My boyfriend and I are getting ready for our Jack and Jill baby shower.... I slipped into conversation with one of his friends that that specific invite was going to be addressed to him, not him and his girlfriend.... A choice that my boyfriend supported me in as we discussed that we were only going to invite people that we both wanted there. I hate his friend's GF so therefore she is not invited. Its our house and our occasion, this is not out of line in my point of view. Please someone correct me if I am wrong.
2007-02-09 13:59:20 · 6 answers · asked by Miss. Persephone 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If they live together then excluding her was rude. If they don't, then you can invite just him but remember that it's his choice if he wants to attend or not and you need to decide if possibly creating ill will by excluding her will be worth it in the long run.
2007-02-09 14:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Is she a drunk? Is she loud and rude? Does she start fights? If so, then you are justified in not inviting her. However, if this is the path you choose, make sure to tell your friend the reason(s) why she is not invited.
If it is that you just don't like her because of the way she dresses or looks at you, then for the sake of your friend grin and bear it. Be the bigger person.
Think about it this way, how would you feel if your boyfriend was invited and you were not?
PS: Nice people do finish first.
2007-02-09 16:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by Froggbitz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is perfectly acceptable to invite your boyfriends friend only. an invitation may be the simplest way to make it clear that he is the only one who is wanted there. if you are doing verbal invites, don't do this in front of the g/f you dislike. if he asks to bring her along, say that it is a small shower and you are only inviting close friends and leave it at that. if he doesn't ask and brings her anyway, try to be the bigger person and don't let her ruin your day.
congratulations on your new baby, i hope you have a wonderful time at your shower!
2007-02-09 14:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by mommynow 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i think that is very rude why would someone be so rude as to let the boyfriend come and not the girlfriend let her come becuz it's the right thing to do and for her not to be suspicious
2007-02-09 14:06:12 · answer #4 · answered by Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's fine if they are not living together. If they are, and you know this girl, it would be rude not to invite her.
2007-02-09 23:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope-you're not wrong if they are just BF and GF and neither of you are friends with her. just be prepared for her to be bitter. and for your friend to maybe be pissed off.
2007-02-09 14:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by Sharp Marble 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋