I was with Adamfor a year and 8 months and then we broke up 'casue he cheated. then I met another guy with whom I've been three months with and I was absolutely crazy about him but it didn't work out. Since me and Adam broke up, which was 5 months ago, we still talk a couple of times a day. I know he's really in love with me and can't imagine being with another girl. I love him to, can't image not talking to him everyday. I'm thinking about maybe getting back with him but I'm not attracted to him sexually. I don't want to have sex with him like at all. I keep rejecting him. I don't know if it's because I was with the other guy and it's just too soon (we broke up a month ago) or i don't find him desirable. For now he's not desirable ti me at all. So how can I go back to him when I don't want to sleep with him. what's up?
2007-02-09 14:15:37 · 10 answers · asked by maya 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're just bored. It's obvious you don't want to go back with him, so don't jerk him around. Just move on. Why go back with someone that you really aren't attracted to? Just cause there's nothing else to do?
2007-02-09 14:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by Big Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get back with him. Why would you do that? He cheated on you, Cheating is the worse thing that anyone can every do, the strongest sign of disrespect in a relationship. Forget him.
You dont want to have sex with him, because You dont like him. Because if you like him, you would be all over him. I feel like you only like his company. since you mention that you can't imagine now 'talking' to him everyday. There are many other guys on this earth, that you can grow emotionally AND physically attracted to, and that the type that you should look for, instead of a cheater.
2007-02-09 14:22:29 · answer #2 · answered by Saphire04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should respect your body and not have sex with anyone till you get married and if this guy cheated on you you need to move on. Sounds to me like you two are playing games with each other he wants to see how far you will let him go and still take him back and you want to see how long you can punish him by not sleeping with him and have him still come around. You need to value yourself and know this guy doesn't measure up and date some others and find out what types of guys you like and what qualities you don't don't just settle go out and explore but don't have sex till you get married.
2007-02-09 14:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by Sara G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that you don't want to have sex with him because you know that he cheated on you before? I think that could have a big impact on how you feel about him sexually, even if you do forgive him. If you don't want to have sex, please by all means, DON'T!!!! Also, please trust your gut instinct...I know you said you don't think can imagine being with another girl, but maybe he is acting that way because he know he messed up and he wants you back. Guys often get jealous when they know another guy has gotten close to their girl or ex girl...so now it may be a challenge to him to try to get you back. That's not to say he doesn't care about you...he might love and care about you. But that doesn't ensure he won't cheat again. Trust your gut and guard your heart.
2007-02-09 14:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by mzstorm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things have happened and your feelings have changed. Sometimes we can't go back to the way it was before. Go with your feelings and see if you and he can even be friends now instead of lovers. There's nothing wrong with you for feeling this way now, so don't beat yourself up over it. You'll find a true love again, just may not be in your old love.
2007-02-09 14:25:44 · answer #5 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont have sex with someone you are not attracted to, EVER! You are special and should only give that to someone you love and are attracted to because if you are not attracted to him it will become you giving and getting nothing in return and with age, if you last, you will start looking outside the relationship. Believe it o not there is someone out there who you will love and be attracted to. He sounds like a friend its ok to just be friends thats what dating is for so find out if you are compatible.
2007-02-09 14:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by sammie29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, the situation will probably resolve itself, because if you won't sleep with him, he will leave. I say "unfortunately" but actually that may be the best thing for you. I do NOT suggest that you sleep with him, just to keep him around. You would regret doing that.
2007-02-09 14:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by DadOnline 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are not ready to have sex, and if he truly loves and respects you, he will wait until you are ready. If he pressures you to do something you aren't ready for, he is not for you.
2007-02-09 14:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by half_pint122000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he likes u he will want to get back. sex or not
2007-02-09 14:21:31 · answer #9 · answered by beach girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
juse have sex with him ok
2007-02-11 11:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by kevin d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋