sorry you feel so down.
perhaps you could talk to your counselor at school.
maybe you should call child protective services. this is a form of abuse you know?
these problems are obviously your parents and they need a good scare to see that all the fighting is harming you. a visit from child protective services on your behalf would at least make them realize that they are terrifying you and that they need to get counseling.