I am planning to ask my girlfriend of 5 years to marry me. We have lived together for 4 of the 5 years.
She is pretty picky about what she wears and I am in no way qualified to pick a ring and would much rather pick one out together, but I don't want to do it till after I propose so it can be a surprise.
Is this ok or would I be in trouble if I proposed and and didn't have a ring?
2007-02-09 14:28:54 · 17 answers · asked by tomaswk 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It would be perfectly fine!! I hope my boyfriend does the same. We've talked about the wedding, etc., just no ring yet! Though I would love him and marry him regardless, I would like to have a say. I can not have a high, raised diamond like the traditional 1 karat as I will get it caught on everything and could lose my finger so I would prefer to have a say in picking it. Could she have a concern like that with her occupation? If so, it is especailly important she help pick it out! Give her a cute costume ring to start, and mke sure she knows it's just the starter!
Question for you now - if she was hinting at a proposal and left a picture out of the exact ring she wanted, would that offend you? If it was in the price range she knew you wanted to spend?
2007-02-09 17:27:07 · answer #1 · answered by Baby boy arrived March 7th! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think you need a ring to propose, but I can't speak for your girlfriend. You could just get a cheap ring, and then pick out a more expensive one together. She might appreciate having something to wear right away, but I think you have a good idea to let her choose a ring that she would like.
2007-02-09 15:44:51 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be cute to use a "stunt ring" like a little girl's costume jewelry ring or a cigar ring for the proposal and then take her shopping to pick out her ring together. That's way better than buying her a ring she doesn't like.
2007-02-09 14:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
A new trend is men proposing with a loose diamond. Then they can go choose a setting together.
That could be an option if you really want to let her choose her perfect ring. Plus then at least she has something sparkly right away!
Good luck and congratulations!
2007-02-09 16:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU propose to her, and l love the cracker box ring idea!!
or the gum ball ring!!
And tell her the most romantic thing you can imagine is going shopping with her to pick out the perfect ring for your forever together.
I'm so picky too! my husband proposed, and I went and bought the ring myself!
after 10 years of marriage, we were in the mall, and he took me into a jewelry store and asked me to to marry him all over again, and for me to pick out the ring with him. ahhhhhhhh!!!
I'm so picky my poor husband won't buy me anything for fear of rejection.
It's perfectly fine to propose w/o a ring.
And then set a date to go ring shopping.
********Or better yet, have a magazine and cut out a photos of rings and put them in the ring box!!!!****************
Tell her, it's her hand, and she will be the one wearing the ring forever and you want her to have exactly what she wants.
Don't say cuz you are so picky!!!
*** just propose and have a bride's magazine and say, what kind of ring would have you always dreamed about?
****if she's anything like me, she's already been to the jewelry store, and has had her eye on a ring for a long, long time.
A girl knows exactly what ring she wants.
Ask her to marry you, and it's so romantic that you want her to choose her own ring.
that means her satisfaction comes before you need for the material!!!
I'd love for someone to surprise me, but I'm expecting something else, I totally get why you wouldn't want to buy the ring!
!! So, I now cut out photos of what i like!!
2007-02-09 14:49:57 · answer #5 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ring in the finger of a woman is only an indication to other men that she is engaged. If the girl is steadfast about you even if she does not wear a ring she will turn down the approaches of other men
2007-02-09 18:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by KNOWALL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naw but she will expect it....most jewelry places will let you return/exchange for a set period...just ask'em. The tradition of giving a diamond engagement ring was started not too long ago in what I think had to be one of the most brilliant marketing campaigns in history by De Beers. De Beers just happens to have the market cornered on diamonds by the way.
2007-02-09 15:23:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys have been together long enough to have talked about it. Have her choose something with a girlfriend and you talk to the friend and get an idea. She should love it no matter what. I am curious what you have planned for the proposal???
2007-02-09 14:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by Moans33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a notion ring is the engagement ring ... this is worn on the left ring finger. as quickly as you have a marriage band, it is going on first and then the engagement ring is going on after it. i'm valuable there are some men who will placed on an engagement ring, besides the indisputable fact that it's not worry-loose. purely like the bride's wedding ceremony band, the groom's will circulate on the left ring finger.
2016-09-28 21:51:16 · answer #9 · answered by doolin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of couple pick out rings together... my fiance and I did it that way so I could have what I wanted.
2007-02-09 17:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by wonderful1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋